Do You Feel Awkward When Someone Compliments You about Your Child?
Do You Feel Awkward When Someone Compliments You about Your Child?
Maybe I’m the only one, but I feel awkward when someone compliments me about my child.
I said, compliments me about my child–not just compliment my child. I’m thrilled to hear someone say something praise-worthy about my child. But when the point focuses on me, I feel like I am being invited to stand on the edge of quicksand and not know if I should step out or step back..or stand still.
Do I take credit? Do I try to convince my friend I actually wasn’t that great of a mom? Do I point out my good choices or my bad actions? How do I credit God even when I did depend upon His empowering to grow as a mom? Will I come across as humble or proud depending upon what I say? No wonder hearing my friend’s words feel uncomfortable. I feel paralyzed and confused.
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If you’ve ever felt similarly, you and I can take encouragement and courage from an interaction Doctor Luke recorded.
While Jesus was saying these things, one of the women in the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that carried You, and the breasts at which You nursed!” But He said, “On the contrary, blessed are those who hear the word of God and follow it.” (Luke 11:27-28 NASB)
The woman’s comment in Luke 11:27 is both a compliment to Mary, Jesus’s mother, and to Jesus himself. She is saying, “Your mother must be so happy to have a son like you. You are wonderful.” She might even be insinuating Mary must be a special kind of mother to have raised such an amazing son who had the courage to correct the Pharisees in front of the crowd and deliver a man from an unclean spirit (Luke 11:14-26).
Interestingly, during Jesus’s ministry, Mary along with Jesus’s half-siblings believed he had lost his mind (Mark 3:21). We can only wonder if in truth Mary was embarrassed to have a “son like him.” Thankfully, the truths told Mary at Jesus’s conception and birth won out, and Mary and several of Jesus’s half-siblings believed in Him as Savior and became a part of the early church. Jesus’s response to the woman in the crowd indicates He didn’t depend upon her recognition of His goodness, or how He was a blessing to His mother. And Jesus didn’t go into a detailed explanation about whether His mother was a good mother or not—or even whether He was a great son. Only upon His Heavenly Father’s acknowledgement.
Jesus’s dependence upon His Father’s recognition can strengthen us. We don’t have to be puffed up with pride hearing compliments about ourselves or our children. Jesus’s focus is on those who follow God’s Word. The change in other people is what thrills Him and is the ultimate blessing. If we can have the same focus, we will be strong in not depending upon the comments of others—whether positive or negative, especially about our offspring.
Of course, we should acknowledge the comments from others. This is not wrong. God most likely was prompting our friend to bless us through compliments about our child. We can courageously receive His support.
So what to do? Courageously reply with a simple sentence and joyfully receive God’s encouragement. Ultimately, the best compliment we and our children will ever hear is God’s encouragement, “Well done, good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:21).
I’d love to hear your feedback. What have you found to be the best way to respond to someone complimenting you because of your child?
Copyright and excerpted from Heart of Courage: Daughters of the King Bible Study Series
