The Three Keys to a Thriving Marriage
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Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. – Ephesians 4:32
I’ll never forget the first time I saw Craig McLeod, with his jet-black hair and captivating blue eyes. When he opened his mouth to introduce himself, the southern drawl that moseyed out melted this northern girl’s heart.
We were married just seven months later, and I have never regretted it—not even for one minute. However, we have traveled treacherous waters over the four decades of our marriage and encountered heartbreaking situations. Our love has stood the tests, and our hearts have remained committed.
I have learned that a vibrant, intimate relationship with Jesus Christ is the key to a fulfilling and joyful marriage. As I fall deeper in love with my Savior, my marriage can thrive and grow even stronger. When I neglect to spend time alone with Jesus, I often find myself becoming selfish and demanding. Jesus is the oil that soothes hurt feelings, broken communication, and long-held habits. If you ignore intimacy with Christ, your marriage will quickly go on life support. A stable marriage is more than a partnership between two people; it is a triangle with Jesus at the head.
Another secret that has kept our marriage happy and strong is simple kindness. We are in a continual competition to see who can outdo the other with sweet acts of kindness and unselfish service. I love walking into the kitchen and realizing that Craig has cleaned it from top to bottom! When I sit down to watch a football game with my athletic husband, his smile fills the room. He folds laundry, puts gas in my car, and makes a better bed than I do. I often make all his favorite recipes, only talk kindly of him with my friends, and put the toilet seat down without saying a word. You will be surprised at how uncommon kindness can revolutionize a marriage that was formerly on life support!
Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you. – Ephesians 4:32
And finally, praying with each other is a rare and precious gift. When we are upset with one another, we hold hands and pray. When the finances are tight, we pause and pray. When one of our children has gone astray, we pray with tears rolling down our cheeks. We pray in the morning and at night. We pray at meals and in the car. We pray for others, and we pray for our children and grandchildren by name.
A great marriage is built upon Jesus, kindness, and prayer; it has little to do with physical appearance, financial wealth, or even desire. As you commit yourself to falling in love with Jesus, the kindness competition, and an active prayer partnership, your marriage will be filled with joy and fulfillment.
Questions for Reflection:
1. What have you found to be the secret of a great marriage?
2. Is there anything you need to forgive your spouse for? Have you allowed unforgiveness to grow into bitterness?
3. What is the best part of your marriage?
