Guilty For NOT Confronting Adulterous Spouses - Divorce Minister

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When I say to the wicked, ‘You wicked person, you will surely die,’ and you do not speak out to dissuade them from their ways, that wicked person will die for their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. But if you do warn the wicked person to turn from their ways and they do not do so, they will die for their sin, though you yourself will be saved. – Ezekiel 33:8-9, NIV

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers … shall inherit the kingdom of God. – I Corinthians 6:9a, 10b, KJV

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In the rush to keep families “intact,” I am concerned that ministers and Christian counselors are heaping judgment upon their own heads unwittingly. They are the proverbial watchmen noted in Ezekiel 33. However, they are not warning adulterous spouses of certain damnation if they do not repent. As such, they are incurring God’s wrath for such failure as this Scripture illuminates.

The goal of keeping marriages and families together is certainly a noble goal. I am all for whole and healthy families. However, we can make this the ultimate goal to the exclusion of seeing God’s priorities on matters.

Do you think God will be impressed by how many marriages you helped keep together following adultery without insisting on repentance? 

On Judgment Day, do you think adulterous spouses will thank you for not warning them of the dire spiritual danger they were in when committing adultery without repenting?

How about how you will answer the God who defends the oppressed when they cry out to Him about how you chose to attack and blame them for the adulterous sin in order to achieve your “intact” marriage goal?

The spiritual well-being of the marriage partners needs to be priority number one. This means prioritizing godliness over our own goals and agenda–however well-intentioned or apparently noble they may be.

We need to be godly watchmen and watch-women…

Calling the adulterous to repentance so that we can live with a clean conscience regardless of how they respond.


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