But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
-Matthew 5:28, NLT
Public Service Announcement:
A pet peeve of mine is hearing pastors talk about the tragedy of divorce as if this the problem. Such talk reinforces ungodly and unhealthy perspectives on divorce.
When we target divorce as the ultimate evil, then we teach tolerance of all other sins as acceptable. Adultery, abuse, lies, and theft are all acceptable as long as one avoids divorce under this mentality. I do not believe such is God’s heart on the matter.
The focus needs to be upon the sin. When we teach that some sin is perfectly justifiable reasons to end a marriage in divorce, we protect the victims of such sin. Plus, we de-stigmatize those in the pews who have divorced over such sin.
In other words, it is important to remember and teach:
The problem in our church’s marriages is sin, not divorce!
Republished with permission from www.divorceminister.com.