Forgiving Myself for Trying to Save My Marriage
"I'm glad you're working on forgiving your ex-husband," he began. "But have you considered forgiving yourself?"
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Linda M. Kurth
Linda M. Kurth
How to Help a Loved One in an Abusive Relationship
"No one teaches us how to support a friend in peril. Whether it’s after a divorce, a miscarriage, a job loss, or the death of a child, people mean well, but the wrong words can come burbling...
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Divorce Recovery Book Review: When Happily Ever After Shatters
“It was my own personal 9/11. A beautiful day, not a cloud in the sky, birds chirping, children playing—when out of nowhere disaster struck with six words uttered by my husband: “I...
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An Abusive Marriage that Almost Killed Me
An email I recently received: Hi. My name is Sara. I'm in a lot of emotional and physical pain. My story is a warning—I don't want other women to go through the same kind of abuse I'm now...
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Thanksmas - A Blended Family Holiday Tradition
It's October, and the holidays such as Thanksgiving and Christmas are on the horizon. If you are divorced and remarried and part of a blended family, you may be wondering how you will negotiate...
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Crazymaking: Does He Love Me?
All these things you’ve told me about Jim—saying one thing and then later, the opposite without acknowledging the difference, his lack of empathy for your physical and emotional state, trying to make you seem the bad one in the relationship, encouraging you to doubt your feelings—they convince me he’s a crazymaker,” she told me.My counselor warned me that crazymakers are not likely to change. Here are eight of several types of crazymaking behavior.Crazymakers will-- try to convince their partners that they are defective in some way, making their partner more emotional, more needy or dependent. commit to doing something when they really don’t want to do it and then finding a way out at the last minute. force their partner to make an important decision, then blame their partner for any perceived negative outcomes as a result of that decision. “over-tease” their partners. If their partners object, they accuse the partner of being “too sensitive.” provoke their partner to anger, then accuse the partner of being an angry, difficult person. change their minds, but deny they have done so.pretend to be supportive, but then sabotage their partner. demonstrate little concern for the partner’s physical or emotional well-being. These are but a few of the techniques crazymakers use to gain control over their close relations.
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Crazymaking: Does He Love Me?
It wasn’t until I went to my fifth or sixth counselor that I learned my husband was a “crazymaker” and what that meant. In my just-published memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce: A...
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The "D" Word: Looking at Undeserved Judgment and Shame Over Divorce
Recently, a teacher friend - a Christian - posted an account of one of her middle-grade students loudly proclaiming she was a horrible person because she had been divorced four times. This student...
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Wishing Him Dead ... and Now He Is
Have you ever been betrayed by someone close to you? If that person had been your spouse, the impact was probably enormous. You likely experienced a range of emotions, one of which was probably rage....
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God Loves You More Than He Loves Your Marriage
God wants loving marriages. Satan wants cruel marriages.
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He's Sorry He Cheated, But...
He’s broken your heart and left you for another. He calls and tells you he’s sorry. The thing is, he’s still with her. You mumble something and hang up. Questions swirl in your mind. Is he...
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Why You Should Forgive Your Ex and How to Do It
“Remember, God has forgiven both you and Jim.” He pointed to some of the passages in the Bible that deal with forgiveness.“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Matthew 6:14“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. It’s not a bolt of lightning that brightens the soul and burns the pain to ashes. Forgiveness is a process; one that we must honor with our own healing timetable.” (1) By acknowledging our pain, not just with our heads but with our whole being, we open the door for healing and forgiveness. Smedes wrote: “[Forgiveness] cannot heal our narcissistic resentments toward people for not being all that we expect them to be … Nobody can forgive people for being what they are.” (3)I had to shed the illusion that I could have somehow changed my ex into the person I thought he should be.
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How to Ask for Help after a Divorce
I recently heard a talk on how to help someone who is in crisis. The speaker stated that people experiencing trouble usually want to keep their problems to themselves, and the reason is often...
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Why You Should Forgive Your Ex and How to Do It
The Benefits of Forgiveness Maya Angelou called forgiveness “one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.” Unrelenting unforgiveness traps us in the past. Forgiveness breaks the cycle of pain...
