10 Signs Your Husband Desires More Adventure In Your Marriage - Olubunmi Mabel

Marriage is a beautiful union between two people who totally love each other.

It is usually very possible to imagine “happily ever afters” at the beginning of a marriage.

However, love on its own can’t make a marriage successful.

Trust is another important factor in having a successful marriage.

However, even with love and trust, living in the same space with someone for the rest of your life may lose its glamour with time.

There is always a tendency of one partner or both to get so comfortable that the marriage soon begins to take on a routine.

Well, the routine may be easy, but its predictability may sometimes be unbearable.

I am not saying that being comfortable with each other is bad.

My point is that in marriage, sometimes, it is usually necessary to spice things up occasionally.

And if you have noticed your husband acting a bit differently lately, he might just be craving more adventure in the marriage.

To avoid having dissatisfaction and unmet expectations ruin your mind, you must learn to recognize the signs.

In this article, we will explore the signs that your husband desires more adventure in the marriage.

Come along!

1. He suggests new activities

This is one of the most basic manifestations of a desire for more adventure in a relationship.

When routine gets so choking, it is not so unusual for a partner who desires more adventure to suggest new activities.

In fact, this is a positive sign for me.

Some people handle it differently.

They get all gloomy and start searching for thrills around.

However, when your husband suggests new activities for you both to try out, it is a sign that whatever adventure he desires is still with you and not with somebody else.

Those activities don’t necessarily have to be really serious ones.

They could be new hobbies or some other interesting activities for you to try out.

If your husband is suggesting new activities like hiking, cooking classes, or even something as extreme as skydiving, it is a sign that he desires more adventure in the marriage.

While, I won’t advise you to go skydiving because I am not so adventurous (in case you are just like me), you could meet him halfway and do something fun together.

However, it doesn’t always have to be something extremely adventurous.

It could be a simple activity like reading books together.

The fact is that we sometimes don’t realize how much these little shared activities improve the bond and connection in the marriage.

Really, it’s not about the activity.

It is more about the wonderful feeling you get when you do something new with someone you love.

2. He expresses affection more 

Many couples get to a stage in marriage where they are so comfortable with each other that they don’t express affection for each other as they should.

They just believe that their partner knows how they feel about them.

While your partner may know how you feel, don’t you think it is wrong to keep your feelings to yourself?

It is like you are depriving your partner.

Many couples reach this point, and the only way they display affection for each other is in the bedroom during lovemaking.

If your husband becomes more affectionate outside the bedroom, it may be a sign that he desires something more from the marriage.

He probably remembers the early days of your relationship when you were both so in love with each other that you didn’t mind sounding like a broken tape, repeatedly expressing how much you loved each other.

Not only does he remember the old days, he longs for them once again.

He wants to experience that passion once more.

He may start by making little affectionate gestures more regularly.

Holding your hands more often, placing his hands on your waist, and hugging you more often are all signs of affection.

He may even kiss you in public.

All these may just be an expression of his desire for more adventure in the marriage.

It is a sign that he wants to spice up the marriage.

3. He talks about sex more

When married couples get really comfortable with each other, they don’t really talk about sex.

Sex is just something that happens from time to time because it is meant to happen.

It becomes routine, just like other things in the relationship.

However, when your husband desires more adventure in the marriage, he starts to talk about sex more.

He wants to know how he can give you more pleasure even while enjoying lovemaking too.

This is a big sign that he wants to spice things up in the bedroom and start doing things differently.

It may seem strange, but discussing these things may be the way to spice up your marriage and keep the spark from dying. 

He may also be spontaneous during sex.

Sex no longer feels mechanical or routine.

Instead, he takes his time to explore your body, doing things he has never done before to you.

He changes things up while you are at it because he wants to spice things up.

He doesn’t wait until you are in the bedroom anymore.

He chooses anywhere in the house to initiate lovemaking.

This is especially true if you don’t have children or have adult children who no longer stay at home.

Even when you have kids that stay at home, he creates activities that keep them busy and out of your way for a while.

Now, this is actually another way to spice up your sex life.

However, some men take this to the extreme.

I once read the story of a man who went to his wife’s office to have office sex with her.

She refused, and when he tried to force himself on her, she shouted for help, and he left angrily.

Now, I really wonder what he was angry about.

Going to your wife’s office to have sex with her is all shades of wrong.

Husbands, in your desire for more adventure in your marriage, never forget to prioritize your wife’s well-being.

4. He initiates dates more

Dates get less frequent the longer a couple is married.

Throw in the dynamics of raising children and various responsibilities at work and home, and you will realize why this is so.

However, if your husband truly desires more adventure in the marriage, even amidst these responsibilities, he will find time to initiate dates.

