How Long Am I Going to Be Mad About It?

I was really upset with her. I don’t need to tell you the details because I want you to fill in the blanks yourself.

I was really mad at _______ for ________. I’m not worried about you not having anything to put in those blanks because you’re human. We’ve all been really irked at someone for hurting our feelings, hampering our plans or a whole lot worse.

There were two brothers in the bible that had a falling out: Easu and Jacob. Esau was really angry at his younger brother, Jacob, for stealing his birthright, aka, his inheritance. That was a lot more than hurting his feelings.

After Esau realized Jacob had tricked their dad into giving Jacob the blessing that was his birthright, Esau pleaded, “But do you have only one blessing? Oh, my father, bless me, too!” Then Esau broke down and wept.

Finally, his father, Isaac, said to him,“

You will live away from the richness of the earth,

and away from the dew of the heaven above.

You will live by your sword,

and you will serve your brother.

But when you decide to break free, you will shake his yoke from your neck.” (27:38–40 NLT, emphasis added)

We don’t know much about what went on with Esau between the time his brother fled to Haran and the time Jacob returned home to Bethel. We do know that Esau did not like his story.

But something happened in Esau’s heart over the next twenty years. He went from vowing to kill his brother (Genesis 27:41) to embracing him when he returned (Genesis 32-33). I’m sure it was a process, but it started with a decision.

Let’s go back and look at Isaac’s words to Esau: “But when you decide to break free, you will shake his yoke from your neck” (v. 40 NLT emphasis added). The AMPC translation says, “break loose.” The Hebrew word translated “break loose” is paraq, which also means deliver or rescue.

When do we break loose from the yoke of unforgiveness that wraps around our necks and weighs on our shoulders? When we get restless and decide to break free. That’s when our stories will take a new direction.

I can assure you of this, the devil does not want you to break free from the weight of the past. He wants you to wear the yoke of bitterness and resentment for the rest of your life. I can envision him polishing the yoke with a fresh coat of remembrance so shiny he can see his reflection in the surface.

Paul wrote, “And what I have forgiven—if there was anything to forgive—I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake,in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes” (2 Corinthians 2:10–11). And what are these schemes? To keep us stuck in a bad story on a dog-eared page of unforgiveness. What is God’s ultimate best? To set us free from the burden of resentment so we can write a new ending to our stories.

It was Esau’s decision to forgive that set both brothers free. Esau was free, and he set Jacob free as well. At the time of Jacob’s betrayal, I’m sure Esau thought he could never forgive the offense. But grace takes what is impossible with man and makes it possible with God.

So, for you and for me, it’s time to decide. Will we let go of the anger or hang on to the offense? Will we stay mad or simmer down? Will we shine that yoke clamped around our necks or sever the clasp with the cutters of grace and break free?

Interestingly, today, rather than a yoke of unforgiveness around my neck, I wear a cross…the symbol of God’s ultimate forgiveness of me.

Heavenly Father. ________ hurt my feelings and I have been holding a grudge for long enough. Today, I’m making a decision to set myself free from the yoke of bitterness. I’ve got the key in the shape of a cross. I’ve got the power in the form of the Holy Spirit. I’m deciding, right now, today, to let the offense go. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Is there someone you need to cut loose today? A yoke of bitterness you need to cut loose to live free. Let’s do it together. Leave a comment and say, “I’m letting go of bitterness against the person who hurt me today!

Digging Deeper

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