What Dads Do Best
When our son, Alex, was earning his Eagle Scout rank, he embarked on his troop’s backpacking adventure at Philmont Scout Ranch, a desert wilderness area in New Mexico.
Mark, my husband, joined him with other Boy Scouts and leaders to hike almost 100 miles in the Rockies, including a climb to the 12,000 foot peak of Mount Baldy. It wasn’t easy for 16-year-old Alex to keep up—Mark was more than a foot taller than Alex. But Mark encouraged him to keep going.
Every evening, the two of them shared putting up their tent, preparing meals, cleaning up, and other chores. Except for one day. Even though they hiked into a soaking rain, Mark became dehydrated.
Alex could see his dad was in trouble and went immediately to work. He set up the tent by himself in the downpour so Mark could collapse inside. Alex fixed their meal, roused Mark to make him eat and drink, and then finished other tasks before finally resting in the tent himself. All without complaining.
The next day, Mark recovered and realized with gratitude all that Alex had done solo to manage the responsibilities. But it was really Mark’s doing. You see, Mark had already done what dads do best—he had set an example from the beginning. Alex recognized the critical needs and knew how to handle them because he had watched Mark.
Dad, you have an incredibly valuable role in your family. Whether you’re aware of it or not, your children are observing you and listening—about how you take initiative, respond in a crisis, speak to others, and exhibit integrity.
Your example of leadership speaks more powerfully than any advice you offer. Your honesty, strength, and gentleness add motivation for their obedience. Your forgiveness gives them confidence. The hours you spend with your children in their younger years are vital to guarding your time together in their adulthood.
In all of this, your success in fatherhood begins with your relationship with Jesus. When you begin your day with Christ, with His wisdom and compassion, you stand a better chance of showing a good example to your children.
The years with young ones are short. While they’re still in your household, don’t miss a moment to leave an unmistakable imprint of your faith in Christ on their hearts. Ask for His help as you strive to be their spiritual leader. Take your children to church with you. Pray for and with them, every single day.
Dad, you won’t be perfect. Only God can completely fulfill that role. But, by His gift of faith and the indwelling of His Holy Spirit, you will find yourself capable of loving your children far beyond you ever imagined.
Walking with Jesus in His love is the example you want them to take to heart. And it’s what dads do best.
Questions for Reflection:
- What are some fond memories you have of your father from when you were growing up?
- How often do you pray for God to guide the fathers in your life to provide a nurturing spirit to your family?
- What types of things can you do to encourage the fathers in your life that will benefit you and your entire family?
