Wives Who Secretly Regret Marrying Their Husbands Exhibit These Signs - Olubunmi Mabel

When the wife you married becomes unrecognizable, it can be heartbreaking, especially if you cannot pinpoint why she has become less loving and distant.

Unfortunately, one of the reasons why she might be acting that way is because she regrets marrying you.

As sad as it sounds, men and women have been known to realize they made a mistake marrying their spouse after marriage.

So, to help you be certain, this article provides signs wives who secretly regret marrying their husbands exhibit.

1. She Becomes Bitter

Most times, we speak about certain issues based on our experience or the experiences of others around us. 

In that sense, married people often speak about marriage based on their personal experience. 

Although she might not mean to, a woman who secretly regrets her marriage will be bitter about marriage generally. 

Considering her negative feelings for her marriage, she will have nothing good to say about it. 

You will find her often at the forefront of unhappy marriage escapades online, and even when she sees a seemingly happy marriage, she will have something negative to say. 

When asked for marriage advice as well, she will have nothing nice to say about the union.

She will often say things like, “Not every marriage that looks happy is actually happy, many are suffering in silence.”

“Don’t be deceived by happy marriages online. Many are just pretending.”

While all these are true of some marriages, it’s not the same for all. 

2. She Speaks Glowingly About Her Single Days

Nothing is wrong with a married person reminiscing about the fun times they had when they were single or thinking back on certain aspects of their single life with nostalgia. 

However, if that becomes all she talks about – to her husband or others – chances are she regrets her union. 

A happily married woman can remember her single life fondly, but she will also have a lot to say about her marriage; she will also be grateful for being married to her husband and even make it clear. 

But when her marriage is something she wishes she never had, she will always look back, and you will find her speaking glowingly about her past while having nothing positive to say about her present. 

3. Sex Becomes A Physical Activity

When a woman doesn’t want her husband, it shows in how she shares her body with him.

On the one hand, she will reduce the amount of times you have sex with different legit and illegitimate excuses.

Then, when she allows it, an observant husband will see that she is not into it; it might as well be a one-night stand to release.

If she notices she can’t keep putting him off, she might allow it, but her emotions will not be involved, and she will not participate actively.

Sex between married couples should be more than a physical activity; it should be an expression of each other’s love for the other.

But for a woman who regrets her marriage, that’s what it will become.

4. He Stops Being Her Go-to Person

Married couples are often each other’s best friend and go-to person.

Your spouse is usually the first person you call when something happens, whether good or bad.

Women have been known to call their husbands because someone looked at them wrongly or to ask them what they should eat.

At the risk of sounding stereotypical, women love to talk, and they especially talk a lot when they are with their person—in this context, their husband.

But when a woman regrets being with her husband, he won’t be her go-to person.

She might want to pretend to, but it’s difficult to pretend forever.

In the same way, you don’t consciously confide in people with whom you don’t have an emotional connection. 

So, even without intentionally planning to, a woman who regrets her marriage will be distant—at least emotionally—from her husband.

Therefore, when significant things happen, she will likely tell her family or friends before it gets to him. 

5. She Subtly Mentions It

In some situations, she might mention how she feels about the relationship in passing or directly.

While she might not publicly admit to regretting the marriage, she might make statements that imply she does.

For instance, if she keeps mentioning that she is unhappy, that’s a clue that she wishes the marriage makes her happier than it did.

She might also talk about how she wishes her life were different or how she knows it would have been different.

Those are likely signs that she is not happy in the marriage.

6. She Compares Him To Other Men

A woman who secretly regrets her marriage will praise and credit other husbands besides hers.

She might even praise other men who are not doing half of what her husband is doing because she believes everybody else is happy but her.

She may even sometimes applaud their efforts to the hearing of her husband.

And it’s not always out of spite or to hurt him.

It might even be unintentional based on how she feels. 

As far as she is concerned, every other man is better than her husband, and she will show that wish by comparing her man to others. 

7. She Avoids Spending Time With Him

A woman who loves her husband and is very much into her marriage will want to spend time with him.

This is why women complain about not having enough time with their husbands; they enjoy being in their presence.

Even if she is not clingy and enjoys her space, she wants him to be around where she can see him.

For instance, I am an introvert and often need my space, but I enjoy being around my man when I am in love.

If he can give me space while being around, it’s even better.

That means we can be in the same room or even cuddle while I am reading a book or on social media, and he is also doing his thing.

That presence comforts me even on days when I don’t feel like being in each other’s personal space.

So, one sign a woman regrets marrying her husband is that she won’t want to spend time with him; she avoids it as much as she can.

She will always want to be left alone.

Even when she cannot physically leave, as that will make things obvious, she will check out emotionally and wish to be on her own. 

Unlike other couples who are best friends, her best times will be spent apart from him. 

8. Her Home Will No Longer Be Her Happy Place

A woman who is happily married will be happiest at home because her husband and family will be her happy place.

However, as we established earlier, she won’t want to spend time with him if the situation is otherwise.

And that’s because she is happier elsewhere.

She may remain a dutiful wife and mother who serves her family because she has a sense of duty, but she won’t be her full bubbly self.

You may see that she is happiest when she is with her friends, and when she talks about those moments away, you can easily tell that it’s her happy place.

Hence, she will always look for ways to stay away.

If she can’t manage to stay away physically, she will spend more time than necessary online.

Since she can’t find happiness at home, she will spend time scrolling through different platforms to escape the situation at home.

9. She Speaks Ill Of Her Husband Behind Him

Happily married people are usually jokingly said to be exhausting because they name-drop their spouse every chance they get.

They often act like they are the only ones to have a husband or wife. 

So, when a woman acts otherwise, it is clear that marriage is not what she wants. 

A woman who secretly regrets marrying her husband will speak ill of him and the marriage behind him. 

You will find that even when others praise him in her presence, she won’t be able to bring herself to corroborate the praise. 

She will only have negative things to say about him, especially behind his back.

For instance, a WhatsApp group I once belonged to had various women who regretted their marriage and always spoke bitterly about their husbands. 

I didn’t know these men, but how their wives spoke about them betrayed her true feelings about them and the marriage. 

10. She Will Avoid Talking About Her Marriage

There is secrecy, and there is privacy.

Private people keep confidential information away from the public and may not speak about their relationship on social media.

But they don’t hide their marriage; they still wear their ring, mention their spouse in passing, and celebrate birthdays and anniversaries.

A woman who secretly regrets her marriage won’t talk much about her husband or her marriage.

You may think she’s being private, but she’s simply hiding her marriage and ensuring it’s not brought up.

She may hide her ring, never reference her husband in a conversation, or avoid marriage talks or even romantic movies.

She may detest such movies because they make her wish she could turn back the hands of time.

She could also avoid situations that will make her introduce her husband or make people know she is married.