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You’re a Christian & Afraid to Get Married.

Would it help if I told you that you are not the only one? It seems like everywhere I turn, there is another young woman who simply does not care too much about getting married.

In fact, I used to be one of them.

What was my reason? Well, perhaps like many out there, it was due to divorce.

My parents got divorced when I was only eight years old. At a very young age, I had to witness two broken adults try to put their pieces of life and love back together. I witnessed them being mean to each other. I experienced the custody battle and having to live in two completely separate worlds every single week. And the trauma that I went through during that childhood was enough for one person to ever have to go through.

Did I want to fall in love? Yes. Was living happily ever after with a man something I very much desired? Yes. Was my faith strong enough to believe that Mr. Right would someday come? YES!

And yet, when my husband actually did come along, I was utterly terrified of our relationship progressing onward. Why? Because I was afraid to get married.

I didn’t want to end up like my parents.

The fear of having to experience something so tragic all over again was extremely heavy. And to me (at the time) it would be an inevitable path if we got married.

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Looking back at it, I can totally understand why there you are a Christian and don’t want to get married. After all, you’ve probably experienced something similar to my own trauma. Perhaps something even more traumatic.

I get it.

But in all of that thought process, I can now see that during that time, I was solely focusing on the “what if’s” that stemmed from the broken relationships (and people) around me.

And it wasn’t until I started to consider this new way of thinking that I was able to build the relationship I now love that lead me to a happy and healthy marriage.

Are you a Christian & afraid to get married? In this video, I’m going to share one thing you’re overlooking that could help your faith and your fear of getting married.

Click below on this video to enjoy!

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