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A Warning to Mistresses


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If you are familiar with this blog, you know that I often encourage women not to settle for men who cheat, and not to put up with cheating from their boyfriends or fiances. There is a flip side to that as well. Some women cheat on their men too. Also, there are many women (mistresses) who are dealing unlawfully with married men.

In addition, there are women who are dealing inappropriately and knowingly with men that have a girlfriend. Unfortunately, there are far too many women who enjoy being sexually involved with or otherwise being inappropriately involved with other women’s husbands and boyfriends.

As the Bible says, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Galatians 6: 7.

For example, if I were to plant the seeds of being sexually involved with, or inappropriately involved in any way, shape or form with another woman’s man, I am preparing myself for a nasty harvest. I must repent. God is good. He forgives me and cleanses me from unrighteousness when I confess my faults (1John 1: 9).

• When people do wrong, it is right for them to feel convicted and turn from their sins.

• Ladies and gentlemen don’t need to feel unnecessary shame or condemnation, but instead, should feel sorrow about their sins in order to change their ways.

For those women who enjoy or even prefer being inappropriately involved with taken men, they should not be surprised if they end up dating and or marrying a man who strays. Some women may not even necessarily be interested in a man beyond hooking up with him. In fact, some women may not even be interested in hooking up. Their incentive could be simply to feel smug in that they were able to sleep with another woman’s man. This is devious.

I think some women do this kind of thing largely against the other woman. I believe this is one reason some women prefer taken men. There may be smug satisfaction to think to themselves that they are sleeping with another woman’s man. They got another woman’s man.

As if that somehow makes them more desirable or more special. As if they are superior or have accomplished something great. The opposite is true. They have shown poor judgment and a lack of integrity. That is nothing to be proud of.

Some women are very malicious towards other women.

There are women who do not like when they see another woman in what they perceive to be a happy relationship. This is why it is so important for women to be very careful to choose their friends wisely. Also, it is a reminder of the importance of being careful and prayerful to be with the man who is faithful.

A taken man needs to be faithful. There will always be women with low character/ low morals who are waiting to sleep with any married or taken man who is willing. When the man is not willing, it doesn’t matter how many women are lurking around waiting to get him. They won’t be able to get him.

The same goes for a man. He should invest in a faithful woman so that no matter how many men would like to take her to bed, it won’t matter, because she would never betray him anyway. Couples should be able to trust each other to be faithful.

When it comes to some women, many of their behaviors stem from low self-esteem, idolatry of men, and a need for validation. Some of these women will even commit crimes to impress or emulate their men. For different reasons, some women develop a dangerous obsession with having a man. I talk more about that here.

Some women will actively try to seduce a taken man-even when they know he is taken. There are women who will pose as another woman’s friend in an attempt to get close to her man and have easy access to him. Other women may not initiate anything, but they will not say no to the advances of a taken man.

Yet, these women expect to reap the reward of a great relationship with a faithful, loving man or have a great marriage for themselves in the future? It most likely will not work out that way. We reap what we sow. There are a lot of women who do this and they must repent to be right with God and maybe even block a terrible harvest that is on the way.

Remember, the harvest, whether good or bad, is always much greater than what was planted. One seed can bring forth an entire tree. It is important to sow good seeds.

Has anyone ever met a person who would like to be cheated on? Has anyone met someone who would like an outsider to cheat with their partner or spouse? I didn’t think so. I haven’t met anyone like that either.

It is important that we love our neighbors, just as we love ourselves. Since we don’t want to be cheated on, why would we cheat on someone else? Why would we cheat with someone else’s spouse/partner? It is important that we treat others the way we would want them to treat us.

Friends, we do not need to compete with each other and covet each other’s situations, things, or relationships. For those who know and trust in God, all we need to do is put our trust in Him and be thankful for the many blessings He has already given to us. And with pure hearts, make any other desires we have known to Him.

Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, Master, which is the great commandment in the law?

Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” Matthew 22: 35-39.

“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.” Matthew 7: 12.

Used with permission from Petrina Ferguson.

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