Why Many Women Continue To Lose In Relationships. - Impacting Righteously
Women continue to lose by giving away their power to men. A man naturally would become what he needs to become if a woman would require him to do so. Some women will not require a man to measure up before they sleep with him, date him, or marry him. Women give their power to men out of desperation, ignorance, and low self-esteem typically.
These women often are not right themselves when it comes to morals. This is not to bash women. Everyone makes mistakes and should learn from them. The problem is, many women are not learning from their mistakes, but are continuing to chase idols; their chief idol being a man and the idea of the love of a man.
These are root problems in how some women negatively influence men’s behavior.
1.) Many women do not love themselves.
2.) In addition, plenty women do not know their worth.
3.) So many women idolize men and give away their power (their bodies to undeserving men).
How does the way a woman behave and what she puts up with affect a man’s behavior? Well, I will explain.
God wired a man to desire a woman, to pursue the woman of his choice relentlessly, and work to have her. Nowadays, lots of men don’t have to work to get women.
Why not? Some women are desperate and thirsty, will give themselves to men sexually, and will marry men and date men who are no good for them. This is not all women or all men, but it is a majority of situations.
Too many women have refused to hold men accountable to doing what is right. This has helped to perpetuate the severe deficit of good quality men.
It is very easy for men to cheat on their wives, because other women are often very willing to sleep with married men. Plenty women are willing to put up with their man’s cheating at first.
In addition, there are agents of satan teaching doctrines to men that degrade women and encourage men to mistreat women. Even online, there are men teaching other men, discouraging them from treating women right and calling them simps and beta males for treating women correctly.
You can do a search on YouTube and find these kinds of men. These kinds of teachings appeal to the bitter, broken man who has contempt for women.
Their messages appeal to the boys and men who never had a father figure who bothered to be around. It appeals to those whose fathers never bothered to show them the example of what a righteous man is.
Too many fathers do not properly train and model by example for their sons to be good husband material.
These fathers do not show their sons and other men how to love, respect, and value women. The anti-woman messages on the internet, in music, and elsewhere appeal to the man who wants to exalt self and degrade women. They appeal to men who are lazy, don’t want to put forth much effort, and are committment-phobic.
These types of platforms have far, far, far more men subscribed to them than the channels where a very few men of God are rebuking sin in men and calling men to do what’s right in the sight of God. Too few men have cared enough about the plight of women to rebuke some men’s terrible behavior.
Some women continue to marry, date, and sleep with men who behave badly and won’t commit. These women are sustaining the ongoing deficit of available quality men for quality relationships.
Where is the incentive for these types of men to get right? In fact, plenty men have contempt for women and are dogging women. Therefore, they cannot teach their sons and other men to think and behave differently, because they themselves are a bad example.
Yet, they are married or have girlfriends and are being rewarded by these women for their behavior. They do not have interest in teaching others how to value women when they do not value women themselves.
They do not teach others how to love and respect women when they have contempt for women. At best, a lot of men are just comfortable living their own lives and not concerned about women’s plight. Why mentor other men to cherish women if you don’t care and are mistreating women yourself? The leadership of certain men has been very poor in many cases.
Despite the shortage of quality men, this doesn’t stop many girls and women from accepting and even pursuing men who don’t measure up.
Instead of properly addressing this shortage and learning to be content as singles, many women continue to be desperate to be in a relationship. They remain available sexually for immature and ungodly men. For example, some so-called Christian men are sleeping with numerous women in the church.
They are able to be hypocrites and are not fit for quality relationships, because a woman is always there enabling them, affirming them in their wrongdoing. There are many men in this situation who are posing as Christians. They are living life how they want to live, sleeping with many women who are desperate for a man.
Meanwhile, there are true Christian women who are waiting, waiting, and waiting on a godly man.
Godly men are rare, because often, in childhood they are not raised to be godly men within their own homes. This is true even in some Christian households.
When they are mature enough to make their own decision to please God, these guys are often too spoiled already, and too deep in their sin to desire to come out. Not only that, they don’t need to come out of their sin in order to get all the women they want!
There is a very low supply of good quality men, largely because there has been such a low demand from women for men to measure up.
This is not something that can be fixed overnight. Many godly women are single, have been single, and will continue to be single for a much longer time, because of this. Women need to understand that there is nothing wrong with being single.
It should be understood that every season is to be celebrated and enjoyed. A woman is far better off single than to be with one of the men out there who aren’t fit for marriage. The few decent men out there have far more options in quality women than women have in quality men.
The decent men out there are already getting taken up by other women, because marriage and committment-minded women far outnumber the marriage-minded men who will commit to one woman.
The greatest reasons for this disparity I believe are bad training and lack of accountability for men. Boys and girls, men and women, tend to be trained and conditioned so differently. They are influenced by their home environment as well as society.
In short, girls are more often well-trained in the homes and conditioned to be decent, enjoyable wives. Boys, on the other hand, are commonly not well-trained or conditioned to be decent, enjoyable husbands. Fathers often focus more on training their boys to perform athletically and succeed in their careers.
Encouraging boys to be good at sports and making money does not ensure that they will be loving, faithful husbands.
The lack of accountability for boys and men, and the double standards in society begins in the homes, where some parents are not training correctly.
Many fathers have not bothered to effectively counteract the demonic influence in society that says what makes a man is money, material possessions, and having sex with many women.
For this reason, a lot of men are programmed to perform corporately and sexually, and they believe that they are real men in doing so. Plenty women have been accepting of them.
Combine this with the fact that the adversary is programming people through music that demeans women and glorifies men who make money and have a lot of sex with different women.
Much of the music basically encourages women to prostitute themselves, by saying don’t give it up (sex) unless he spends money on you.
Hip-hop culture is a major culprit in certain communities. Violence, vulgarity, sex, and degradation of women are a common theme in rap music.
Some boys grow up aspiring to be a rapper and or a thug, and many girls think it’s so great and they admire and desire to be with such types.
Also, combine boys’ lack of training by their fathers with the fact that there are actually men online and elsewhere teaching men not to value women and mocking decent men and calling them betas and simps.
What should single women who desire a healthy marriage do?
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”
Galatians 6:9.
The best thing women can do is to please God, no matter what. Don’t lose heart. Be righteous examples, continue to pray for ourselves, pray for men, and hold men accountable to righteousness. I think women will greatly benefit by encouraging and supporting each other a lot more.
• It is helpful to pray also that God raises up more righteous men to train and mentor boys and other men in the ways of righteousness.
• Christian ladies should be content single and serving our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.
• Don’t settle for less and add to the huge deficit of decent men out there!
If we don’t faint, eventually, we will reap benefits. Let us not faint or grow weary in well-doing. Don’t become bitter. Don’t be envious of women who are married. Don’t be envious of women who have found the rare gift of a truly godly man. Be sincerely happy for her. Do not become desperate, but pray, and in everything give thanks.
“Pray without ceasing. In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
1 Thesalonians 5: 17-18.
Be grateful if you are not one of the numerous women who have married a bad man and had babies with him. Praise God that you don’t have a cheating husband.
Some women are single mothers who are doing just fine, because they have extricated themselves from toxic situations. I praise God for that. It is very important to make wise, safe decisions, and learn to be content in whatever state we are in.
Staying Kingdom focused is crucial. To always honor God and respect ourselves as women is crucial as well. I like to pray and ask God to align my desires with His. This way, He will give me the desires of my heart. My desires will become His desires. To all the beautiful, single Christian women who wish they could meet a man on their level, stay strong, and stay in Christ!
“Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” Psalms 37: 4-5.
