Take This MARRIAGE Test And You'll See Your Struggles. Literally - Olubunmi Mabel

You know one scary truth about marriage?

It’s the fact that sometimes, we might not notice where and when things are slipping until it feels like something’s missing.

That’s why this test you are about to take makes sense for your marriage.

It’s not just a fun quiz but a mirror reflecting areas in your marriage that could use extra care.

Taking this test will enable you to examine your marriage from various angles, including communication, intimacy, trust, responsibilities, and more.

The purpose is simple: to help you see what might be going wrong so you can do something about it.

You’ll have a clearer picture of what’s going well and where there’s room for improvement.

Ready to find out what your marriage really needs? 

Answer the questions below!

Take This MARRIAGE Test, And You’ll See Your Struggles. Literally

 Test 1: Communication Test
1. When you have an issue with your spouse, how often do you discuss it calmly?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

2. Do you feel heard when you express your emotions to your partner?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

 Test 2: Conflict Resolution Test
1. How often do disagreements turn into full-blown arguments?
– a) Rarely
– b) Sometimes
– c) Frequently
– d) Every time

2. After an argument, how soon do you resolve things?
– a) Immediately
– b) After a few hours
– c) It takes days
– d) We don’t really resolve it

 Test 3: Trust Test
1. How much trust do you have in your spouse’s decisions?
– a) Completely
– b) Mostly
– c) Somewhat
– d) Hardly

2. Do you ever feel the need to check up on your spouse’s whereabouts?
– a) Never
– b) Sometimes
– c) Often
– d) Always

 Test 4: Intimacy Test
1. How would you describe your emotional intimacy with your spouse?
– a) Deep and strong
– b) Fairly connected
– c) Distant but trying
– d) Almost non-existent

2. How satisfied are you with your physical intimacy?
– a) Very satisfied
– b) Somewhat satisfied
– c) Not really satisfied
– d) Completely dissatisfied

Test 5: Quality Time Test
1. How often do you spend uninterrupted time together as a couple?
– a) Every day
– b) A few times a week
– c) Occasionally
– d) Rarely

2. Do you feel energized and connected after spending time with your spouse?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

 Test 6: Support Test
1. How often does your spouse show support during difficult times?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

2. Do you feel emotionally supported by your spouse in your personal goals?
– a) Yes, always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Only occasionally
– d) No, never

 Test 7: Financial Management Test
1. How often do you and your spouse agree on financial decisions?
– a) Always
– b) Most of the time
– c) Sometimes
– d) Rarely

2. Do financial discussions lead to tension in your relationship?
– a) Never
– b) Sometimes
– c) Often
– d) Always

 Test 8: Future Planning Test
1. How aligned are you and your spouse on future plans (e.g., family, career, retirement)?
– a) Completely aligned
– b) Mostly aligned
– c) Somewhat aligned
– d) Not aligned at all

2. How often do you discuss your future together?
– a) Regularly
– b) Occasionally
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

Test 9: Household Responsibilities Test
1. How evenly are household chores divided between you and your spouse?
– a) Completely even
– b) Mostly even
– c) Somewhat uneven
– d) Very uneven

2. How often do you argue about household tasks?
– a) Never
– b) Occasionally
– c) Often
– d) All the time

Test 10: Parenting Compatibility Test
1. Are you and your spouse on the same page regarding parenting decisions?
– a) Always
– b) Most of the time
– c) Sometimes
– d) Rarely

2. Do you feel supported by your spouse in your role as a parent?
– a) Yes, always
– b) Most of the time
– c) Only occasionally
– d) No, never

 Test 11: Personal Space Test
1. How much personal space do you feel you have in your marriage?
– a) The perfect amount
– b) A little less than I need
– c) Almost none
– d) Too much distance

2. Does your spouse respect your need for personal time?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

Test 12: Affection Test
1. How often does your spouse show affection towards you?
– a) Daily
– b) A few times a week
– c) Occasionally
– d) Rarely

