10 Obvious Signs Of A Weak Husband - Olubunmi Mabel
Have you ever heard a woman say she wants to be with “a man that is man enough?”
Well, that is what it means when you say you have a strong man.
Having a strong and supportive husband is one of the key factors in a successful and fulfilling marriage.
I understand that every individual has their strengths and weaknesses, and nobody is perfect.
However, when it comes to marriage and union, having a strong man by your side can make all the difference.
A strong man is not just physically strong but also emotionally and mentally strong.
He can handle challenges and difficult situations with grace and maturity.
Having a strong man as a partner means having someone who will always be there for you, no matter what.
He will support you in your dreams and aspirations and help you overcome any obstacles that may come your way.
Moreover, a strong man knows how to communicate effectively and express his emotions without being aggressive or dismissive.
There are so many things that make a man strong, but this is about the qualities that make a man weak.
1. He does not communicate
Do you find that your husband often struggles to express his thoughts, feelings, and emotions for you?
It may be a sign of weakness.
This sign of lack of communication might manifest in different forms.
Sometimes, you find him hitting the mute button when it’s time to have heart-to-heart discussions.
He feels that opening up to you might lead to you correcting or chastising him, which he does not want.
In another instance, he might feel that you will look down on him or weaponize whatever he tells you about him.
This is not a sign of strength.
It is just him being afraid of what he should not be.
Most of the time, avoidance of communication is majorly to shut down confrontations or challenges that may come up.
Nobody said communication was just about sweet talks alone.
It involves both comfortable and uncomfortable topics.
A man who avoids communication like a plague exhibits one of the signs of a weak husband.
2. He avoids responsibility
One thing I am sure of is that a man doesn’t wake up to start avoiding responsibilities in a day.
It is a gradual process that starts small and gradually builds up.
It could be as simple as not taking out the trash or forgetting to pay bills on time.
But eventually, it can turn into bigger issues, like avoiding important discussions or neglecting major household functions.
He will always shift the burden of the home onto you at every given opportunity.
Sometimes, he will even blame you or some other person or factor for his lack of action.
He will never admit his lack of responsibility or take responsibility for the consequences of his inactions.
This trait of weakness in him can eventually lead to a buildup of frustration and tension in your marriage.
3. He is insecure
If your husband’s self-esteem relies solely on your constant boost of energy, he might be a weak man.
Imagine living your life constantly validating your husband on every step he takes.
It will undoubtedly lead to exhaustion at its peak if you ask me.
His sensitivity to criticism will be on steroids, and you will have to keep fanning the flames of his fragile ego.
You might think you are being supportive or are his biggest fan, but you’ll soon realize how exhausting the whole thing is.
It’s natural to want your partner to feel good about themselves, but constantly having to reassure them and boost their confidence can be draining.
A strong man does not rely on his partner for validation.
He has a sense of self-worth and confidence that comes from within.
4. He is passive
I know how sweet it can be when your man tells you to take the initiative for both of you.
It’s cute sometimes, but it gets to a point where it becomes a problem.
It is that point where he lacks assertiveness and doesn’t take the initiative in any form.
When you’re not making decisions on his behalf, another person is doing it for him.
This passive lifestyle in your marriage can be the foundation for frustration.
This is because you have to think for not just yourself but the whole family.
It also leaves you with the task of executing anything you come up with.
5. He doesn’t support you
One thing that you can never overestimate is having a solid support system.
Being married to someone means that you find them trustworthy enough to rely on them and build your life around.
Imagine having a husband who fails to offer emotional or practical support to his wife during challenging times.
Is that not a display of weakness in his role as a spouse?
At this point, you may find that he may prioritize his needs and desires over yours.
6. He disappears without notice
I can understand if your man disappears without notice when you’re dating, for whatever reason he chose to.
However, your husband doing this is totally unacceptable.
The only exception to this rule was in bible times, and that was Jonah.
As a wife, you deserve to know where your husband is and when he plans on coming back home.
It’s not just about courtesy but also about respect for your time and feelings.
When your husband disappears without notice, it can leave you feeling anxious, worried, and even abandoned.
Any other married man has no reason or justification to go MIA (missing in action) without informing you.
A man who pulls a vanishing act when the going gets tough is weak.
A true husband stays by his wife’s side through thick and thin, relating honestly about any issues that may arise.
7. He is inconsistent
I know there are a number of factors that can cause a man to withdraw into his shell at any point.
However, constant unpredictable behavior, mood swings, and indecisiveness are signs of weakness.
A husband should be a stable and reliable presence in your life, not someone who adds to your stress and uncertainty.
If your husband constantly changes his mind, breaks promises, or is emotionally distant, you should know that this does not reflect on you or your worth.
It’s a sign of his inner struggles and his inability to cope with them in a mature and responsible way.
His emotions are always on a rollercoaster, and you can never tell how he will react to any situation.
8. He likes to be in control
I know we’re talking about the signs of a weak husband, but you’ll be surprised to know that a weak husband may want to control every aspect of your life.
This is simply because he is trying to fill the vacuum for his feelings of inadequacy and insecurity.
You’ll find him either being coercive, like telling you what to wear, or manipulative, like constantly checking your phone or emails.
He may even try to control your finances and make all the important decisions without consulting you.
Sometimes, he might succumb to manipulation tactics and let others control him to feel like he has some sort of power.
This need for control can stem from deep-seated insecurities and a fear of losing you or being seen as weak in the eyes of others.
A strong and confident husband would not feel the need to control his partner, but a weak one does so to boost his self-esteem.
9. He lacks boundaries
A controlling husband often has a lack of boundaries when it comes to respecting your personal space and privacy.
He may feel entitled to know every detail of your life and demand that you share everything with him, even if you’re uncomfortable doing so.
This is why you’d always feel suffocated when he starts to ask his numerous questions.
You feel like you’re being rudely invaded, and there’s no respect for your personal space.
Yes, personal space needs to be maintained even in marriage.
No matter how fused you may be with your husband, he needs to understand that you have your individual lives to live even though you’re married.
A man who doesn’t respect your boundaries also tends to be possessive and jealous.
This, in turn, will make it difficult for you to build and maintain meaningful connections around you.
10. He doesn’t improve himself
Finally, a weak husband may resist personal growth and self-improvement, remaining stagnant in his attitudes and behaviors.
This is simply because he is not willing to put in the effort to better himself and be a better partner for you.
He may also lack ambition and drive, which can be frustrating for you as a person who wants to grow together with your spouse.
A husband who doesn’t strive for personal growth can hold back your relationship from reaching its full potential.
Also, he may be unwilling to confront his weaknesses because of a fear of failure or criticism.
He doesn’t want to face the uncomfortable truth and chooses to remain complacent instead.
Another reason is the fact that he doesn’t want to leave his comfort zone.
Personal growth often requires stepping out of one’s comfort zone and trying new things, which might be intimidating for him.
