How to help your husband in his downfall

Sometimes it is easier for husbands to talk about their problems with their friends than their wives. Why? Because most of the time, husbands do not get encouragement from their wives. Instead, they receive pressure and blame.

When a man becomes the head of the family, there are a lot of responsibilities that they carry on their shoulders. They are designed to provide for and lead their family. But, sometimes, they also need someone to empower them. That is where your role as a wife comes in, to help your husband in his downfall.

God saw that Adam did not have a suitable helper at the beginning of creation. So He made him sleep, took one of his rips, and made a woman. (Genesis 2:20-23)

The first role that God gave for women was to be a suitable helper for their husbands. How can we do that if when they fail, we blame them and judge them instead of motivating them?

How you look at your husband is crucial to how they look at themselves. They need you as a suitable helper significantly when they fall. 

What do you do when your husband has lost their job and or has made a mistake? Are you the kind of wife that would nag him? 

Nagging does not work and would only make him feel worst about himself.

So here are some ways to empower your husband in his downfall.

Help your husband in his downfall

Of all the people, you are a wife and should be the first to understand your husband. Why? Because you and your husband were united by the Church as one.

Do not talk, just listen

James 1-19-20 says we must be quick to listen, slow to speak, and angry. If your husband tries to tell you what happened, close your mouth and open your ears and heart. 

You cannot encourage your husband if you keep on talking without listening. Sometimes, husbands choose not to tell their feelings to their wives because it would result in another argument.

Sometimes, you do not need to speak a word to motivate your husband. Just listening and letting him know that you understand him could empower him, especially in times of his bad days.

Be his safe place

As a wife, you must make them feel you are your husband’s safe place. He needs to think that he could be vulnerable. He needs you to be his safe place where they can share their worries and fears without worrying about disappointing you.

Remember what you promised when you got married, you will be with him for better or worst. Your husband needs you more than ever is his worst, so be there.

We do not want them to find that security outside your marriage because it could lead them to temptations.

Be his prayer warrior

Instead of fighting against your husband, fight with him in his battle through prayer.

Your husband needs you to pray for him, especially in his downfall. Kneel before the Lord and ask Him to bless your husband and lead Him closer to Him.

As a wife, you have to be his warrior. Your husband faces various battles daily as a provider for your family and as a worker. 

When you surrender your husband to God, you will never be alone in supporting your husband, God will be with you, and He will do amazing things for your husband. 

As you pray for your husband, it will empower him and help you see God’s vision for him. God would show you that He has excellent plans for your husband. It would give you the foundation to believe and trust God that He will take care of your husband’s problems.

Speak blessing, not curse

Our words to our husbands are powerful enough to make or break them. So be careful about what we say, especially when they fall. 

No man would ever listen and be motivated when he knew his wife would nag him when he made a mistake.

Proverbs 12:18 says the words of reckless could hurt like swords, but the tongue of the wise gives healing.

Your mouth has the power to lift your husband in his downfall. So you must not curse him but bless him with your words. Believe and tell him you married a conqueror and strong man who could overcome trials.

Your husband’s confidence lies in what you say to him. Talk about good things about him, what he is good at, and tell him he could get over this season of life.

Continue to honor him

Husbands are encouraged when they feel respected in their house despite making a mistake. I know this could be challenging for wives, but with the help of God, it is still possible for us to respect our husbands even though they fail in life.

Respect them by still serving them and loving them completely. 

Ephesians 5:33 says that a wife must respect her husband.

If your husband had lost his job and you earned higher than him, do not overpower him. You still need to submit to your husband and make him feel that you still honor him regardless of any circumstances. 

Stay-at-home dads are becoming prevalent, and women working for the family are becoming common. Women tend to overpower men even at home. But, this trend does not compromise God’s word. You must still submit to your husband in obedience to God’s commands. 

By doing this, you can boost the self-esteem of your husband.

Help him stand 

We cannot avoid failure and discouragement because it is a part of life. But, as your husband’s helper, you must help him stand in his fall. Talk about what happened and ask God to intervene to have the wisdom to solve the problem.

Be the person who is there when he needs help. Remember that you are one when you tie the knot. 

Your marriage and family will be affected if he cannot overcome his struggles. So help him figure it out. Do not let him fall alone. Lay your hands and pull him.

You are your husband’s partner in everything. In his downfall, he needs you more than anyone and anything else.