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Joy in Tough Times
If you’ve recently been divorced, you may be in a world of hurt. Finding joy may seem impossible. In addition, you’ve most likely been affected in some way by the current pandemic. How can you...
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How to Help a Friend after Divorce
A close friend or relative has recently been divorced and is trying to adjust to her new circumstances. You know she’s going through a lot. Typically, when a woman loses her husband because...
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After Divorce: What to Keep, What to Toss, and How to Do It
Would you happen to have any pictures you can send me?”
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Overcoming Divorce Trauma with “Radical Acceptance”
Chances are you know someone like her. I’d chatted with her a couple of times and noticed other people had kindly stopped to talk with her, too. But she doesn’t seem to have any real...
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Divorce Transition: The Importance of Saying Goodbye to Your Old Life
After years of trying to fix my marriage, I’d felt God’s permission to leave. I’d been mentally preparing myself for a life after divorce, but, when it happened, I fell into a period of...
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Finding Humor in Divorce
Think back to times in your life when everything seemed to go wrong and all you could do was laugh at your predicament. Divorce humor is like that taken up a notch. Divorce can hurt so much, your...
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The Bible and Divorce: My Understanding
When I was going through a divorce after twenty-five years of marriage, I experienced a dichotomy of responses from the church and other Christians. Typically, conservative churches focus on the law,...
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Letting Go Turns to Gain: A Piece of My Story
Most of us who have been through a divorce have experienced loss. My upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce , includes a chapter about saying goodbye to the beautiful home my husband and I...
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Lessons from Home and Family
Feeling the need to connect in real-time with my brother, sister-in-law, and cousins, I planned a trip to my home state of Oregon with my hubby. I expected laughter, hugs, and catching up. I also...
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Creating and Taming Fear Dragons
I'm pleased to introduce Marlene Anderson, an inspirational and motivational speaker, author and life coach as my guest blogger. More about Marlene and her books at the end of this article.“God does not give us a spirit of fear but a spirit of power and love and a sound mind.” —2 Timothy 1:7 What scares you the most on a day-to-day basis? They can appear like huge dragons or monsters threatening everything we do to the point where we no longer see options or opportunities. The excessive fears we create in our mind seem just as real as any physical danger we might encounter. Marlene Anderson is an inspirational and motivational speaker, author and life coach. She is the author of A Love So Great, A Grief so Deep and contributing author to It’s A God Thing and Heaven Reaching Earth, available on Amazon.
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Divorce Recovery Resources
Topics include Anxiety after Divorce, What the Bible Says About Divorce, Forgiveness, Personal Divorce & Faith Stories, Meditations and Encouragement after Divorce, Divorce Recovery, Divorce Financial Advice, Dating Again, Being Single, and Self Care.For short reads on these topics, I’ve included links to some of my own blog posts. Blessings on your healing journey, P.S. Your comments are welcome on this blog. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issues. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace. Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Divorce Recovery Book
Divorce can be the best choice in those situations.No matter what the reason for divorce, even if we aren’t overtly shunned like my mom was, we often hear hurtful responses with a spiritual ring to them: God can heal your marriage; just pray in faith. This repair becomes part of the history of the piece, which enhances rather than diminishes its beauty.No matter how the church responds or what people say, no matter what trauma we have experienced, no matter what we have done to contribute to our broken marriage, God is willing and able to heal. Guest Author Connect with Rebecca at rebeccamitchellauthor.com Facebook@AuthorRebeccaMitchell Instagram: newrebeccam book link: From Broken Vows to Healed Hearts I highly recommend Rebecca's book for Christian women who are finding their way after divorce.Blessings, Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Healing from Spiritual Abuse Resources
Before we delve into the topic of spiritual abuse, I want to tell you a little story. One day, when I was a teenager, I discovered something interesting about my best friend. We’d been pals...
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Choosing a Church
That invisible "No Longer Welcome Sign" tears at the heart and leaves an already hurting person with deeper pain.Why do so many Christian churches shame and shun their own people? Sometimes there is also fear that the "divorce germ" may spread, influencing others to leave their spouses.Whatever the reason, the victims of this behavior often leave church, never to return. I've been in those shoes. Look at their website. 3. Be wiseLook for possible areas that would make you stumble: the position of women in the church, a personality cult around the pastor, the amount of authority the church exercises in its members' lives, etc.4.