So, if you notice your husband seems to be going the extra mile to ensure that both of you enjoy romantic dates, it is a sign that he definitely wants to spice things up in the relationship.

He takes you on cinema dates, dinner dates, or sometimes just a simple picnic at the park.

The level of intentionality that he puts into planning the dates shows how much he desires more adventure in the marriage.

If your husband is displaying this sign, you should enjoy the ride.

It is refreshing when married couples display such a level of intentionality when planning dates.

It makes their partner feel special, so you should also try reciprocating.

He wants to feel special too.

5. He becomes insatiable

Sometimes, the signs are not so positive when your husband desires more adventure in your marriage.

One of the indicators that a man desires more adventure in the marriage is that he becomes insatiable.

It is like nothing you ever do can satisfy him and even when you make some concessions to his demands, he just goes on to make some more demands.

I understand how frustration and dissatisfaction can be in marriage.

I also understand what it is like to want more; however, if your husband is insatiable, it may be in your best interest to communicate with him and let him know how much you are trying to satisfy him.

You should also let him know that patience is key to ensuring that the marriage continues to be peaceful after this.

More importantly, you need to let him know that your needs are important too.

He shouldn’t selfishly chase self-gratification if it would be detrimental to your well-being.

6. He tells you

I know that myth about men being generally uncommunicative.

While I won’t be exactly confirming or discarding the myth, I want you to know one important truth: Men often express how they feel, but women may miss it because of how they express it.

He may tell you about how he has been feeling lately.

He may say something about being out of sorts lately or looking for something exciting to do.

When he says things like this, you may conclude that he is talking about his job or needing more exciting hobbies.

He may also sometimes tell you about something he and his friends have been discussing and how he has been thinking that there has to be more to life.

It seems pretty innocuous, but the guy is dropping hints!

He is trying to tell you that he wants something more out of his marriage to you.

7. He starts comparing your marriage to others

Feeling hurt when your husband compares your marriage to others is normal.

However, while you may want to fly off the handle at the hint of comparison, it is important that you listen attentively to what her man isn’t saying.

A satisfied husband wouldn’t compare his marriage to others.

So, when he does, it is a sign of dissatisfaction.

He isn’t expressing his dissatisfaction the right way, but you need to clamp down on your anger to find out what fascinates him about the other couple he loves so much.

When you honestly review your marriage, you will realize what makes it look like their marriage is better than yours.

8. He starts flirting with other women

This is one of the worst signs your husband desires more adventure in your marriage.

It can be annoying and frustrating to deal with your husband constantly flirting.

You attend a social function with him, and he flirts.

You have dinner with him, and he still flirts with a waitress.

You may be feeling like there’s nothing you can do about his flirtatious attitude.

But that is because you have not exactly thought of it as a sign of dissatisfaction.

It is an extremely childish and cowardly way of expressing a desire for more adventure in the marriage.

Husbands who do this need to do better.

Nothing beats communicating with your wife in the right way.

Stop acting immaturely.

9. He may start fantasizing about his bachelor days

Everyone has a right to take trips down memory lane.

However, you have noticed that your husband does this very frequently.

He usually just sits down and reminisces about his adventurous days as a bachelor.

He says things like, “When I was a bachelor, I used to have so much fun,” wistfully wishing he could just get in a time machine and go back to the good old days.

It is normal to think of it as just nostalgia.

But sometimes, it may actually be him wishing for a time when life was simpler and more fun.

While you can’t remove his current responsibilities, you can make marriage more fun for him.

Of course, this has to be done with his help.

He must be ready to speak about his desires in clearer terms.

He should also be ready to cater to your needs.

He is definitely not the only one with desires.

10. He may start picking quarrels at the slightest thing

It is not unusual to have occasional issues in marriage.

Conflicts are not so bad if they are dealt with the right way in marriage.

However, if you notice that your husband is so irritable, it may be a sign that he desires more adventure in the marriage.

This is his way of showing his frustrations, and while it isn’t a good and effective way of communicating, if he has been too sensitive of late, you may want to check what’s up with him.

I know the childish tantrums may be annoying, but you can’t have a successful marriage if you don’t know how to sometimes be the calm person even when you are meant to be the hurt one.

Calmly find out why he is acting like he’s got a bee in his bonnet.

The odds are he actually desires more adventure in the relationship and doesn’t just know how to express himself.

Recognizing these signs is the first step towards reigniting the spark in your marriage.

Embrace his desire for adventure and join him on this journey.

Not only will it bring you closer, but it will also create unforgettable memories and strengthen your bond.

So, pack your bags, step out of your comfort zone, and embark on this exciting journey together!