Unwanted (at the time) path - Divorce Minister

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“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” 

-John 21:18b, NIV

Unfortunately, I was the first.

Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first cousin to break that trend. The pastor.

Yet, I felt incredible support from my family at the same time.

I will never forget the kindness of my family when I attended a reunion and had some really deep conversations with members I had not connected with before… at least, not to that level. What I found was that the shame I was feeling was self-inflicted. It wasn’t coming from them.

Divorce was not my chosen path.

Yet God in His wisdom and mercy had me go down that path. Without going that way, I never would have the abundant life I live today. I am SO grateful for this second chapter!

Just because you think you are shameful for your divorce, do not give into the lie that it means your life will have to be diminished. I found I really began to live after my divorce.

God sometimes leads us through difficult paths in order to forge us into just the right “tool” for an abundant life of ministry.

You might be surprised that the mercy of divorce leads to a life of goodness you could have never imagined while going through it. I know that is true for me.

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