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Marriage Tune-up
And, even though you and your spouse or other significant person in your life may be on really good terms, tune-ups can often take thatmarriage to an even higher level.In going through counseling after leaving my long-term marriage, I was asked to identify my part of our dysfunction. I knew on an intellectual level that surely I had a role, but, since my husband’s behavior was so glaring, I had difficulty identifying where I’d gotten off track, too. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace. Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Divorce recovery help
Through the years, Sonia has supported domestic violence survivors as an advocate, speaker and empowerment trainer.Sonia's website for more information and to sign up for her newsletter: https://www.soniafrontera.com Relationship Solutions: Effective Strategies to Heal Your Heart and Create the Happiness You Deserve (The Sister's Guides to Empowered Living Book 3) Sonia’s book is a clear-eyed look at what holds a marriage together and what tears it apart. She's taught college and university composition; is a popular speaker at service organizations, women's retreats, writers conferences, and press conventions; and she conducts workshops on all aspects of creative and professional writing.Brenda's website and to sign up for her newsletter: https://brendawilbee.com Taming the Dragons: Choices for Women in Conflict and Pain Dealing with huge personal problems such as divorce demands us to draw on all the courage and faith we can muster. I wrote this memoir to help other Christian women who are going through divorce. Linda's blog and to sign up for her newsletter: https://www.lindamkurth.com/divorce-healing-blog Email Linda: linda@lindamkurth.com God, the Devil, and Divorce: A Transformative Journey out ofEmotional and Spiritual Abuse After more than 20 years of marriage, Linda is shaken when her pastor/counselor suggests her husband is a “crazymaker.” This news opens her eyes to the emotional abuse that has been going on for years.
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Domestic Abuse Help
Rick Snodgrass, Pastor CTK - Skagit While writing a few blog posts about domestic abuse of women within the global church, I began to wonder about my own church, a network of congregations called Christ the King.I approached our new pastor, Rick Snodgrass, concerning this issue. Rarely will someone come up and say I’m going through a domestic abuse situation, how can I be ministered to here in my church?One of the ways that some friends at Christ the King Church in Nampa, Idaho responded to God's nudge was to make Christmas special, and to create a safe place to get away for an evening and do some fun secondhand shopping. That means trust needs to be built with victims, and those who are loving on them need to trust the ministry to do what they say they’re going to do.The fire department showed up with an engine and we had a really fun Mr.
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Alone or Single?
Instead, I identified as being “single.” Single is a neutral state, neither positive nor negative. I became fine with that.Along my divorce recovery journey, I discovered other satisfying things to do as a single person. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issues. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace. Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Overcoming Divorce Fear
I'm 53 now, and so scared that I won't get married again, but that is the desire of my heart and I just keep praying.” This comment on one of my blog posts touched my heart. I pray the woman who wrote me will wait upon the Lord, trusting she will find the love she is seeking at the perfect time in her life. I want you to know that, even though you will probably experience some level of fear, with the Lord’s help, you can get through it. This blog invites divorced Christians to tell their stories with the goal of encouraging churches to resist condemnation and become a source of healing and grace. Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Divorce Struggle
My ex and I are not together anymore, but there are some things that we continue to get right, and a unified parenting front is one of them. Without me.The worst part of divorce - if you have kids - is not learning to cook for one, or the identity crisis, or the moments of crushing loneliness and grief. Kelly is also cofounder of Mental Health at the Mic, where she teaches those whose lives have been affected by mental illness how to write and perform stand up comedy.
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egalitarian bible scholarship
Eventually, some might even say "glacially," a push to understand the scriptures through scholarly research grew during the nineteenth century. Today, “there may be a general consensus that scholarship should always proceed objectively, not depending on faith (or anti-faith) commitments, but absolute objectivity is simply impossible. Ernest, "How Has New Testament Scholarship Changed over Time?") Several years ago, I became aware of an influential group of men and women evangelicals, “disturbed by the shallow biblical premise used by churches, organizations, and mission groups to exclude the gifts of women.” They organized in 1987 as Christians for Biblical Equality (CBE). Any indication of gendered activity, excepting the priesthood, appears to be the product of biology and culture rather than bionically mandated.” I can imagine Cady Elizabeth Stanton and the twenty-six women who contributed to the Women’s Bible, upon hearing those words, shouting from their graves, “Hallelujah!
