Before Walking Down The Aisle
Making the decision to spend your life with that special person is a huge step.
You can easily get lost in the thrills of it all: the proposal, the parties, the planning, and so on.
However, before you take the step to make this life-changing decision, you need to consider many things with your partner. You would have to be on the same page concerning several issues to avoid conflicts after marriage.
So, what considerations should you make before walking down the aisle with your partner?
Here are a few.
First… Before walking down the aisle, consider counseling.
Before you think of settling down, consider speaking to experienced couples, like your parents, to give you some solid and unique advice. Such advice can guide what to expect during marriage and a template for overcoming them.
You should also consider meeting a counselor for marriage counseling sessions with your partner.
These sessions give you advice on married life and help resolve issues in your relationship and yourselves to ensure your marriage is beautiful for years to come.
Second… Before walking down the aisle, consider your communication.
Communication is a crucial element in a relationship. Therefore, you must evaluate how effectively you and your partner communicate before going ahead into marriage. When there is a communication gap, the likelihood of a sustainable relationship becomes low.
Evaluate how effective communication is in your relationship by looking at how open you are with each other and expressing your emotions.
Also, pay attention to the manner in which you talk to each other, resolve conflict, and the words you use. Be sure to share your findings with your partner to get their take and help you identify areas of improvement. You can consider reading various credible resources on strengthening your communication as a couple to help you do so better.
Third… Before walking down the aisle, consider children.
Find out how your future spouse feels about children before you walk down the aisle.
This is an important conversation because some people do not want to have children.
Children are blessings to every marriage and every home. Knowing how your partner feels about having children helps you further discuss with them the number of children you want to have. It helps you as a couple to live within your means.
Knowing the number of children you want prepares you for numerous things ahead. It can help you to budget for the kind of house to rent, and it also helps you to plan the schools you will want them to be in and saves you the stress of unwanted or unforeseen circumstances.
Most people prefer to have two children to keep each other company while living within their means.
Fourth… Before walking down the aisle, consider family support.
The support of your family is always essential when you are planning to settle down.
They help you organize your wedding, relocation, and other important decisions before you walk down the aisle. Know that your family has always got your back during these moments. They will advise you on what to do and what not to do. This is because most of them have been through your stage.
Never leave them out. They’re your pillars during this stage of your life.
Fifth… Before walking down the aisle, learn to forgive.
By human nature, you or your partner may have made mistakes that have been difficult to look past.
This is quite human, as no one is perfect, and mistakes (whether intentional or not) are bound to happen. However, holding on to these hurtful mistakes wouldn’t help your relationship, and taking it to the next level of marriage wouldn’t be a good idea.
Therefore, before walking down the aisle, you and your partner need to take time to heal past hurts. Find ways to forgive your partner for their mistakes and forgive yourself when necessary.
Doing this would bring you and your partner closer and help remedy your relationship for the better.
Finally… Before walking down the aisle, be respectful and selfless.
Respect and the spirit of selflessness are essential while considering settling down.
Mutual respect will allow you to honor your partner, while selflessness will give you the platform to give your best to your partner. Be well informed that your partner is not selfish and can prioritize your needs before theirs. This gives you a clearer picture of how your partner will care more about your children because having kids requires one to be selfless.
The bottom line is to know that getting married is a lifelong journey. Building a healthy home and family requires endurance, patience, and the above factors. Learn to always keep in touch with your counselors whenever you need help.
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