Choosing Gratitude in the Hard Places - Serenity in Suffering
Like so many broken dreams, the the glass shards slid from my hands into the waste basket. The tiny slashes on my palms betrayed the jagged edges recently held there. As I rinsed my hands under cold water, the sting of open wounds spoke of loss. Choosing gratitude in the hard places feels like holding the jagged pieces of your life, and inspite of the pain, seeing beauty.
Welcome to Mindfulness Monday! Where we learn some easy ways to be more present “in the moment” at our jobs, in our homes, with our families and friends. Learning to recognize God and what He has for us in each divine moment He offers. We acknowledge the belief that God is with us always. We confess His presence is available to us, lifting our spirit and helping us with power and grace. Learning to “be still”, so we can hear His voice and view ourselves, others and our surroundings through His eyes.
weekly mindful gratitude challenge
Each Monday throughout November, return for Mindfulness Monday and find your weekly mindful gratitude challenges. Share your progress, thoughts and results on social media using the #mindfulgratitudechallenge, or leave a comment on the post!
Last week we focused on exploring th grace of gratitude through the intentionality of slowing down, seeking and savoring God. Hopefully you enjoyed the guided exercises and setting aside time for the mindful gratitude challenge. If not, catch up HERE.
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gratitude reveals beauty in the hard places
Though only an inexpensive mug, it held more than coffee; it held memories in the pictures adorning the outside. Pictures of my children; my son and his wife, my girls together. Photos of my husband and I, my dear pup, Golda, of little booties for an expected grandchild.
Yet the shattered pieces of broken pictures spoke more truth than I wanted to hear. The smiles once peering at me, now carried their own pain: divorce, death, loss, heartbreak. Overwhelmed with the brokenness not only of the mug, but the reality the pieces represented, tears filled my eyes.
Oddly, I felt compelled towards thanking God. At first my mind went blank, then slowly at first, words of gratitude came one by one.
Give thanks in everything,for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
- Gratitude for each of my children’s lives. Though broken, marred and stained, beauty shone through because God still held the pen; their story was not complete yet.
- Gratitude for a daughter-in-law who loved, honored and remained an important part of our lives, and our daughters’ lives though her marriage was over.
- Gratitude for almost 15 years of unconditional love, joy, loyalty and comfort from a dog sorely missed, who came to us during a season of pain.
- Gratitude at the privilege of holding my grandaughter Indigo, and kissing her beautiful face, before leaving her in the arms of Jesus.
- Gratitude at knowing I will see Indigo in heaven one day.
- Gratitude for memories, though painful for they are part of my story.
Choosing Gratitude=choosing grace
Choosing gratitude in hard places never comes easy. When the steel grip of pain encloses around your heart, the only sounds issuing forth speak grief, hopelessness. You need not feel shame, for words spoken through pain spew from a broken, wounded heart.
On the Cross, Jesus cried, “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matthew 27:46) Jesus identifies with your pain, with your feelings of abandonment in the midst of trials.
In the midst of one of my hardest places, I had no words, the pain in my heart stifled even my tears. But someone with me experiencing the same pain, began a prayer of thanksgiving; their words faltered as sobs choked their flow. But as words of gratitude broke the silence of the room, something changed.
The sacrifice of thanksgiving broken on the altar of pain unleashed the full grace of God.
Choosing Gratitude in the hard places
The expression of gratitude in general evokes positive pictures of blessings, health, memorable experiences, people and God’s goodness in our lives. Many times, gratitude sourced in positivity fills our gratitude journals, and at times, becomes the things we take most for granted.
Choosing gratitude in the hard places offers tremendous potential for healing, spiritual maturity and personal growth.
While thoughts of gratitude in moments of deep sorrow or trial seldom surface immediately, We can make time for reflection when we settle into a better place emotionally and spiritually. The following exerises offer mindful ways for looking back with intention while viewing the situation through the perspective of gratitude.
embracing the hard with god
As always, I recommend setting a specific time and place free of distraction; choose a place where you feel comfortable, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Keep your Bible and a journal nearby.
Begin with slow, deep breathing; keep your exhale longer than your inhale. With each breath focus on relaxing your body, especially any tense areas. When you feel relaxed, slip into prayer asking God to make His Presence real to you as you sit quietly with Him.
- Recall. Bring to mind a situation of deep sorrow or pain; perhaps a season of suffering or trial, or even a painful argument, disappointment or financial hardship. Avoid “rehashing”, simply call it to mind, allow yourself to feel the pain or other emotions, but sit with these emotions without engaging.
- Request. Invite God into the situation you hold in your mind. Remember He was there when it happened. Ask Him to show you His Presence in that situation.
- Release. Visualize placing the situation in God’s hands; release the negative emotions to Him. Trust the outcome, though painful and not what you desired, to His sovereignty and goodness.
- Receive. Open your heart with full acceptance of the events, knowing everything in your life sifts through the hands of God, intended for your good and His glory.
Embracing Gratitude with God
After working through the above steps in your own time, shift to a perspective of gratitude for the same situation. Thank God for:
- The person you were in the situation; your efforts to accept and navigate the situation the best way you were able.
- The person you are nowas a result of the hardship; the positive areas of growth and strength.
- The positive lesson and wisdom you learned from the situation.
- The trial, suffering, disappointment or hardship itself; name a specific aspect of the situation for which you are grateful.
- New intimacy with Christ; the things you learned about Him by going through this situation.
grateful in the broken places
No one chooses suffering or walking in the hard places of life, but sometimes God chooses those paths for you. Each time you move towards choosing gratitude in the hard places of life, you more quickly you invite God into those circumstances.
Walking through the door of pain, knowing God meets you there, alters your perspective from one of dread or despair to one of expectancy and gratitude. For in the hard places we learn to love God more deeply, listen to God more attentively and thank God more fervently.
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