2. Do you feel your spouse’s affection is genuine?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

 Test 13: Apology Test
1. How often do you or your spouse apologize after a disagreement?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

2. Do apologies in your marriage lead to proper resolution?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

 Test 14: Respect Test
1. How respected do you feel in your relationship?
– a) Fully respected
– b) Mostly respected
– c) Occasionally respected
– d) Disrespected

2. Does your spouse consider your opinions and feelings when making decisions?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

Test 15: Fun Test
1. How often do you laugh and have fun with your spouse?
– a) Daily
– b) A few times a week
– c) Occasionally
– d) Rarely

2. Does spending time with your spouse feel enjoyable or like a chore?
– a) Always enjoyable
– b) Sometimes enjoyable
– c) Mostly a chore
– d) Always a chore

 Test 16: Emotional Availability Test
1. How open is your spouse to discussing emotional issues?
– a) Always open
– b) Mostly open
– c) Somewhat open
– d) Never open

2. How often do you feel emotionally connected to your spouse?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

 Test 17: Compromise Test
1. How well do you and your spouse compromise on important matters?
– a) Very well
– b) Fairly well
– c) Sometimes struggle
– d) Almost never compromise

2. Do you feel resentful after compromising with your spouse?
– a) Never
– b) Occasionally
– c) Often
– d) Always

Test 18: Priorities Test
1. How prioritized do you feel in your spouse’s life?
– a) Completely prioritized
– b) Mostly prioritized
– c) Sometimes prioritized
– d) Hardly prioritized

2. Does your spouse make time for you in their schedule?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

Test 19: Romance Test
1. How often does your spouse make romantic gestures?
– a) Frequently
– b) Occasionally
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

2. Do you feel the romance is still alive in your relationship?
– a) Absolutely
– b) Mostly
– c) Barely
– d) Not at all

 Test 20: Personal Growth Test
1. Does your spouse encourage your personal growth?
– a) Always
– b) Sometimes
– c) Rarely
– d) Never

2. Do you feel that your marriage is helping you grow as a person?
– a) Yes, definitely
– b) To some extent
– c) Not much
– d) No, it’s holding me back

Conclusion: Understanding Your Results

The answers you chose in this test show where your marriage may be facing challenges.

• Communication or trust issues: If you scored low here, these areas need more dialogue and effort to rebuild trust, as no marriage can survive without quality communication and mutual trust.
• Conflict or responsibility imbalances: High tension or disagreements about chores and parenting means you need to address these issues together and find a compromise.
• Lack of support for personal growth: I believe one of the benefits of being married is having a partner who supports and encourages your personal growth. If you think your marriage is hindering your growth, it’s important you’ve got to address it with your spouse.
• Emotional or physical intimacy gaps: If these areas come up weak, you need to work on building a stronger emotional and physical connection with your partner.

The goal of this test is not to highlight failure but to show you and the love of your life where you can improve.

How Should Couples Use This Test?

1. Take It Separately First: You and your spouse should take the test independently without discussing answers in advance. This gives you both a chance to reflect honestly on your relationship experience without outside influence.
2. Compare Results Respectfully: After you’ve both taken the test, sit down together and compare your answers. The goal here is not to judge or criticize but to open up a dialogue. If there are differences, view them as opportunities to understand your partner’s perspective better.
3. Identify Areas for Growth: Look for patterns in your answers. If you both scored low in areas like communication, trust, or intimacy, your marriage might benefit from extra focus in these areas. Acknowledge them and discuss how you can work together to improve.
4. Create an Action Plan: Once you’ve identified the struggles, don’t stop there. Create a simple action plan with steps you can take to strengthen those areas. For example, you could create more time for one-on-one conversations, go on regular dates, or learn better conflict resolution techniques.
5. Revisit the Test Regularly: Relationships evolve, and so do the struggles. It’s a great idea to return to this test every few months as a check-in. What’s improved? What still needs work? It’s a way to ensure you’re always growing together.

I hope this helps!