If A Man Is Afraid Of Losing You He Will Never Do These 8 Things - Olubunmi Mabel
I always tell ladies that if a man loves you and is afraid of losing you, you’re gonna know.
The signs don’t lie, Sis.
They hardly ever do.
Unless you just choose to lie to yourself.
A man who sees you as an important part of his life will do everything he can to keep you.
This also means that he’ll stay away from certain actions that can sabotage what he shares with you.
Because he knows that his actions and inactions do better at communicating his intentions, he makes use of them well.
It’s also safe to say that whenever a man does any of these things, you don’t mean much to him.
Let us look at what these actions are, just so we’re clear.
1. Leave you on read
A man who is afraid of losing you will never leave you on read.
Never intentionally.
Leaving you on read means that you sent him a message via text, WhatsApp, or whatever other platform and he receives it and reads it but doesn’t respond.
I’m always surprised when a man keeps leaving a lady on read, yet the lady keeps wondering where she stands in his life and if he values her.
Girl, if you don’t get your bags and leave that man’s life right now!
When a man fears losing you, he places value on everything that has to do with you.
He cherishes every moment spent together, prioritizes the messages you send to him, and expresses gratitude even for the little things.
On the other hand, if he neglects to acknowledge your messages and efforts, it is a sign of a lack of investment.
His indifference can leave you feeling invisible, and you don’t need that.
A man who fears losing you will ensure you know your worth, showering you with all the attention and respect to reaffirm your significance in his life.
2. Ignore your needs
Understanding and meeting each other’s needs is foundational in any normal and healthy relationship.
A man who fears losing you will take the time to know what you require emotionally, physically, and mentally so that he can meet those needs.
For example, if you’ve had a tough week at work, he might surprise you with your favorite takeout or offer a shoulder to cry on.
His attentiveness shows that he’s committed to your happiness and well-being.
Because he values you, he’ll be the one suggesting weekend getaways or cozy movie nights, showing you that he cherishes the time you spend together, especially if he knows that you appreciate quality time.
Consistently overlooking your needs or being dismissive of your requests are signs that show that he doesn’t care.
A man who fears losing you will not fail to prioritize your happiness and will not leave you feeling undervalued.
He will actively seek to fulfill your needs, demonstrating that your joy is just as important as his own.
He’s not continually making excuses or prioritizing friends or work over you.
Another thing he won’t dismiss is respect for your boundaries and values.
A man who fears losing you will honor what matters to you, even when it requires compromise.
For instance, if you’re passionate about certain causes or traditions, he’ll show interest and make an effort to understand your perspective.
He won’t push you into stuff you’re not comfortable with.
3. Ghost you
Ghosting is an act that many men seem to have perfected so well these days.
You meet a man, have beautiful conversations with him, hand e seems crazy about you,.
He calls you consistently and does all the nice stuff, and you believe you’re in a good-talking stage that has the potential to be something better.
Then, all of a sudden, like an unpleasant plot twist in a movie you love, he just disappears into thin air.
It’s wild out there on the dating streets.
One thing you need to know is that if a man is afraid of losing you, he won’t vanish into thin air.
He doesn’t want to lose you, so why would he intentionally stay away?
He understands the importance of communication, even when things get tough.
So, when you disagree, rather than retreating, he’ll take the time to discuss feelings and work towards fixing them.
He knows that silence can be louder than words, so he chooses to keep the lines of communication open.
If he ghosts you after an argument or a misunderstanding, it might indicate that he doesn’t fear losing you as much as he fears confrontation.
A man who values your presence will confront his fears, even if it means facing discomfort.
He’s willing to engage rather than just shy away and disappear like a ghost.
4. Starve you of affection
A man is only a “tough guy” when he’s not really into you.
When a man is into you, all his hardness and defenses fall like a pack of cards.
His soft side shows more.
Affection is the language of love, and a man who fears losing you won’t shy away from expressing it.
Whether it’s through words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, or acts of service, he knows that love must be communicated actively.
He doesn’t starve you of affection or put you in situations where you have to feel insecure.
Because he wants you to stay with him, he’ll be open about his feelings and intentions, expressing how much you mean to him.
On the other hand, a man who doesn’t care might be careless with his words, making jokes at your expense and being vague about his feelings.
Such a man will leave you second-guessing your place in his life.
5. Dismiss or invalidate your feelings
An emotionally intelligent man recognizes that your feelings are valid and deserving of respect.
If he’s aware of how important you are to him, he’ll listen intently when you share your thoughts, even the difficult ones.
For example, if you express concerns about your future together, he won’t brush them aside with a casual “Don’t worry about it” or “Let us see how it goes.”
Instead, he’ll engage in a heartfelt conversation, validating your feelings and exploring your hopes together.
Such a man doesn’t shy away from difficult conversations or conflict resolution.
The importance he places on your feelings is a reflection of how much he values you.
If he’s interested in making the relationship last, he’ll only encourage actions that transform potential friction into an opportunity for the relationship to be better.
6. Acomodate other women
A man flirting with others is a telltale sign of emotional disinterest.
Ladies, I want you to know this and know peace.
A man who is truly deeply interested in keeping you in his life will draw a clear line when it comes to outside attention.
For instance, when he’s at a social gathering, instead of mingling too closely with other women, he’ll keep his focus on you, making sure you feel prioritized and cherished.
His body language—leaning in during conversations, maintaining eye contact, and smiling at you —will show that he values you too much to risk losing you.
You won’t catch him sneaking out to make calls with shady people, sexting or flirting with other ladies, or trying to hit on other women outside.
If a man is openly flirtatious, it can undermine the trust in your relationship.
You might find yourself questioning his dedication, wondering if he values your bond enough to remain faithful.
A man who fears losing you will ensure such thoughts don’t have to arise at all.
He will shield your mind from unnecessary drama and your heart from hurt.
7. Hide things from you
If he’s keeping secrets, then he’s not interested in making the relationship work.
Transparency is crucial in a healthy relationship.
A man who fears losing you will make it a point to share his life openly, including his hopes, fears, and even past experiences.
That also includes personal details about his life.
This openness makes your intimacy stronger, allowing both of you to understand each other on a deeper level.
A partner who hides aspects of his life from you might be shielding himself from vulnerability, which simply means he doesn’t fully trust you.
He who fears losing you will see the value in transparency, knowing that sharing makes for a stronger, more resilient bond.
The more he shares, the more he shows he values you and the relationship.
8. Stop getting better
My husband once told me that I am one of his biggest motivations in life.
He said he’s more committed to his growth and goals because of my presence in his life.
He knows that the better he gets, the better our marriage gets, and the better I’m inspired to get.
When he told me this, my perspective was upgraded.
A man who fears losing you will understand that personal growth benefits the relationship as a whole.
He will pursue his passions and goals, encouraging you to do the same.
This might be him taking a class to learn a new skill, getting a new job, improving in other areas, or exploring a hobby that excites him.
He sees personal development as a way to enrich your life as a couple.
So he does his best to be a better person for himself, you, and your relationship.
He completely flees from anything that will make you feel unappreciated, unhappy, or discontent with him.
Because he wants you in his life for good.