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Domestic Abuse and Restoration
And I wanted to know more about the response of her church during that time, and what her faith looks like today. Abused, Ignored, and Finally Restoredby Lizbeth Meredith I gave less attention to selecting a husband than I did adopting a kitten.Back in 1985, nearing 21, I was feeling incredibly small, vulnerable, and in need of rescuing. So instead I hinted at what was going on. “My husband didn’t come home for a week.” (Translation: The kids and I are out of food, and I have no access to money or transportation.)“My husband doesn’t like me to talk about our relationship.” (Translation: My husband doesn’t want people to know how he’s treating me.)“I’m feeling hopeless and afraid in my marriage. And I got a fabulous job as a domestic violence advocate and later found work as a probation officer, where on a good day, I tell both staff, victims, and offenders about the dynamics of domestic violence and the long-term impact growing up in it has on our mental, physical, and even financial health. I remind young people that when making a decision with lifelong consequences such as picking a partner, it merits plenty of time and attention.
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Is Divorce a Sin?
In a previous blog post, I used as examples Harvey Weinstein, disgraced film producer, who prompted the #MeToo movement, and Paige Patterson, disgraced ex-president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary whose behavior prompted the #ChurchToo movement. The sad truth is that the teachings of Jesus and the apostle Paul concerning women, and other low-status peoples, have been skewed by these translations to mean quite the opposite … women as second class citizens who are not due equal respect and benefits. Biblical verses have been used for generations to back up this view. Following the example of church leaders, husbands were also given free rein to “lord it over” their wives. It seems clear to me that disallowing “divorce” from spiritually abusive churches, and actual divorce from physically and emotionally abusive marriages, kept the patriarchal church functioning.
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Why Paige Patterson Got Away with Abusing Women
Sexual assault by men in power is a hot-button subject these days. I’ve been following several of these cases, trying to understand how they relate to abusive Christian marriages. When Paige...
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I Almost Wished My Husband Would Have an Affair
I almost wished my husband would have an affair. Then, it would have been okay, biblically speaking, to clearly identify what was wrong and be given permission to leave. After years of...
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Spiritual Abuse
Oh, yes, I knew there were certain churches where men treated their “sisters” as less than, but I didn't understand how widespread the problem was or where it came from, hoping that the Church was evolving into a more enlightened institution. Now, on the heels of the #MeToo movement, #ChurchToo is fast becoming a much talked about and controversial subject among conservative Christians and their churches. John Temple Bristown, in his book, What Paul Really Said About Women (Harper, 1988) wrote, “In reality, the words that Paul chose to use imply different ideas from those conveyed by the English words we use to translate his writings. And we’ll explore how the Church’s patriarchal attitudes have led to the egregious behaviors of too many of its leaders which are now being revealed.Blessings, Further reading: https://www.cbeinternational.org/blogs/women-saw-metoo-coming-100-years-ago-when-will-we-listen Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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Breaking the Bonds of the Patriarchal Church
I feel a major shift coming in the treatment of women within the Christian church. I shout, "Hallelujah!" This feels like the Christian women's version of the "Me Too" movement. Women are speaking...
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Finding Comfort and Hope in the Darkest of Hours
Oh, God, oh, God, help me, help me. This hurt is beyond hurt. Jesus, you understand betrayal. You understand what it’s like to be abandoned. Thank you for sharing my pain. You are the God of all...
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Spiritual Abuse - Still Happening Today
You’ve no doubt heard of COVID Fatigue. In the midst of the ongoing pandemic, many folks abandoned their masks and social distancing. The problem had not subsided, but many people no longer...
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Tips for Regaining Your Self-Esteem after Divorce
You’ve recently been through a divorce. Your self-esteem is at a low point and you want it back! Or perhaps you’ve always lacked a strong sense of self, and that’s one reason your marriage...
