Causes and solutions to marital crisis, conflicts, and breakdown

Causes and solutions to marital crisis, conflicts, and breakdown

Posted on May 23, 2014

Memorise: “Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake” (Rom 13:5)

Read: Romans 13:1-5

Wives are commanded to submit to their husbands in all things (Eph 5:22-24). Some wives find it difficult to submit to their husbands just because they are taller, richer, more better placed, or more educated. Even if you were the president of a nation, God still expects that wife to submit to her husband in all things.Submission is an act of faith. That means if you can submit to your husband in spite of contrary opinions and situations, it will be counted to you as righteousness. Similarly, the woman is expected to submit to her husband as if she was submitting to Christ (Eph 5:22).

This means that it is not the man that the wife is really submitting to, but the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. It also means the extent to which a wife can submit to her husband is the extent to which she can submit to Jesus Christ. A woman who cannot submit to her husband will not also submit to Jesus. Show me a woman who is wholly submitted to her husband and I will show you a woman who is wholly following the Lord. Based on this scripture, many wives who claim to love Christ and obey Him have been found to be liars.

There is a chain of obedience in every home. Children should submit to their parents, the wife to her husband; and the husband to submit to Jesus even as Jesus submits to God the Father. At any point this order is not followed, the obedience chain is broken.

“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything” (Eph 5:24). The question is, how is the church submissive to Christ? The church is the body while Christ is the Head.

All decisions are taken by the Lord and communicated to the church through the leaders. The church is dependent on the Lord. To what extent is your submission to your husband? The only extreme is where your husband tells you to do something that will displease God or break your fellowship with Him – that is sin.

As long as you are not asked to sin, the wife must totally comply with the decisions of her husband. After making suggestions, you will pray for divine guidance for your husband so that he does not make wrong decisions. You cannot be one with the husband you fail to totally submit to.

Whenever you submit to your head in the chain of obedience, responsibility and accountability are transferred to the one above you.