What are your top regrets in life

If you could go back in time, what would you do differently? 

What are your regrets in life?

There is a famous saying that says, ”You Only Live Once,” so we should live the way we want without regrets. 

However, since we are imperfect, there are so many mistakes we have made or a lot of things we wish we could have done in the past.

Thus, we could not help but regret and wish we could have done better. 

Top regrets in life

As we grow old and become mature, we realize what matters in life, and all the things we have learned could make us think of what we should not have done or done in the past.

Here are some top regrets that could help us avoid so we could live the best life possible.

Taking God for granted

Sometimes, even Christians regret that they only took God for granted. We sometimes abuse God’s understanding and grace and do not prioritize Him. Some regret never taking God seriously as they focus on achieving their goals.

Besides, some people only talk to God when they need Him, and after getting everything they have prayed for, they return to their old habits. Some only go to church or pray to Him when they are sick. Then, once they are healed, they forget God.

Most people regret not valuing God’s goodness because they never experienced the fullness of His faithfulness and grace.

Acting like God

People who try to control the things out of their hands have regrets. They think they could act like God and solve everything. As a result, they become more worried, anxious, and tired. 

They keep fighting the battles alone instead of surrendering them to God. These people regret trying to do everything independently because they have wasted time working hard, but nothing seems to be happening. 

Moreover, as they act like God, they do not have peace of mind because they have to handle so many things on their minds. Even people around them are affected by their pride.

When we stop acting like God and let Him be Himself, we can enjoy life with the assurance that God will provide all our needs. We will also have a stronger faith that God can move mountains for us.

He is the God of the impossible and can only show it once we allow Him to.

To complain every day

With all our adversities and trials, it is challenging to remain thankful every day. There are days when we complain as we wake up instead of praising God. 

Whenever we complain, we do not realize the time we are wasting. We cannot see the goodness of life and the people around us when we are bombarded with negativity. We can only see the bad things in our situations and others. 

If we woke up in the morning, it is something that we should be grateful for because not everyone is given the chance to open their eyes and start a new day. Becoming thankful daily affects how we see and enjoy life amidst trials.

To live in resentments 

They say those resentful people are like drinking poison and wishing others to be affected. There is no peace for someone who lives in anger or has an unforgiving and envy heart. 

Most people regret living in resentment once they have lost their loved ones. They wish they used their time forgiving and expressing how much they mean to them, but it's too late. Thus, they have many regrets that could lead them to depression and guilt.

We can never go back in time, and hatred could only hinder us from showing our love and care to the people around us. Whenever we have difficulty forgiving others, remember God, who never hesitated to forgive us for our sins through Jesus Christ.

To spend too much time working

Many regret choosing their work over their family, health, and connection with God. They have worked long hours, missing the crucial moments in their children’s lives. 

We cannot blame parents for working hard to give their family a comfortable life. 

However, if they worked too hard to forget the needs of their kids, then they end up feeling sorry. Most of them do not have a good relationship with their children because they do not know them well.

Although we can be excellent providers, what memories can we store in our children’s hearts? 

It is essential to provide for the needs and wants of our kids, but what matters to them is our presence, especially when they need us the most.

Not having self-control

Without self-control, we will always end up in trouble. Many people regret doing or saying something because they are out of control with their emotions, such as anger. 

Not having self-control does not only destroy your connection with others but also your relationship with God. 

More so, they are destroying the beautiful plans God has prepared for them. 

Most people regret being too impulsive with their mouths because they hurt the people they value the most. Some regret not having self-control with vices and addictions. 

The Holy Spirit produces the power to control ourselves, so we need to ask His help to have self-discipline before feeling sorry for what we could do without it.

Staying in your comfort zone

It feels good to be comfortable, but those who did not leave their comfort zones regret it. My husband told the congregation in one of his sermons that if there is pressure, there is growth. Thus, pressure does not happen in our comfort zone but outside.

Most of us are afraid of leaving our comforts or fearful of failing, yet we would never know if we did not try. Many wish they could have tried the risk when there was a chance because now they only live with their “what ifs.”

Imagine all the successful people you know and even the characters in the Bible; they all went out of their comfort zone to experience breakthroughs and success in their fields.

Jesus Christ went down here on earth, gave up His Lordship, and became a human to fulfill His purpose. He has overcome death to save humanity and reunite us with our Heavenly Father. Thus, we should not be afraid to leave our comfort zones.

To be so serious in life

Once you get married or start to build your own family, you tend to become so serious in life that you forget to have some fun. They think spending time for enjoyment seems to be a waste time and feel guilty about it.

Marriage is supposed to be fun, and it is not made just to be a responsible spouse or parent to your kids. 

When was the last time you laughed out loud with your spouse? Or when did you last loosen up with all your roles at work and home?

Many people regret being so serious because they end up tired and not enjoying their lives.

Seek God’s wisdom

God never wanted us to live in regrets. He designed us to be happy and fulfilled with His plans. One of the reasons why we live with so many regrets is that we do not involve God in our decision-making. 

We should always seek God’s wisdom so we do not feel sorry for our decisions' outcomes.