9 Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They're Deeply In Love - Olubunmi Mabel


    It has a way of making people do things…

    Things they won’t normally do.

    I am not necessarily talking about those crazy things almost all of us may have done for love in the past.

    I am more focused on the thoughtful acts that we do only when we are deeply in love.

    This is true for all genders.

    Men especially show that they are deeply in love through their actions.

    When a man loves, he loves for real.

    He doesn’t just say he loves you, he also shows it with his actions.

    By this, I don’t mean the stereotypical acts that society calls love.

    Men express their love in unique and special ways that can’t be faked, especially when you have experienced the real thing.

    In this article, I have taken the liberty of curating a list of those thoughtful acts guys do only when they are deeply in love to help you identify the real deal.

    Come along!

    9 Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They’re Deeply In Love

    1. He remembers the little things

    I don’t think it’s a general thing for all males, but I and most of my male friends suck at remembering things like birthdays, anniversaries, and such.

    If we don’t set alarms and reminders on our calendars, we are likely to miss even our mothers’ birthdays.

    It’s that bad.

    Then I got into a relationship with a girl I really loved and I became a walking calendar.

    I remembered things like her birthday, the day I asked her out, and how she said she would think about it.

    Finally, I remember the day she said “yes.”

    I remember what she was wearing the first day I met her.

    I remember her little preferences.

    She loves pizza, but she doesn’t like cheese.

    She loves barbecued meat with lots of pepper, but if you put that pepper in her jollof rice, she would accuse you of attempting to set her mouth on fire.

    My point is… I became a walking encyclopedia of every little preference she had.

    Her favorite color.

    Her favorite author.

    Her favorite book which happened to be mine.

    The fact is, when a guy is deeply in love, he remembers little details about you.

    Even the things you mention in passing seem to stick to his memory.

    When he is deeply in love with you, he remembers little things about you…

    It may seem so trivial but it speaks volumes of the depth of his love for you.

    In this world of hustle and bustle, you still hold a special place in his mind, and he remembers even the little things about you.

    2. He includes you in his future plans

    “When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.” —Jess C. Scott

    When a man is deeply in love with you, he begins to include you in his future plans.

    He starts seeing you as an integral part of his life not just for the present but also in the future.

    It doesn’t even have to be something as serious as discussing how many kids you want or planning on getting a better house to settle in.

    It may be something as simple as both of you planning a romantic getaway, and then he says something like, “You know, we could go back next year. Perhaps we should make it a tradition?”

    In just a few casual words, he has relayed the message that he is not only deeply in love with you presently, but he plans to be deeply in love with you for years to come.

    It may have been just a few words, but it is one of those heartwarming and thoughtful acts guys do only when they are deeply in love.

    3. He supports you

    Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They're Deeply in Love

    Your best friend supports you.

    Your other male friends support you, too.

    You can almost always rely on them to turn up for you.

    Well, it’s that “almost” that makes your man special.

    He is your biggest cheerleader…

    In addition to this, he serves as a great sounding board for your ideas, even the silly ones, because he doesn’t judge you but only constructively criticizes you.

    This is a thoughtful act of love.

    Not everyone has it in them to listen to other people’s ideas without seeing the negatives alone.

    But when a man is deeply in love with you, he is fully invested in seeing you attain your full potential.

    If a guy respects your ambitions and supports your career goals, it’s his way of showing that he is deeply in love with you.

    After all, “Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything.” —Katharine Hepburn

    4. He is sensitive to your emotions

    One major way love affects us all is that it makes us more attuned to our partners’ emotions.

    This heightened sensitivity can be credited to love and intimacy.

    When a man is deeply in love with you, he knows you so much that he seems to be attuned to every slight change in your moods and emotions.

    The fact that he is sensitive to your emotions is not the cute part of it.

    Here’s it…

    He tries his best not to hurt your emotions, and whenever he notices that they are hurt, he goes out of his way to ensure that you smile.

    A guy who is deeply in love can go to great lengths to see the woman he loves smile.

    This is a very thoughtful act, and it is only a result of love.

    5. He prioritizes your needs

    One thing is certain…

    When a guy loves you deeply, he wants to do things for you.

    He wants to help you even when you don’t ask for his help.

    There’s this selflessness that comes upon a guy in love, and he begins to prioritize your needs…

    Sometimes, over his.

    I remember several times when I sacrificed time I could have spent hanging out with friends or just resting to help my girlfriend with her needs.

    My friends also did a bunch of these things for the women they love.

    Sometimes, we would sacrifice our sleep just because our girlfriends wanted to talk to us.

    It may not look like much, but thoughtful acts sometimes don’t look like much.

    It is the intention behind it that matters.

    Placing your need above his without expecting anything in return is among the thoughtful acts guys do when they are deeply in love.

    6. He treats you tenderly

    Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They're Deeply in Love

    “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” —Robert A. Heinlein

    Love does crazy things to a man but the most shocking thing has to be how it melts even the hardest hearts.

    When a man is deeply in love with you, he treats you tenderly.

    He may be so tender to you that you may worry that he thinks you are fragile.

    He doesn’t think you are fragile.

    He knows that you are the one person in his life whose happiness is essential to his own…

    Hence, he is really sensitive to your needs.

    Because he has come to view your happiness as his.

    7. He gives thoughtful gifts

    Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They're Deeply in Love

    This is not a general rule, but most men think expensive and flashy gifts can replace well-thought-out gifts.

    For the most part, it doesn’t.

    Most ladies love to think of the effort their man invested in getting her a gift rather than the actual value of the gift in monetary terms.

    One of the thoughtful acts guys do when they are deeply in love is that they give you thoughtful little gifts.

    They could be going down the street when they see something that reminds them of you, and they could get it for you on the spur of the moment.

    It could be a book by your favorite author or that doll you loved but lost as a kid.

    It could be a book you loved as a kid and wished you could still read or a card with a beautiful message.

    It could be something that would seem small to any other person but means the whole world to you.

    When a man expends this much thought and initiative in getting you a gift, it is a sign that he is deeply in love with you.

    8. He listens to you

    This ranks among the most important thoughtful acts guys do when they are deeply in love.

    Listening is not just hearing what a person is saying.

    It involves understanding what the person is saying.

    For the most part, we tell other people stuff because we want the assurance that they understand what we are going through.

    The fact that someone else understands what you are going through makes you feel less alone.

    The first part of listening is what most people do well, but the understanding part?

    Only a few people have learned to listen to understand.

    This is what makes it special when a guy who is deeply in love with you listens to you.

    You just get the feeling that he is not just hearing the words you speak; he is actively following them.

    He asks questions in the right places and doesn’t attempt to pass judgment on you.

    This kind of active listening is one of the thoughtful acts guys do when they are in love.

    9. He sends random sweet texts

    Thoughtful Acts Guys Do Only When They're Deeply in Love

    This takes me back to the early days of having my first girlfriend.

    I would wake up in the morning and send her random, sweet texts.

    I always wanted her first sight every morning to be a beautiful good morning text from me.

    I would also send texts at random times of the day just to show that I was thinking of her.

    Random texts…

    This is one thoughtful act guys do when they are deeply in love.

    When he sends you texts at random times during the day, it is a sign that you are constantly on his mind.

    Ultimately, you know a guy is deeply in love with you when he feels like “home” to you.

    Better still, you know you love him “when ‘home’ went from being a place to being a person.”

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