What Does It Mean When A Guy Winks At You?- 12 Things It Means - Olubunmi Mabel

I grew up in a neighborhood where one of the ways guys showed awareness of their love interest was by winking.

In Nigerian pidgin parlance, it is called “cutting eye.”

While winking may seem like a casual and subtle gesture, it can mean many things depending on the gender of the person winking, their relationship with you, and the context of the wink.

For the avoidance of doubt, not all winks mean a person is interested in or trying to flirt with you.

This is why we will be exploring nine possible meanings of a guy’s wink and help you decode the message he’s trying to send.

Please read on.

1. He’s Flirting With You:

Most people see a wink as a subtle way of flirting, and they are mostly not wrong.

If a guy winks at you, it could mean he’s interested in you romantically and wants you to know he’s attracted to you.

He might also be trying to make you feel special and wanted.

Remember the guys from my neighborhood?

Back then, just before a guy approached you to ask you out or express any love interest, you may find him staring unusually at you, and sometimes he’d add a wink for effect.

He is trying to pass the message that he likes you across.

2. He’s Just Being Friendly:

In some cases, a wink could simply be a friendly gesture.

Some guys use winks to show that they’re happy or excited about something.

This is especially true if he is your friend and the context of your friendship with him accommodates this; you are friends with no strings attached.

If a guy winks at you in a non-romantic context, it could mean he values your friendship and enjoys spending time with you.

In fact, as a litmus test, you’ll find that the wink happened in the middle of some friendly chat or banter.

3. He’s Being Playful:

Most winks are playful gestures.

In fact, babies also pull off the playful wink too.

So, if a guy winks at you, he may just be trying to tease you or get you to smile.

Some guys are very playful and like to have fun and clown.

If this guy is very playful, don’t be shocked or overthink of his wink.

He is just being his playful self.

It also means he is comfortable around you and trusts you enough to let his guard down.

4. He’s Is Communicating:

As a child who grew up in Africa, learning to understand the “eye language” was one way our mothers communicated with us.

Our mothers had different looks for different messages and you dared not miss the interpretation.

This goes to show how effective winks and other similar “eye languages” are in communicating important messages.

A guy could use a wink as a nonverbal cue to communicate important messages.

On the one hand, if the winking dude knows something secret you are doing, he may wink at you to tell you that he knows what others do not know.

On the other hand, in certain situations, a guy could wink at you as a cue for you to speak or keep silent.

Of course, this can only be effective if you have a great rapport with him.

Similarly, a guy could wink at you to say, “I’ve got your back,” or tell you to run if you are in danger.

These circumstances have different contexts, but one theme connects them: winks can be used as effective communication tools.

In fact, for some, it has saved their lives. 

5. He’s Being Sarcastic:

Some guys wink to show sarcasm. 

If you noticed he winked right after saying something that’s meant to be funny, he might be using the wink to show that he’s being sarcastic.

Guys who tell dry jokes also wink for effect.

This type of wink is usually meant to be a joke and shouldn’t be taken seriously.

6. He’s Being Enigmatic:

Some people just like to hide under the cloak of mystery, and they’ll employ different measures to achieve this, including winking at you!

Perhaps he wants to keep you guessing what the wink means.

The more you try to understand why he winked at you, the happier he is because he achieved his aim after all. 

7. He’s Trying to Impress You:

Okay, I once met a handsome hunk whose smile was heavenly.

Enthralled by his beautiful gap-toothed smile, I couldn’t help but stare at this fine man!

Guess what he did next?

He winked!

Guys like this know they are charming and will charm you.

Don’t be surprised if he throws in a wink, too.

He knows he is confident and cute and aims to impress you, too. 

8. He Wants Your Attention:

The eyes are a compelling part of the body, and apart from sight, they can engineer a lot of nonverbal communication.

A wink can be used as a way to get someone’s attention.

One of the strongest modes of communication, apart from speaking or writing, involves using your eyes to pass on and initiate cues.

If a guy winks at you from across the room, he might be trying to signal that he wants to talk to you.

Perhaps you are making a presentation, and he is trying to cue you in by winking. 

9. He has twitching eyes:

What you assumed to be a wink may be the symptom of a twitching eye.

I met a girl with twitching eyes during my first year in high school.

You’d think she was winking at you if you didn’t know her.

This may be the same with the guy in question.

Maybe he is overstressed, and you caught his eyes twitching but mistook it for a wink.

10. He Is Saying Hello:

I know this is unpopular, but it happens.

People say hello in different ways around the globe.

Some people may have adopted winking to say “hello, I see you” to a neighbor, friend, or acquaintance.

Perhaps this guy is winking at you as a silent greeting.

11. You Are His Bestie

Friendships can evolve into very deep relationships where both parties are in such sync that they can speak without actually speaking.

If you are besties, then maybe he is winking at you because he has gists for you.

This type of gist is coded and for only besties alone.

12. He’s Being Naughty:

Have you thought about the fact that some people just wink for no reason at all?

Yes, and this is peculiar to personalities who are naturally naughty and like to play pranks.

He may randomly wink at you because he is bored or to catch what Nigerians call a “cruise.”

If a guy winks at you, which seems completely random, it’s probably nothing to worry about.

The truth is while most people are used to tagging a wink as flirty, it is not a one-size-fits-all conclusion.

Winking is a form of nonverbal communication, but what helps put it in context is the kind of relationship you have with the person, the surrounding factors when it occurred, and the person’s gender.

If it is a one-off thing, then it is what it is.

However, if this guy is fond of winking at you and you cannot decode what he means, it may be good for you to ask him.

In any case, drawing romantic conclusions based on a wink may set you up for heartbreak unless otherwise stated or expressed.