5 Surprising Reasons Guys Fall for Women Who Are Out of Their League - Olubunmi Mabel
In secondary school, I used to be really audacious.
I would walk up to ladies who were already in Universities and strike up conversations with them.
It wasn’t like I was wooing them, but the fact that I could walk up to them was so surprising to my friends.
They all wanted to do it but couldn’t.
Now that I am all grown up, I see many men falling for women who are way out of their league, and it reminds me of my younger self.
What is that thing that motivates a man to fall for a woman who is out of his league when he has little or no chance of being with her?
Some ladies call it audacity, but what is it really?
In this article, we will explore the surprising reasons guys fall for women who are out of their leagues.
Spoiler alert!
You just may be seeing “audacity” as one of the reasons.
Come along, let’s get started!
5 Surprising Reasons Guys Fall For Women Who Are Out of Their League
1. The thrill of the chase
Some men are born hunters.
For hundreds of years, humans have existed as hunters and gatherers.
They hunted for a living.
Many eons later, their descendants no longer hunt for a living but still live for the thrill of the hunt.
Right from time immemorial, men have mostly been the ones to pursue the women they loved.
When we love someone, we make it our personal goal to win their heart.
For some men, it goes even further.
They enjoy the thrill and challenge of pursuing a woman who seems so unattainable that it would even be unwise to dream of being with her.
It’s not just about how rewarding it would feel if she finally fell for him.
It’s mainly about the excitement and challenge of the chase itself.
It’s like going on an adventure and taking a break from the norms.
I remember how tired I used to be of my unintelligent conversations with many of my mates.
I needed something different, and that was why I started talking to ladies who were older than me.
They were usually more enlightened, and my conversations with them were better and different from the norm.
It is the same thing that motivates many men to fall for women who are out of their league.
Something in them yearns for something more than their normal experience.
The thrill of the chase is great.
However, the thrill of doing something differently is even better.
2. They want to boost their self-esteem
Now, this is one thing I don’t like talking about, but some guys actually fall for women who are out of their leagues because they want to boost their self-esteem.
I remember posting a friend’s picture once, and someone came into my DM (Direct Message), gushing and asking how I knew her.
Apparently, she had been tagged as a high-class girl who only moved with popular guys.
Not because she won’t talk to other people, but because other guys lacked the confidence to talk to her.
The funny thing was that she was the one who struck up a conversation with me, and in case you are wondering, I am not popular.
I am just a young man who loves staying indoors, reading novels, and living vicariously through my favorite characters.
Well, to cut the long story short, I felt a feeling of importance rising within me.
I had to squash it.
My esteem shouldn’t be determined by the types of women I talk to.
Many guys fall for women who are out of their league because they feel like being associated with them will boost their self-esteem.
While I have nothing against falling in love with high-class women, you need to ensure that you do not attach your self-worth to a relationship with her.
Imagine what could happen if she rejects you…
You could end up feeling so disgusted and disenchanted with yourself.
And just like that, your self-worth is back in the pits!
3. She is attractive to him
In Nigeria, we have this popular pidgin quote that says, “Who no like better thing?”
It means “who doesn’t like good things?”
When it comes to love, the dynamics can be quite a mystery.
What attracts a man to a lady is still subject to so many debates.
However, for the most part, men will go after women who are attractive to them.
By “attractive,” I don’t just mean being physically beautiful.
Men want to be with a woman who ticks all their boxes.
They want a beautiful, confident, independent, and caring woman with a simple outlook.
What I am trying to say is that all men like high-class women.
And while some men may not be confident enough to approach them, other men will take the bull by the horns and approach her.
Sometimes, we don’t need to attach complex reasons to things.
Guys fall in love with women who are out of their leagues because they are attractive.
And that’s why the quote above came to mind.
We all love to have good things and good people around us.
4. They just love the idea of her
Well, another real reason guys fall in love with women who are out of their league is that they love the idea of her.
Some guys often idealize women who seem out of their league, projecting qualities and attributes onto them that may not be so accurate.
This usually creates a fantasy that may be so captivating for the guy that he ends up falling for her.
To him, she is the very epitome of perfection, and nothing she does can ever be wrong.
In this situation, the guy may not actually love her.
Instead, he is in love with the idea of her.
He has that unrealistic idea of her in his head, and he can’t see beyond it.
I remember a man who used to attend my church when I was a kid.
The man had to be the oldest youth I have ever seen.
He was almost middle-aged but unmarried and bent on marrying a fresh university graduate.
This young lady didn’t like him, but she kept on stringing him along without him realizing it because he was in love with the idea of her.
Even when people tried to tell him he would be better off setting his gaze elsewhere, he didn’t listen.
Well, the heart wants what the heart wants until it is too late to get it.
Then, the heart laments.
He is still unmarried because he has a penchant for falling in love with women who are way out of his league.
5. It just happened
This is an excerpt from a song by Peter Asher, and I agree with the sentiment.
Love can come as a surprise.
Do you want to know the surprising reason guys fall for women who are out of their league?
The truth is that sometimes, it happens naturally.
There’s just this natural chemistry between them, regardless of how many leagues apart they are.
Remember those Disney cartoons?
Princesses falling in love with poor young men?
This doesn’t only exist in the realm of fantasy but also in reality.
That natural flow of connection when two kindred souls meet each other?
It respects no station.
There you have them, the surprising reasons guys fall for women who are out of their league.
If you were expecting me to speak about the pure audacity of it all, I am sorry to have disappointed you.
Ultimately, the reasons guys fall for women who are out of their league are just as varied and complex as love itself.
Love knows no bounds, and the heart may often lead us to unexpected places.
