IF You Are Afraid Of Him, Stay Away From Him!

It’s a dangerous world. There are dangerous people. If you are afraid of someone, should you stay away from them? The answer sounds obvious. Yes! Yet, sometimes it’s not so simple.

I have been in situations in my past where men made me nervous, gave me dangerous vibes right from the get-go and I proceeded with them anyway.

I never let it get very far because I am a very cautious person and as it panned out, something was off to the point where I refused to move forward.

Fortunately, it was early enough that they had not gotten very attached or territorial, for the most part. I know how sometimes as women, some of us brush these types of things off.

I know of other women who have pushed past obvious danger signs to proceed in relationships with men. God forbid, it could have been fatal for them.

It has been fatal for other women. There are women who date and marry men that they are afraid of. These men give off vibes and act out in ways that cause women to fear for their safety.

Yet, some women are so determined to have men, to be in relationships. Others are so determined to marry and have families, no matter what. In particular, they fall victim to the charm and love bombing of these types of men.

They often will override their fears and go ahead and marry in order to make their dreams come true. It’s usually downhill from there. Ladies, if you are afraid of him, you are afraid of him for a good reason. This fear does not happen for no reason.

It is wise to stay away from him. It doesn’t matter the charm he has. You may fear him, but he has all the right things to say. You may fear him, but he takes you on shopping sprees. He may snap at times and then love bomb you at other times.

Love does no one any harm. If he loved you, he would not harm you. If he was a safe person, you would not feel afraid of him. Do not ignore your God-given intuition. Do not ignore and make light of the facts.

Ladies who are Christians often pray and still override their discernment and intuition. Please do not resist the Holy Spirit. Do not idolize men. For Christian women, let God reign and rule in your hearts and lives.

A lot of men have unaddressed severe issues and they are somewhat able to successfully hide this from those they are not close to. They have anger and rage problems, unforgiveness in their hearts. Bitter contempt for women.

These types of men sometimes feel bitter, powerless and they aim to dominate, mistreat and control women because this is the one source of “power” they have in their lives.

Many are walking around, covering up their mental, emotional and spiritual problems with important titles, charm and corporate success. Thankfully, other men seek help. God bless them and may God help them.

A man’s provision is not limited to material/financial provision. His provision also includes providing safety and love.

Dear women: do not prioritize materialism over a healthy, safe relationship and marriage with your men.

This message can also be inverted. If men are dealing with women who are giving them all kinds of alarm bells, red flags and do not give them peace in their spirits, why marry or date those types of women? Your all around wellness and safety is most important also, gentlemen.

Important Bible Verses:

Happy is the man who finds wisdom,
And the man who gains understanding;
 For her proceeds are better than the profits of silver, and her gain than fine gold.
She is more precious than rubies,
And all the things you may desire cannot compare with her. Proverbs 3: 13-15 NKJV.

Wisdom is crucial!

See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Ephesians 5: 15 NKJV.

Love does not harm.

Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. Romans 13: 10 NKJV.


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