This is the reality of catching your Cheater. You might try to discount what your eyes are seeing. People around you might even discourage you from facing the ugly reality.

Hidden texts and phone calls in the middle of the night or early in the morning with a stranger are not normal behaviors of faithful married partners.

That “friend” is a sexual partner. They are NOT a “friend.”

I am here to tell you that whatever you think about the ugly evidence in front of you; you probably are underestimating how bad it is and how long it has been going on under your nose. That’s just sad experience talking.

You are not crazy, and you have every right to be upset about this behavior! No one deserves to be soul raped, which is the spiritual reality of what happens in adultery.