MENTAL HEALTH MONDAYS: Domestic Abusive Behavior Versus Bipolar Disorder – How to Tell the Difference - The DV Walking Wounded

• 

Differentiating between domestic abuse and bipolar disorder can be complex as both can manifest in behaviors that may be harmful to the relationship. It’s essential to approach this with sensitivity and seek guidance from professionals if needed. Here are some considerations:

• Pattern of Behavior: Domestic abuse typically involves a repeated pattern of controlling, manipulative, or violent behavior aimed at exerting power over the partner. Look for consistent behaviors such as verbal or physical aggression, intimidation, threats, and coercion. In bipolar disorder, mood swings and behavior changes may occur but are often episodic and not necessarily targeted at controlling the partner.

• Impact on the Partner: In cases of domestic abuse, the partner often feels fearful, intimidated, and controlled. The abuse may lead to physical, emotional, or psychological harm, including low self-esteem and isolation. With bipolar disorder, there may be mood swings, impulsivity, and erratic behavior, but it may not necessarily be aimed at controlling the partner.
• Response to Triggers: In domestic abuse situations, the abusive behavior tends to be triggered by specific situations or events, often resulting in a disproportionate reaction. In bipolar disorder, mood episodes can also be triggered by stressors, but the behavior may not be directed specifically at the partner.
• Remorse and Accountability: Individuals with bipolar disorder may express remorse and take accountability for their actions during stable periods. In contrast, abusers may show minimal remorse or may blame the partner for their behavior, perpetuating the cycle of abuse.
• Professional Assessment: It’s crucial to involve mental health professionals for an accurate diagnosis and assessment. A psychiatrist or psychologist can evaluate the individual for bipolar disorder and provide appropriate treatment. Similarly, seeking support from domestic violence counselors or therapists can help assess the dynamics of the relationship and provide guidance on safety planning.
• Safety Planning: Regardless of the underlying cause, if you feel unsafe or threatened in your relationship, it’s essential to prioritize your safety. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or support organizations for assistance and develop a safety plan to protect yourself in case of emergencies.
• Educate Yourself: Learn about both bipolar disorder and domestic abuse to better understand the behaviors and dynamics involved. This knowledge can empower you to make informed decisions and seek appropriate support.

Remember, it’s not your responsibility to diagnose your partner, but it’s crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being in any relationship. If you’re unsure or concerned about your partner’s behavior, seek guidance from professionals and trusted individuals who can provide support and assistance.