Tips for happy christian marriage

Tips for happy christian marriage

Posted on April 26, 2009 Updated on April 25, 2009

Genesis 11:7

            Have you ever noticed that men and women sometimes seen to be speaking different language women tend to be verbal while men tend to be physical. Women want to talk about everything; men don’t always use words Even male-to-male, men often communicate through touch.

A pat on the back means: I like you.”  A coach’s playful slap on a basketball player’s rump says, “Good job!”

            Men and women need to learn each other’ method of communication. Whenever I feel affectionate, the first thing I want to do buy my wife a gift, she would go into orbit over cards! She keeps cards that are so old they’ve turned yellow. We spent the first few years of our marriage leaning each other’s language.

            Instead of feeling neglected, ask your husband to share with you why he does what he does and says what he says. Or better still, observe his method of communication and teach him yours. Your spouse may think he’s telling you one thing when you’ve hearing another. He may wonder, “What more does she wants? I married her, didn’t i? I did this and that and the other for her.

            You may be living in the Tower of Babel. That was the place where families were divided because they could not understand each other’s language. You’d better get busy and learn before frustration turns your house-hold into Babel, all progress ceased and confusion took over.

            When you approach your husband, do not corner him. Catch him at a time when he won’t feel interrogated. You may be surprised that men tend to avoid open confrontation.

I have seen big. Burly, macho men intimidated by a hundred-pound woman. Even men who are physically abuse still have moments of anxiety when facing their wives. As the Bible says, “It is contentious woman” (Proverbs 25:24). Unless you are deliberately trying to drive him away, remember that you could win the argument and lose the man.

            Faith calls those things that are as through they were (seen Romans 4:17). Everything you were going to do for him when changes, do it now and do it by faith. Then God will turn your Tower of Babel into a Pentecost.

 At Pentecost, each person heard the message in his own language (see Acts 2:6). I pray that God would interpret the language love so that your marriage will be powerful and productive.        

Source: T.D.Jakes