Telling You How a Christian Should Behave - Divorce Minister

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How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?

-Matthew 7:4, NIV

Some cheaters are so bold as to believe they know how YOU need to improve as a Christian!

They are breaking several of the Ten Commandments actively, yet THEY know you need to up your game to be a “good” Christian. The truth is that they see a way to manipulate you and are attempting to do so by threatening you with the “bad” Christian label.

Maybe it is not just the cheater? Maybe their supporters are “helping” the situation by attacking you along these lines? They act as if the real problem is how YOU need to be a better Christian.

Consider the source.

These people–Cheater included–do not have your best interests in mind. They care not for the real matters of godliness or they would have spent this energy rebuking or repenting.

It is all manipulation and spiritual abuse. They are weaponizing your faith to attempt to control you. Don’t let them.

Accept that you cannot control what they say or think about you.

So, they think you’re a bad Christian? Well, that is actually a good thing considering the source. 

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