9 Signs of a Husband Who Cherishes His Marriage - Olubunmi Mabel
When you go on social media, there is so much marriage bashing and tales of bad marriages.
I am not saying anything is wrong with that; people have a right to talk about their experiences without being invalidated.
However, there are also a lot of marriages where the couples cherish each other and their marriage.
These people know that marriage isn’t just about saying “I do” once; it’s about showing up every single day with love, respect, and commitment.
When a husband cherishes his marriage, it’s evident in the way he treats his wife.
You see it in his grand gestures and small moments and in the way he ensures his wife feels valued.
However, there are times when doubts can creep in, especially with so much going on out there.
We might say we shouldn’t internalize other people’s stories – and you will be right – but humans are sponges, so we cannot always avoid these things.
So, if you’re wondering whether your husband truly cherishes your marriage, there are some unmistakable signs that show he’s all in.
Let’s take a look at them.
1. He listens to you
When your husband genuinely listens to you, it’s one of the biggest signs he values what you say and how you feel.
Before my husband and I got married, one of the reasons I considered him was because he showed he listened to me.
For instance, when I bring something up, he refers to it when I say something similar or connected.
And sometimes, I said those things in passing.
It always amazed me how much he listened to me to know everything I said.
That is one of the signs of a man who cherishes his relationship with you.
You’ll notice he’s engaged in everything related to you: asking questions, maintaining eye contact, and remembering details from even your trivial stories.
He listens because he cares about your happiness and wants to be someone you can always talk to.
He wants to know what makes you smile and what angers you so he can do the former and avoid the latter.
On the other hand, he listens because he values your opinion.
He wants to know what you think about different things and will consider your opinion, even if he doesn’t consistently implement them.
You will never feel like your opinion doesn’t matter when you are with a husband who cherishes his marriage.
2. He respects you.
When it comes to man-woman relationships, respect is often mentioned in relation to the woman respecting the man.
I have even heard people say women should respect their men while men are to love.
I say it is impossible to do one without the other; when you love someone, you will respect them.
So, if your husband cherishes you, he will automatically respect you.
If your husband doesn’t respect you, his love for you is questionable.
A man who cherishes his marriage with you will value your boundaries, support your dreams, and treat you with kindness, even in disagreements.
His respect for you will be evident through his actions; you will see that he’s proud to be with you and values you as his equal.
He won’t talk down to you or brush off your opinions because he sees you as his partner and appreciates everything you bring to the relationship.
3. He communicates.
Everybody talks, but not everybody communicates.
A man who cherishes his marriage will be in the latter category.
When your husband tries to talk openly, it shows he cares about keeping your bond strong.
You will see that he doesn’t just stick to surface-level topics but is willing to dig deep, share his feelings, and hear yours.
He will want to connect with you deeply; therefore, you will not need to force him to have honest and deep conversations.
Such a man knows that a strong marriage needs honesty and openness, and he’ll work to keep that flow between you alive.
4. He is affectionate.
Affection is something that cannot be hidden.
Once someone has feelings for another, they will likely want to touch or have some form of bodily contact with them.
Of course, this depends on their culture, as some are more expressive than others.
But even in conservative societies, people will still display affection privately if they cannot do it publicly.
Whatever the case, you will notice your husband touching you in small ways – random hugs, hand-holding, and spontaneous kisses.
5. He sacrifices and compromises.
Marriage is full of give and take, and a husband who cherishes you will show it by making sacrifices and meeting you halfway.
He’ll go out of his way to support you, adjusting his own plans to make things work for both of you.
Of course, he shouldn’t always let you have your way as that isn’t also healthy.
But he will do his bit and bend when necessary to make sure the marriage thrives.
His actions will show he’s willing to try to keep both of you happy.
6. He commits to the marriage.
In the same vein, a husband who cherishes his marriage will commit to it.
This will be evident in how he shows up daily, through every high and low.
You will see that your husband isn’t just present physically; he’s emotionally invested, putting in the time and effort to strengthen your relationship.
A man who cherishes his wife will prove to her every day that she and the life they’ve built together are his top priorities.
She will never doubt her place in his life because he will make it clear that the marriage is something he is willing to fight for and nurture.
7. He is faithful.
This goes without saying; if a man cherishes his marriage, he will be faithful to the commitment he made when he said, “I do.”
He will do all he can to make sure not to be disloyal to the union.
However, faithfulness is more than staying physically loyal; it’s also about honoring the trust you share.
A husband who cherishes his marriage values this trust and does everything to protect it.
He’s not interested in other options because, for him, you’re enough.
You will see his complete devotion to you.
He will respect the boundaries you both share and won’t jeopardize them because he knows the importance of building a steady and secure life.
8. He protects you.
When a man cherishes his wife, he will protect her and make sure she is safe.
Note that this is different from control.
When someone wants to control you, they give you a tight leash and don’t allow you to make an independent decision.
But when they are protecting you, they care deeply about your safety, well-being, and peace of mind.
He will stand by you, offering support and encouragement when things get tough.
If he senses you’re stressed or struggling, he’s the first to ask how he can help.
He’s there as your partner and your teammate, making you feel safe and loved.
A man protecting you will show you that your happiness and well-being matter to him.
9. He shows you off
You don’t need to think too far; if your husband is not proud to show you off, he doesn’t cherish his marriage.
If he does, he will not hesitate to shout to the rooftops that he is your husband.
Of course, this doesn’t mean he has to announce his feelings on social media, as this is a common misconception.
Some men are social media savvy, and some aren’t.
Even for the former, they might want to keep their relationship off social media.
So, it is not about that.
It is about how he constantly brings you up in conversations, talks about you fondly, introduces you with excitement, and celebrates your accomplishments.
He is proud of you and wants people to know how much he values you.
A man who cherishes you doesn’t hide the joy he feels being your husband.
