4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

-Hebrews 13:4, NLT

This is the phrase I find myself using to describe my ministry here and in person to others in the Church. I might drop the “marital” and simply say, “Infidelity Abuse Survivors” to talk about who is my target audience.

The point is to make clear where I stand on the issue and label infidelity abuse, which it is.

I find myself talking about this ministry more and more these days. After speaking at Chumpalooza 1.0, I realized that I needed to become more visible in this ministry.

This is the year of “being seen” for me. I feel God is calling me to be bolder about proclaiming this message of healing for infidelity abuse survivors.

I am taking more risks of letting others know I do this ministry. This year I hope to launch a specific support group for faithful spouses in person for those near where I live.

If it goes well, I may try to bring it to others. We will see where God takes this. The plan is to use my book as the starting point for a discussion and support group.

That said, I realize I have to start by having the language right to communicate to those open to learning where I stand. That is where the phrase “infidelity abuse survivor” comes to play.

It signals that I see victims in these situations and minister to those victims. That is what I do.

Infidelity abuse survivors are the sheep God has called me to shepherd, I believe, as He has taught me to comfort from the comfort He gave me during such a time.