How To Be The Woman He Can't Imagine Life Without- 12 Simple Tips - Olubunmi Mabel
Keeping a man hooked might sound like a mystery, but it’s really not.
It’s about the little things that make you unforgettable.
The way you laugh at his jokes, support him when he’s down, or just how you’re totally comfortable being yourself, these are the things that make you irreplaceable.
Maybe he likes you now, but it’s just on the surface, nothing extra.
He doesn’t see how important your role in his life is just yet, and you want that to change.
You want to keep him hooked and ensure you’re always on his mind.
I can assure you that it’s not rocket science; it’s simpler than you think.
Let’s dive into some practical tips that will help you achieve your aim.
Become The Woman He Can’t Imagine Life Without Using These 12 Simple Steps
1. Be his peace
Before you can become the woman he can’t imagine life without, you first have to warm your way into his heart.
It’s a gradual process.
And one vehicle you would need on your journey into his heart is being Peace-giving.
Life can be very stressful, and every man appreciates a woman who brings calmness to his life.
When he’s with you, he should feel at ease, like the weight of the world has been lifted off his shoulders.
When he comes home after a tough day, instead of bombarding him with questions or complaints, greet him with a warm hug and a smile, offering to listen when he’s ready to talk.
Be a source of comfort and understanding.
2. Be a problem solver
Some people are not easy to let go of.
Not necessarily because they’re the most physically attractive or intelligent.
But because of the other important skills they possess.
One such skill is problem-solving.
Most often, men want to be in charge, do all the difficult jobs, and provide all the solutions.
But there are times when try as they might, they might not have the answers.
At times like that, be a problem solver.
Don’t just sit and expect him to always figure stuff out for you and himself.
Make his life easier by bringing some solutions to the table.
The ability to think critically and provide useful strategies and solutions for the little and big things in life is a skill that will make your life easier, but it’ll also make you an asset to that man.
3. Be loving and tolerant
It may sound cliché and old school, but being a loving, warm, and affectionate person will always take you far.
Being loving and kind will never go out of fashion.
In a world filled with harsh criticism, vileness, and nonchalance, being the woman he can come home to and feel loved and appreciated will make you his priority.
If you can successfully create a safe space where he can rest in you, where he feels no judgment at all, and where his excesses are tolerated, you will become like his charger.
We know that not many devices can last long without their chargers, especially if it’s an iPhone (no shade intended).
Chargers are essential.
4. Have a wholesome life
Being the woman he can’t live without also has a lot to do with the kind of woman you are as a person, and not just what you do for him.
Maintaining your independence is very crucial.
You have to have a life of your own, a wholesome, beautiful, and rich life.
Men admire a woman who has her own life, interests, and goals.
Show him that while you love and care for him, you also value your own identity and personal growth.
Continue pursuing your hobbies, career, and friendships.
Let him see that you have a fulfilling life outside of the relationship, which will only add to your allure.
Be a confident woman who always stands tall because confidence is very irresistible.
Confidence doesn’t mean arrogance but rather a quiet assurance in who you are.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself while at it: ensure that your physical appearance, personality, and aura are compelling.
He won’t want you out of his sight.
5. Support his dreams
A man thrives with a woman who believes in him and his ambitions.
If he has something that he’s passionate about, it would mean a lot to him if you showed genuine interest in it.
If he’s working late on a project, surprise him with his favorite snack and a note saying, “You’ve got this!”
Be there to encourage him, even when the journey gets tough.
Your support will motivate him to keep pushing forward.
Supporting him also means listening to him.
He’ll be drawn to you even more when he feels heard and understood.
Show empathy, pay attention to what he says without interrupting or offering unsolicited advice, and be in his corner to cheer him on and celebrate his wins.
Be ready to put your phone away when he’s talking about something important, and respond with thoughtful comments or questions that show you’re engaged.
When he achieves a goal, no matter how minor, celebrate with him—whether it’s through words of encouragement, a congratulatory message, or planning something special in his honor.
You’ll be building a mansion for yourself in his heart without even knowing.
6. Challenge him intellectually
Being a sweet, calm, and supportive woman to him is great but for God’s sake, don’t be a yes-man.
A yes-man is a person who agrees with everything that is said, especially one who endorses or supports every opinion or proposal of an associate or superior without criticism.
You’re not making yourself a doormat just because you want him to cherish you.
If anything, you’ll achieve the opposite of what you’re trying to achieve.
Be okay with challenging him once in a while, especially when necessary.
Men are attracted to women who can engage them in meaningful conversations.
Be knowledgeable, share your thoughts, and challenge his perspectives in a stimulating, not confrontational, manner.
If you find that he’s passionate about a topic, that’s your opportunity to strike: dive into a discussion with him.
Bring fresh insights or alternative viewpoints.
Let him appreciate the mental stimulation and see you as an equal partner.
7. Keep things hot and spicy
Fun and excitement are an important part of our lives as human beings.
If you bring life to him, he’ll not be able to live without you.
Make it a point of duty to keep things exciting.
Romance isn’t just for the early stages of a relationship.
Keep the spark alive by making small, thoughtful gestures that show him you care.
Things like surprising him with presents, looking good and attractive, planning a spontaneous date night, and making your intimate moments intense and beautiful.
These acts of love will remind him how special you are.
8. Respect his opinions
Take some time to observe him and see what his personality is like.
Don’t oppose him unnecessarily or act like you’re both opponents in the boxing ring.
Show respect for his opinions and preferences.
If he wants his space sometimes, respect that.
Everyone needs a little space and personal time from time to time; don’t take it personally.
It shows that you’re secure in the relationship and trust him.
9. Bring good vibes
You want to be the woman that if he’s alone for some time, he says, “I wish she were here, and I wouldn’t be this sad.”
Because you bring fun and excitement to his life.
A woman who can be fun and playful and who doesn’t take life too seriously injects lightheartedness into her relationship.
She’ll keep things fresh and exciting.
Initiate a playful tickle fight, crack jokes, or surprise him with something nice and spontaneous.
This playfulness makes your presence in his life delightful.
10. Be trustworthy
He’ll not want to let you go when he knows he can trust you completely.
Any relationship you take trust out of will not stand.
Play your part well by being transparent, keeping your promises, and avoiding playing games.
This will make him treasure you.
11. Have some air of mystery
See finish (familiarity) is a real thing.
In a bid to get him to value you, you must avoid throwing yourself at him carelessly.
People take for granted what they have accessible easily.
He may not value you as much as you want if you’re always at his fingertips.
You have to keep a little mystery in the relationship by not revealing everything about yourself all at once.
Strike a good balance between being there for him and keeping to yourself.
That way, he’ll stay intrigued and continuously interested in you.
12. Connect with his emotions
If you want to be an essential in his life, you have to appeal to his emotions.
Many people will connect with him in different areas at the surface level, but you have to do better than that.
Go beyond physical attraction and create a lasting connection that’s hard to break.
Encourage him to share his thoughts, dreams, and fears with you while you do the same.
When you’re both vulnerable with each other, your connection is more formidable.
Making him value you is not always about grand gestures or playing games; it’s about being present, showing appreciation, and maintaining that effortless, natural vibe that drew you two together in the first place.
When you focus on the little things, such as these authentic moments of care and connection, you create a bond that’s hard to break.