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How We Tell Our Story
Their father responds by suggesting that his son begin by focusing on one bird at a time, "bird by bird." Do you have a divorce and faith story burning inside of you but you don't consider yourself a writer and you don't know where to start? I've been encouraging those of you who have stories of divorce and faith, to share them here. Linda K. Thomas has beautifully explained why we would want to do so in this compelling meme she created for her blog, Spiritual Memoirs 101. Beginning is the most important step. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issue.
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Tell Your Christian Divorce Story
Are you a Christian who has a story to tell about how your church reacted when it learned of your decision to divorce? Where you shamed? Shunned? Labeled? Just as the MeToo movement has helped the...
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How I Became a Target of Spiritual Abuse
It was addressed to me, even though the return address showed it was from a Promise Keeper friend of my newly divorced husband. My stomach churned as I began reading his letter. "You desired illegitimate authority in you home and now you are worse off than before [the divorce.] You no longer have the spiritual covering of your husband and are open to Satan's attacks," he declared. He went on to say, "I recommend you find a church where there is strong male headship and no compromising of clear scripture." And ""I see you as an incredibly controlling person...God can soften your stiff neck and heart of stone, but it will be His way or no way." On it went for three pages. My heart pounding, I jumped into my van and headed for the freeway where I could scream my head off without anyone hearing me. I hope you'll share with readers here as we advocate for healing and grace for divorced persons within the church. Blessings, Linda M. After sharing some of those experiences in her upcoming memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, she's heard many stories of divorced Christians who have struggled with the same issue.
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Tips for Divorce Recovery
For example, one friend showed up to help pack for my move but ended up walking and talking with me instead, because that’s what I needed most at that moment.My cousins rallied around me and helped me move.Friends called me once a week, invited me to movies, and listened when I needed a compassionate ear. I stretched myself, trying things I hadn’t previously thought I was capable of doing.I bought my own place for the first time, making all the necessary decisions myself.Upon receiving the keys to my townhouse, I claimed ownership and responsibility for it from top to bottom as I straddled the rafters in the attic and became covered in spider webs and insulation in the crawlspace.I tackled household repairs that once were my husband’s purview. I decided not to date for a year after the divorce.I knew I had to heal before I could be ready for a healthy relationship.I was lonely and would have loved to have been in a good man’s arms, but I didn’t trust my discernment.Rushing into a new relationship would have been a big mistake.This turned out to be one of the best decisions I made during my recovery.
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Divorce Fantasy or The Little Red Couch
The decision to divorce usually happens over a period of time ... several years in my case. Often, fantasy is involved in forming that decision, since it's impossible to predict what a post-divorce...
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He Couldn’t Seem to Get It: Recognizing Passive Aggressive Behavior
My husband couldn’t seem to get what I wanted and needed from him. I share this now, not because I’m holding a grudge (that has long past), but to illustrate the manifestation of passive...
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Franklin Graham –Keeping Women in Their Place
World-famous Christian leader Franklin Graham made headlines recently ... not for rescuing souls ... but for pressuring a woman to reconcile with her abusive husband. ( Read the article here...
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Meeting the Earthly Love of My Life
It was on the dance floor where I met the love of my life.
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A Christian Question
“This is well written, Linda,” said one of my critique partners, “but I would never buy your book. I can’t relate to your struggle in deciding to divorce. I mean, I believe in God and all...
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Writing, Rewriting, and Revising a Memoir: Part 3
Mentor Texts and How I Finished the Memoir In writing my memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce, I encountered many road blocks. Parts 1 and 2 tell of the beginning and middle of my journey. This final...
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Writing, Rewriting, and Revising a Memoir: Part 2
In Part One of this thread, I describe my beginning struggles in writing my memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce: A Transformative Journey out of Emotional and Spiritual Abuse . After a harsh and...
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Writing, Rewriting, and Revising a Memoir
In The Art of Memoir , Mary Karr notes that divorce memoirs are the most difficult form to write. Why would anyone, myself included, choose to spend a good chunk of her writing life working on one?...
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Living with a Crazymaker
This quote from one of my journals says so much more than I understood at the time I wrote it. Several years later, one of my last counselors during my twenty-five marriage identified the dysfunction...
