When A Woman Stops Caring About You, The Signs And The Solution - Olubunmi Mabel
Women can be complete sweethearts.
Angels in human form.
If you’ve been loved and cared for by a woman before then you know what I’m talking about.
The thoughtfulness, intentionality, warmth, attention, and support are second to none.
When a woman cares for you, it’s like you’re the only person in the world.
Unfortunately, this situation is not unchangeable.
Things can go South and the woman stops caring about you.
Different things can be responsible for this: maybe she fell out of love, got bored, or changed priorities.
Or you could even be responsible for the change; perhaps you were unkind to her, took her care for granted, neglected her, or caused her pain.
In this case, everything changes.
Someone who used to make you feel like you’re the only one in the world would suddenly begin to make you feel like you don’t exist.
Her actions will be clear – you’re no longer a big deal.
The signs are unfailing, but just in case you’re not sure, let me help you.
When A Woman Stops Caring About You, You Will See These Signs
1. She stops showing interest in you
This is usually the first sign seen; she checks out of your life.
She starts giving you the cold shoulder and makes it clear that your business isn’t hers anymore.
At first, you may doubt the signs or live in denial for some time, especially if she was very caring in the past.
But then it gets more obvious by the day.
Her interest keeps declining and waning.
She doesn’t ask about your day anymore and when you ask about hers, all she says is “fine”.
It’s clear that your life, hobbies, or how your day went are not things she cares about anymore.
She’s not catching the vibe.
2. She leaves you on read
Being left on read can be annoying but it’s a pill you have to swallow from a woman who has stopped caring about you.
Because of the indifference she now feels, her communication with you will drastically decline.
You’ll observe that she no longer initiates conversations or responds enthusiastically to your messages.
Your calls will go unanswered a lot and your messages will either be left unread or when they’re read, they don’t get any responses.
You’re no longer her cup of tea so she feels no pressure or obligation to respond to you.
3. She stays away from you
You’ll observe that she no longer shows interest in spending time with you.
She starts making excuses to avoid seeing you or even outrightly stands you up on dates.
She’s distant and you can tell.
Her words say a lot but her silence says even more.
She’s emotionally distant and less affectionate, refusing to engage in any form of emotional intimacy.
Being around you may even begin to irritate her, and she gets irked by little things you do that never bothered her before.
You who used to be her sweetheart will now become an irritant.
She’d rather spend time with friends or alone than with you.
You may wonder how someone who used to crave your attention and presence, now suddenly can’t stand you.
That’s what happens when priorities change.
You were special to her before because she made you so, now you’re just another regular guy on the block.
4. She complains excessively or stops complaining
One thing about criticism from a woman is that it can either be a positive or a negative sign.
If she’s complaining about a lot of the things you’re doing, it might be that she’s fed up with you.
She’s criticizing you even over trivial matters because her interest in you has waned.
But ironically, if she stops communicating her reservations, it can still be a bad sign.
You’d think all is well simply because she now seems to have nothing negative to say even when you do something wrong.
But that’s not true – it’s a deceptive kind of peace.
Her nonengagement in arguments and disinterest in fighting altogether shows that she no longer cares enough to resolve conflicts.
You don’t matter that much anymore.
5. No more plans
When a woman who used to use “we” a lot when talking to you suddenly switches pronouns and starts using “I” a lot, a lot has changed.
She probably no longer sees a future or potential in you, so she stops talking about future plans.
She now seems very indifferent about your future together, well that’s because she is.
She now focuses more on her personal plans or decisions, leaving you out of the picture.
6. Zero efforts
Another glaring sign that you’re no longer on her radar is a decline in her efforts.
All of those things that she used to do which made you feel good come to an abrupt end.
She stops supporting you emotionally and practically, even when you really need it.
Her lack of effort shows that her give-a-damn meter is on zero.
There are no more special gestures; cooking for you, sending you sweet text messages, and smiling hard when she sees you become a thing of the past
It’s like she’s put your relationship on mute.
Even her efforts to look good for you stop, if she’s still doing it, it’s for herself or someone else, but not for you.
Having read all these, you may have picked a few signs that are evident in your situation and you’re eagerly wondering; “Is there anything I can do about this?”
Well, there is.
When A Woman Stops Caring About You, What Can You Do About It?
1. See the signs for what they are
I spelled out the signs for you for a reason, so that you’re not ignorant.
If you have observed one or more of the above signs, chances are excellent that she has stopped caring about you.
Instead of fighting the reality or wondering how possible it is, see it for what it is.
Because of how deeply some women show love and care, it’s almost difficult to believe when they stop.
If she’s one of those women, you may struggle to believe that she’s stopped caring about you just like that.
Friendly advice: the earlier you recognize the signs, the better.
2. Talk about it
After seeing the signs, talk about it.
The signs are telling but speaking with her is what will give you a confirmatory diagnosis.
Communicate openly about your observations and how you feel.
Ask her what’s going on and listen to her perspective.
3. Do better
You have to be humble and open-minded enough to listen and take feedback.
If she opens up about how she feels and it has anything to do with you, instead of arguing or picking a fight, appreciate the feedback and make amends.
Communicate your apology and do better.
You may need to start appreciating her more because many times, people stop caring because they feel taken for granted.
You can so work on caring for yourself by being there for her every time she needs you.
Show respect for her feelings, interests, and well-being, and let her know that you’re ready to reciprocate the care she’s been showing you.
If you do these and begin to see positive responses from her, don’t stop there, take it further by rekindling the relationship.
You can plan activities that you both enjoy and can help rekindle your bond, carry out thoughtful gestures, and work on yourself generally.
Reflect on any negative behaviors of yours that might have contributed to her feelings and work on improving them.
4. Be patient
If you’re lucky, she might respond to you early, but that may not happen.
Most times, it’ll take some time.
Be okay with being patient if you really are remorseful and want her back.
Give her a little space but not too much to connote that you’ve walked away.
Just enough space to help her reflect on her feelings without pressure.
Then be patient because changes like these don’t happen overnight.
Particularly if the trust has been broken; you need to work actively on rebuilding it and continue putting in efforts to bring back the romance.
You might want to seek help from relationship counselors and therapists too.
But generally; stay positive and avoid being desperate or negative.
5. Face the reality
The truth is that you might or might not get a positive response even after doing everything right.
Sometimes, it’s just over for good.
When some women stop caring, they never come back around, they move on with their lives progressively.
If this is the case, then you need to move on and focus on yourself as well.
Similarly, you need to assess whether or not the relationship is worth saving.
It might even be that you’re not truly remorseful or invested in making it work.
In that case, the best thing to do is not restart the relationship.
