Have you ever had to live with a perfectionist? I have. They’re the worst! They expect you to do everything as they do, perfectly! (According to them.) The pressure of trying to remember, anticipate, expect, to be proactive while doing it all perfectly is unbearable. One can be so nervous trying not to mess up that they actually do. You feel horrible when getting yelled at and chewed out for making the silliest, most minor mistakes that, in the realm of the universe, don’t matter.

The worst part of growing up with a perfectionist is turning into one when you get older!

You know you don’t want to treat people the way you were treated, but you struggle not to point out or comment when another person does things wrong, in your opinion. They’re right, it’s not fair!

Some people live with a mindset that since God is perfect, and He is, He is just waiting for them to mess up so He can beat them over the head. They fear his wrath and judgment. They might even feel “unworthy” of his love. The truth is, we should “respect” his wrath and judgment but not “fear” it. You see, because He is love, He is just and faithful to forgive us of our sins if we confess them.

If we claim that we’re free of sin, we’re only fooling ourselves. A claim like that is errant nonsense. On the other hand, if we admit our sins—simply come clean about them—he won’t let us down; he’ll be true to himself. He’ll forgive our sins and purge us of all wrongdoing. If we claim that we’ve never sinned, we out-and-out contradict God—make a liar out of him. A claim like that only shows off our ignorance of God. 1 John 1:8-10 (MSG)

God freely gives us grace. Knowing that his grace is available and that you can live in it, is a beautiful thing. There is no fear or nervousness about messing up. Not that you can go out and live however you want to, though. That would be trampling on the cross and minimizing the horrible death that Jesus went through for you and me.

The grace of our Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus. 1 Tim. 1:14 (NIV)

For out of His fullness [the superabundance of His grace and truth] we have all received grace upon grace [spiritual blessing upon spiritual blessing, favor upon favor, and gift heaped upon gift].
John 1:16 (AMP)

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