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Ten Things I Decided Not to Do Upon My Divorce
Navigating a divorce and the aftermath is one of the biggest challenges nearly fifty-percent of us have to endure. Looking back, I'm pleased to say that, even through my pain, I managed to make some...
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Finding Grace Within the Church
I met Kathleen Pooler on line two or three years ago, and found we had much in common. She loves the Lord, as I do, and she's a mighty fine writer. I found her memoir, Ever Faithful to His Lead: My...
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First Post-Divorce Christmas
Celebrating holidays as a newly divorced single person can be tough. I describe a couple of Christmas holidays in my memoir, God, the Devil, and Divorce.
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Solutions for Celebrating Christmas with Adult Blended Families
Invent a holiday tradition that works for blended families
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My Guest Blog Post Today
I have a guest post on Kathy Pooler's blog. Take a look. https://krpooler.com/christian-non-fiction/christian-divorce-grace-versus-judgement-by-memoirist-linda-m-kurth...
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Deep Wounds: Divorce, the Church, and God
I’m in a good place, and reliving it as I put it into writing, opens deep wounds I don’t want to open right now. I can simply say this; there was not a good response from the church. [This was...
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Spiritual Abuse in the Church
As the marriage progressed, I became aware of the duplicity of his motives, intentions and belief systems about marriage and women in general.
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Divorce Support or Condemnation?
I had not intended to make my mission of exposing Pharisaical behavior in the church toward divorced Christians a gender issue. But, after a conversation with a divorced Christian friend yesterday,...
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Freedom Found Sharing Our Stories of Divorce and Faith
This quote is from an email R.H. wrote me as she wrestled with the writing of her story, Liberation from the Patriarchal Church. Sharing our Christian divorce stories takes courage. Personally, I...
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Catholic Guilt Erased
Forty-two years later, I still find it difficult to admit, deep down, even then, I questioned my response. Even then, truth be told, I knew his tendency toward erratic, and outright mean, behavior....
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Good Memoir Writing Resource
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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The Bible and Divorce
Typically, conservative churches focus on the law, particularly on Matthew 19verse 9: “I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Based on this passage, I was told I did not have God's permission to divorce, and I needed to stay in my unhealthy marriage. He writes, “My hope is that the church will rediscover the biblical principles that divorce should occur only when marriage vows are broken and that only the wronged partner may decide whether this will happen." He writes: There were no debates about the validity of neglect and abuse as grounds for divorce in any ancient Jewish literature, for the same reason that there are none about the oneness of God: these principles were unanimously agreed on. I also believe this passage means we are free to make the choice to divorce if the marriage is irretrievably broken. We should not leave out of hate but rather seek to maintain agape love — love that is merciful, full of grace and unselfish, seeking the best for the other while maintaining respect for ourselves.Blessings, Instone-Brewer, David. Divorce and Remarriage in the Church: Biblical Solutions for Pastoral Realities, Downers Grove: IVP Books, 2007 Do you have a divorce experience to share?
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What is a "Platform"?
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Waiting and Weeding
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Finding the Right Title
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Elk on the Road: Colorado Christian Writers Conference
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Satan--Does He Really Exist?
I came to attend this year's Colorado Christian Writer's Conference which is going on up the mountain without me. I'd flown in Wednesday afternoon from my home in Washington State. I'm not used to...
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May 01st, 2017
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Why I Care About My Memoir (and you might too) Part 2
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Why I Care About My Memoir (and you might too) Part 1
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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The Other Half of Writing
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Nothing Glamorous
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Writing the Memoir Cinematically: Last Part
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Writing the Memoir Cinematically: Part 3
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Writing the Memoir Cinematically: Part 2
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Writing the Memoir Cinematically: Part 1
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Working with My Editor
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Writers Need Faith: "God, the Devil, and Divorce" Memoir Writing
Free Resource Downloads 12 Steps to a More Joyful Life after Divorce 30 Things to Do When You're Single Forgiveness Self-Assessment Resources for Healing from Spiritual Abuse 50 Divorce Recovery...
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Words Count: "God, the Devil, and Divorce" Memoir Writing
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