You do not need to feel guilty when you cancel plans
Galatians 1:10:
"Am I trying to win people's approval, or am I trying to please God? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ."
You had plans with your family or friends, and it has been ages since you last hung out with them. But now, your anxiety is sky-high. You are just not feeling up to socializing because your mind is racing a mile a minute. You grab your phone, ready to shoot them a message about bailing. But then, guilt sneaks in and amplifies your anxiety.
You start second-guessing yourself whether to cancel plans or not. Will they be cool about it, or will they be annoyed? What if they think you are blowing them off intentionally? The worry creeps in—what if they take it personally? You cannot help but imagine the disappointed looks or the passive-aggressive texts.
Remember, you are not alone in feeling this way. Many people have been in your shoes, maybe even canceled plans one too many times. It is okay to prioritize your well-being, even if it means disappointing others. You cannot predict how your family or friends will react to you bailing, but remember, you are doing this for your own good.
Taking care of yourself is important, and sometimes that means stepping back from social obligations.
Your mental health matters, and if you need time to recharge, that is okay. It is better to be honest about how you are feeling than to push yourself into a situation that only makes you more anxious. Your loved ones will understand, and if they do not, it is not a reflection of your worth.
In fact, by taking care of yourself, you will be in a better position to show up for others in the future.
You might suggest rescheduling the plans for another day when you are feeling more up to it. You could also plan a special outing or activity to show them that you care. Another idea is to spend quality time with them in a smaller, more relaxed setting, like inviting them over for dinner or a movie night. Remember, it is the thought and effort that count, so find a way to show your appreciation for their understanding and support.
Moreover, consider what Galatians 1:10 says.
Are you canceling plans because it is what is best for you and honors God, or are you more worried about what others will think? Sometimes, we get caught up in trying to please everyone else. However, that can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety.
Instead, focus on doing what is right for you and what aligns with God's will. Trust that He understands your struggles and wants what is best for you. After all, you are not canceling plans because you do not like being with them or you are simply too lazy; you are canceling for the sake of your well-being. So, prioritize your mental health and trust that God's got your back, even if others do not understand.
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