It is not things…
Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 2, 2023
It is not things…
‘It is not things themselves that trouble people, but their opinions about things.’
– Epictetus, second century CE
What seems to get us into so much trouble is our opinions about things.
Our oppinions are based on judgements, taste, feelings, mood, and prejudices.
All these things that make up our oppinions are malleable and change. Our oppinions change.
It’s our oppinions that cause fights, hurt feelings and generally cause problems.
Much of what we think of as our oppinions are made up of someone else’s oppinions.
So, my advice is to keep your opinion to yourself. Especially when it is not asked for.
If you are asked for your oppinion take a few moments to really think it through. base your oppinion on known facts and be gentle in sharing your opinion.
Most of the time just be quiet. Stay out of trouble.
There’s a great Groucho Marks line about oppinions, ” You’ve got a point there. Wear a hat and nobody will notice”.
Frank is a retired marriage counselor living on the central coast.
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