How will I know if he(or she) is the RIGHT ONE for me?

Melanie Redd

How will I know that he is the right one for me? #relationships #dating #love #romance #marriage #rightone

The words to an old, familiar song come to mind as we launch into the topic of dating, marriage, and finding the right person.

Maybe you remember this song made famous by Whitney Houston…

“How Will I Know if He Really Loves Me?”

How will I know that he is the right one for me? #relationships #dating #love #romance #marriage #rightone

How’s a girl to know if she has found the man she’s to marry?

Or, how’s a guy to know that he has met his future wife?

Having some young adults in my home and in my immediate sphere of influence, I thought it might be a fun topic to cover as we move into the spring and the wedding season.

I also have talked to many of you (who aren’t quite so young) who are also considering dating again or marrying again.

How will I know if he/she is right for me? 

Truly, how do I know that they are “the one” for me?

How will I know that he is the right one for me? #relationships #dating #love #romance #marriage #rightone

So often, people answer these questions with an answer that I understand but really don’t like – “You’ll just know.”

This is true.

You will KNOW – deep within your heart.

However, I think there is so much more to this answer.

Over the next 7 weeks, we will consider several additional ways that you can truly know that a person is good for you to date, get involved with, or marry.

I’ve talked to many happily married couples, read many wonderful books on this topic. Also, I’m enjoying my 27th year with my husband.

I’ll be sharing the wisdom of many folks that I respect, the wisdom of some great resources, and some of the things I’ve learned in my own marriage relationship.

This one comes in the form of a question.

Real peace is freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. To be at peace is to be calm, relaxed, and filled with great contentment in your relationship.

When you are with the right person, you should be able to completely be yourself.

You shouldn’t have to put on airs, pretend, or be something you are not.

If you have found the right person, there should be a calmness and a complete freedom both when you are with them and when you are not.

Kendall was in a serious dating relationship with Russell. They were headed towards the altar. She was beautiful; he was good looking. They had such chemistry. But, something was wrong.

As Kendall began to lose weight and withdraw, her friends inquired about what was up. Russell put so much pressure on her. He was incredibly sensitive to her actions and reactions, and she always felt like she was walking on eggshells.

They were both amazing people, but they did not bring out the best in each other.

Kendall was never able to relax with Russell. Eventually, their relationship ended and they both married other people. I can tell you that they are both happily married decades later.

Zach was such a likable guy, but he always tried to perform and please the girls that he would date. His parents noticed that he never really relaxed with any of the girls he brought home. They were nice girls, but they kept Zach on edge.

Then, one day he brought Mary home. Instantly, his parents noticed how calm and at ease he was with Mary.

She allowed him to completely be himself. They were a great match and are happily married today.

It’s not rocket science, but it’s a good test for couples – the peace test.

  • Am I really at peace in this relationship?

  • When I lay down at night, is there any doubt or anxiety about this person?

  • Can I truly be relaxed around them?

  • Am I able to be myself when I’m with them?

  • Am I comfortable introducing them to my best friends and family members?

  • Do I have a calm and quiet assurance that this is a good relationship for me to be in?

  • Does this person bring out the best in me?

  • Do I have any doubts or checks in my spirit about this person?

Talk it over with the Lord!

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

Philippians 4:6, NLT

How will I know that he is the right one for me? #relationships #dating #love #romance #marriage #rightone

If you have insights to share, I’d love to hear from you!

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