How To Make Your Husband Want You Everyday - 12 Secret Codes - Olubunmi Mabel

The feeling of being wanted by your husband is second to none, and every woman in love desires that her husband is head over heels in love with her.

However, some women experience that their husbands want them for a season, and then they move on.

I have cracked the code for making your husband want you every day, and in this article, I will be sharing secrets to keeping your man longing after you.

Please read on.

How To Make Your Husband Want You Everyday – 12 Secret Codes

1. Observe what he likes

Making your husband want you every day is not rocket science.

While there are generic tips for achieving that, the mojo is hidden in his personal taste and desires.

Some men are thoroughly tripped by a woman who is fair and has curves in the right places while some love voluptuous women.

Some men love dark-skinned ladies, some love high-flying career ladies, and some love homely women who are very calm and can administer to the home.

This is just saying that the desires of men differ.

A popular adage says “One man’s meat is another man’s poison.”

Just like the generalization that all men are cheats doesn’t hold water, we cannot hastily ascertain your husband’s likes generically.

You therefore need to study and observe him.

What attracted him to you?

What does he love the most about you?

What’s that thing you do that trips him and can take his mood from zero to a hundred?

Girl!

In Nigeria, where I am from, they say, “What you are looking for in Sokoto is in your Sokoto” (Meaning what you are looking for in Sokoto, a far northern state in Nigeria, is in your ‘Sokoto’ – a word in the Yoruba language for trouser. This means that what you are looking for is closer than you think).

The key is in your hands.

Observe your husband, and you will be amazed at how much he’ll desire you consistently.

By the way, this is not in any way an advice to lose yourself.

This point is only valid if you are married to a good and reasonable man, so he doesn’t use it against you. 

2. Don’t be too predictable

Many marriages lose their flavour and ‘steeze’ because of what Nigerians call “See finish.”

There’s something about the courtship days that creates anticipation and makes you feel excited, but for the most part, after marriage, things can easily fall into a dull sequence if care is not taken.

The burden of family and life can make pleasing your spouse the last thing on your mind thus making you very predictable.

Do you want him to want you every day?

Then don’t settle and become predictable.

Be spontaneous and surprise him in ways that keep him intrigued.

For instance, I love to surprise my husband with gifts and treats especially when it’s not his birthday.

He always doesn’t know what I have up my sleeves and he loves it so much.

Whatever spontaneity means to you and your marriage, do it and watch your husband desire you more and more!

3. Befriend him

Making your husband want you every day has to be for reasons beyond physical intimacy because, as humans, we don’t feel like having sex every day!

It means that for your husband to want you every day, you are more than a sex partner to him, and that’s where friendship comes in.

Have you noticed how humans naturally turn to their friends in different seasons?

It tells you that friendship is for all seasons.

Sadly, not every husband and wife are best friends and this is where many people miss it in relationships.

Friendship is the bedrock of relationships: not even love.

As long as you are friends, the love can grow.

So, befriend your husband.

Friendship in marriage doesn’t happen automatically, it has to be intentionally worked out.

Be intentional about cultivating friendship with your spouse and he will always want to be with you.

4. Groom yourself beautifully

“Men are moved by what they see,” they say… aren’t we all?

I have found myself passing by a store with zero intention of buying anything only to end up parting with good money and the product that caught my eye and hooked me.

Do you want to always catch your husband’s eye and keep him hooked?

Groom yourself beautifully!

From your hair to your fragrance to other details of your alluring self… be intentional.

Don’t let yourself go.

This is golden advice, especially when the kids start coming, and the parenting responsibilities mount up.

How you groom yourself could make your husband consistently desirous of you.

5. Flirt with him

Wink at him.

Tease his nipples.

Write him dirty love notes.

Kiss his neck

Kiss his lips seductively.

Roll your waist intentionally and sometimes give him a lap dance.

Tap his bum or rub his manhood… winks.

Let your touch linger…

Draw him in with your words.

Let your eyes speak.

Flirt with your husband.

After all, he is your husband!

Try this and watch him lapping after you… lol!

You can thank me later.

6. Light up the bedroom

Never let the bedroom lights go out.

I am talking about hot steamy sex baby!

If you need to schedule it, please do so.

Also, throw in a spontaneous quickie sometimes… winks.

If you have the bedroom on lockdown, he will want you every day.

7. Be his safe place

Some ladies think all men want is sex… permit me to say that’s shallow.

Men want more than sex, and if you want your husband to want you every day, it means that you must become a high-value woman.

Your husband needs you to be his safe place and confidant.

If you can present yourself as a trustworthy and wise woman, your man will always seek you out because he is sure to gain strength and confidence and receive support from you.

Some men compartmentalize their lives because of this, their wives satisfy their sexual needs while their mistress satisfies their emotional and mental needs.

This doesn’t justify extramarital affairs, but to say that you can become your husband’s one-stop shop.

8. Honor him

No one likes to go where they are dishonoured.

So, if you want your husband to want you every day, you have to honour him.

Honor means respect and it doesn’t mean that you are subjugated in any way.

In fact, honour in the context of marriage should be reciprocal.

Honour your man by listening to him, not demeaning or talking down on him, yelling or hurling insults at him, or bad-mouthing him to others.

If you constantly honour him, he’ll want you.

9. Speak graceful words

Remember that we tagged this write up “secret codes”?

Secret codes are encrypted most times and need to be decoded… so try not to underrate these tips.

Words are powerful and release great energy into the atmosphere.

While hurtful words can release negative energy into the atmosphere and affect a person’s countenance, graceful words can lift a person and infuse life into them.

Speak seasoned words to your husband.

Don’t be his greatest critique… rather, be his greatest cheerleader.

Call out the king in him.

When there’s a problem on the ground, be solution-oriented and speak wise words.

I am very sensitive to words, so I am careful to only say graceful words and surround myself with people who only speak graceful words.

It is attractive to be that person and from my experience, people will always want to be with you.

10. Evolve as he evolves

Some relationships start to experience a chasm when one person evolves beyond the other.

I have heard of people outgrowing their life partners and believe it or not, it is a thing.

There were certain friends I had in a season that I eventually outgrew because we didn’t have anything in common anymore.

One of the characteristics of living things is growth, and this growth happens consistently in our lives and relationships, too.

Make sure to evolve as your husband evolves and he will always want you.

11. Radiate a positive energy

They are called the “life of the party.”

They are always full of life and positive energy and so they are usually in high demand.

Can you be this person?

You don’t need to be an outright extrovert, just be a positive person and your husband will always want to be around you.

12. Show him that you want him

In this equation, desire is equal to desire.

Letting and showing your husband that you want and desire him will increase how deeply he feels about you, too.

Your words and actions should align in showing him how much you want him and guess what?

He will reciprocate and long for you every day.