8th Day Love, part two…
Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | December 6, 2023
8th Day Love, part two…
Here are a few tips to help you to become an eighth day lover.
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Valentine’s Day, Birthdays and Christmas are not a get out of jail card.
If you have ignored your true love or family the rest of the year, doing something nice on a day when it is expected will not get you anywhere. Being an eighth day lover is a 24/7 job and there isn’t enough time to do it all. Make every moment count. Always ask what have you done for each other, lately?
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Everyday should be filled with love gestures and niceties. God doesn’t just love us Sundays when we are at church.
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Don’t be satisfied with neutral.
All those years have gone by and well the “thrill is gone”. So, we become satisfied in our numbness. We know each other too well and we just get by. Don’t say, “It’s no big deal, we don’t get stuff for each other anymore”. That is the perfect moment to begin to change, when doing something nice is not expected. Do it because you are an8th day lover. It is guaranteed to put the fun back into your relationship.
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You must make an investment in your relationships.
Love is hard work, and the work is a lifetime commitment if you want an eighth day life. You have to date; you must commit time and you must be there. We have it so easy now with cell phones and text messages. Reach out and say you love them. Don’t let the time pass without saying the things you need to say.
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Make your relationships a priority.
Yes, you must pay the bills, mow the lawn, and clean the house. But those things become priorities in life and rob us of time from important things, like family and friends. I talk to many couples and ask when they last went on a date, and many say it has been over a year. Obviously, their relationship isn’t a priority. All that other stuff has taken over the most important place in your lives, people, family, friends and relationships. Get your priorities straight.
God is eternal and his plan for us is for eternity.
However, our time on this ball, we call earth, is limited.
We must live for the eighth day and understand that we have an existence beyond what we can feel and touch in the here and now. If we live for the eighth day, then we can truly live more fully and love more deeply. There is not enough time to waste on the petty things we concentrate so much on.
The things we desire and the arguments we hold onto, pale in comparison to the glory of God’s 8th day love.
Frank J Walker LMFT-retired
Frank is a retired marriage counselor living on the central coast.
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