I'm Glad I don't Fit In - Impacting Righteously
In this day and age, some people have opted out of what is healthy and traditional. Some people don’t believe in monogamy or marriage at this point. This is sad. It is destructive to society. It is certainly an individual’s decision whether or not they will marry and there is not necessarily anything wrong with them remaining single.
However, when the reason that someone does not want to get married is because they are non-committal and looking for an easy out, this is not good. When their decision is based on the idea that marriage is not necessary because it is more convenient to live as if married without making it official, it is unfortunate.
I value love over head games and using others. If I have a long-term partner, I believe it is worth it to make the high risk move for the high reward. Moving in faith and with God’s guidance, I believe it is worth it to get married to the right person when he proposes. Maybe these days, I am the odd one out?
The easier route does not mean the better route.
God’s design for marriage requires people to be faithful, committed, selfless, respectful, and to love sacrificially. Some people are looking for the easier way out. Some have given up on having reasonably high standards, because they don’t think that they can find a decent partner in this age of rampant corruption.
It’s easier to date someone, move in with them, then move out or kick the partner out if things don’t go well. There’s not so much risk in doing this as there is in getting married. It is easier for a man to indulge in pornography and play video games while calling women over for hookups periodically than to truly invest in her.
It is a lot easier and more convenient than to commit oneself in marriage to a spouse, be faithful, selfless, and do the work to maintain it. What I have noticed is that men generally lead; even without trying. I look at the behavior of many women and I believe that some women are mirroring men. For a long time, many women tended to behave better, and were generally expected to behave better than men.
Women desired love and family for a very long time. There were exceptions, but the majority of women have been very relationship-oriented and desired love with a life partner. This is still the case for some. For other women, this has changed. There are women who have given up on the idea that they can meet a man who is not inept at love and relationships.
Ironically, many ladies have been inadvertently influencing some of the unfortunate current circumstances.
For example, some women being willing and conditioned to put up with too much in their relationships for so long on such a wide scale has contributed to the deficit of suitable marriage partners. Some men simply don’t want to be bothered and haven’t had to be bothered.
They can always find women who settle. The fact that so many women settle (often because they don’t know any better) shows that some women tend to follow men, even when following them down the wrong path.
Also, women are showing up in the news as violent offenders a lot more often than before. It is a person’s free will decision to behave lawlessly. People are accountable for their own behavior.
Therefore, I am not blaming men for women’s behavior. People do bad things because of the sinful nature. I am simply acknowledging that women tend to follow as men lead. This is true of some other behavioral trends as well. It is not necessarily that the women are consciously trying to follow men’s lead.
It seems that this is just the way it pans out. In many cases, I witness women adapting behaviors and thought processes that I have previously seen mainly in some men. Often, some women respond and mirror the behavior and perspectives of certain men.
For a very long time, men, as well as some women have been saying that monogamy is not natural for men. Now, a lot of women are agreeing that monogamy is not natural for people in general.
I see proof of these changes more and more in these last days. There are women behaving in ways I could not have imagined. In Romans 1: 26 it says, “That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other.”
I know this is a matter of interpretation, but to me, it sounds like it was less anticipated in that time period also, for women to do certain things.
There are trends that have mostly been seen in some men, and now they are becoming more popular with women. I observe that women are committing more murders than before, including of their own children.
A lot of women have given up on the idea of love and are interested in hookups or simply remaining single. What a sad state of affairs! It certainly is better to remain single than to settle. Personally, I understand that the important thing for me to do is to do what is right, even if every other person around me is doing what is wrong.
Those of us who have values rooted in godly principles must stand firm. As challenging as it may become, it is important not to go with the wrong flow. The Holy Spirit is who empowers me to live a holy life, even in a dangerous and perverted world (Galatians 5: 16).
I cannot do it in my own strength. I know I must remain transformed with a renewed mind (having the mind of Christ); never conforming to this world.
Some people are tired of waiting on their dreams to come true. They are tired of waiting to meet that right partner. They are tired of waiting to get married. They are tired of trying to find authentic friendships. They are tired of expecting faithfulness, but being cheated on.
For these reasons, I understand the temptation to give up and settle. Some people give up and settle for people who cheat. Some people have fake friends and they seem okay with it, as long as their social needs are being met.
Keeping company with people who do not do what is right is helping to encourage their bad behavior. These types of people negatively influence the people who keep company with them.
“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time,we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6: 9.
It is important to remember that all I do should be to glorify God (1 Corinthians 10: 31). Whether it is my friendships, relationships with family members, relationship with my employer and colleagues, or a romantic relationship, various activities, it should be God-glorifying.
The worse the world becomes, the more followers of Jesus Christ stand out as light in this dark world. This is the goal! Pressures are increasing on Christians. Opposition to Christianity is increasing. To stick with God and do right is not popular. But it is so worth it.
It is so encouraging to know that as children of the Most High, we do not fit in, because we are called out and set apart. We are separate. We must keep fighting the good fight of faith. I am pleased to not fit in with the culture. On behalf of God, for the sake of the future and the sake of our legacy, may God strengthen us in Him and keep us faithful, enduring until the end.
