There are six things the Lord hates— no, seven things he detests: haughty eyes, a lying tongue…. -Proverbs 6:16-17a, NLT One thing that is astounding looking back is how unaware of their arrogance Cheaters and their supporters were. They will lecture the adultery victim about being a “good Christian” while cheating or supporting the Cheater. With absolutely … Continue reading "Haughty Eyes and Lectures"
Marrying a divorced woman is a sin. By Babatope Babalobi babalobi@yahoo.com +234 80 35 897435 Save the World Christian Ministry App Click here to join our WhatsApp Prayer Group Matthew 19 …
Divorce is a sin By Babatope Babalobi babalobi@yahoo.com +234 80 35 897435 Save the World Christian Ministry App Click here to join our WhatsApp Prayer Group Mark 10 vs. 12 And if a woman shall…
Adultery and Lust is a sin. By Babatope Babalobi babalobi@yahoo.com +234 80 35 897435 Save the World Christian Ministry App Click here to join our WhatsApp Prayer Group Matthew 5 vs 28 But…
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The affair is never about the other–i.e. faithful–spouse. I know this is a controversial thing to write. But it is true from a pastor’s perspective. We know this truth from … Continue reading "NOT about the other–faithful–spouse!"
“It is not adultery. We were living apart at the time,” says Cheater. A cheater trying to avoid responsibility for violating their marriage vows might attempt to use the “geography excuse.” This is the one where they excuse their behavior as “acceptable” since they were living apart from their spouse. The separation might have even … Continue reading "Cheater-Speak: “But we were living apart then!”"
“Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” I hate that question. It is a “Loaded Question”–meaning it assumes you did something to destroy your marriage. Such questions are errors in reasoning–i.e. logical fallacies. While the question looks reasonable, it is really just a dressed up version of “The Shared Responsibility Lie,” … Continue reading "Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?"
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV I wonder how many of us had “skilled” Cheaters who could turn their wrong into “our” fault in the therapist’s or pastor’s office. Maybe they even freely admitted to cheating on you … Continue reading "Somehow I was wrong?!"
Teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. John 8:3 John chapter 8 begins by saying that Jesus h
21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. -Mark 7:21-22, NLT If not you, then someone else. I suspect the seeds for cheating were already planted within the Cheater’s heart when we first married them. They may or … Continue reading "If not you, then someone else."
See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. See that no one is sexually immoral…. -Hebrews 12:15-16a, NIV I am troubled. What bothers me is how the word “bitter” is used to discredit and silence victims of adultery. … Continue reading "“Bitter” used to discredit and dismiss"
Righteousness and justice are the foundation of your throne; love and faithfulness go before you. -Psalm 89:14, NIV I believe adultery is affront to the very throne or authority of God. As the Psalmist states here, we see love and faithfulness as linked to the symbol of God’s authority–i.e. His throne. Adultery is the opposite … Continue reading "Meditating on Psalm 89:14"
45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. -Luke 6:45, NIV Cheating is the manifestation of what the Cheater stored up in … Continue reading "Whatever they stored up…."
Cheating is exposed. Now, the cheater is willing to go to couples therapy and rebuild what the cheater destroyed. How does a faithful spouse approach such sessions with a Christian couples counselor? 1. Remember you have choices here. Did you choose this counselor? What do you know about him or her? If this person is … Continue reading "Be prepared. Post discovery and meeting for “help.”"
10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” -John 8:10-11, NIV Lessons from the Woman Caught In Adultery Story What strikes me–among many things–in this story is how … Continue reading "No blaming of faithful spouse"
Eliezer Gonzalez
Human relationships have always been one of the most difficult things for people to navigate. And it was like that in in Jesus’ time as well. The Pharisees had a question for Jesus about marriage and divorce. To understand what Jesus said here and in subsequent verses, you have to first understand the context. First, notice that this took place in “the region of Judaea and across the Jordan.” This is the region in which not too long ago, John the Baptist had been arrested and killed over what he had to say about marriage, adultery, and divorce. And Herod’s adulterous marriage was still a hot topic of conversation.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children. Then, on the other hand, they will … Continue reading "“For the kids” Really?!"
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading "That old bitter card"
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading "Adultery is truly evil!"
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading "Not an youth problem!"