You Should be More Appreciative..

I don’t own your time.

I don’t judge you for not always been around, the same way I don’t judge me for same reason.
These days, everything is moving so fast and no one wants to be left behind. Everyone wants to get involved.

So, don’t blame yourself for not being always available for the people you truly care about. Most of us don’t know how choking it is for people.

The same way I appreciate the friends who reach me at least once everyday is the same way I appreciate the friends who do what they could in reaching me, once a week, once a month or even yearly. I don’t own your time, darling. I’m one person who understands that time is expensive and if you’re giving me an hour or more of your 24 hours, I won’t take it for granted.
If you give me an hour every day, do you know how many hours of your life you’ve freely given to me? Oh yes, I check these things. I appreciate them too.

I know the saying quite alright, “you make time for the ones you love.” That’s beautiful, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your mental health. When we try to carry so much on our shoulders we end up losing fruits on everything. We tend to use the energy needed for something so important to replace something you can do any other time.

People are busy, that I know. I don’t want to be one to tell you ‘Hey, you’ve forgotten this girl o,’ I want to be one who’ll reach out when you forget me. I want to be one who’ll do that without taking you on that guilt trip I know absolutely no one deserves.
The fact that it’s all rosy and easy for you, doesn’t mean it’s the same way for your friend. Many persons aren’t having it easy, whenever you get to talk to them, don’t remind them of their inconsistency in this friendship thing. Please don’t give them one more thing to brood on, let them know you’ll be one to try to remember when they forget. And, when you get so busy you forget too, don’t beat yourself up. You’re just one person. When you eventually reach out, or the other person does, make the time you spend talking to each other worthwhile. You don’t have to mention how long it has been since you last had a conversation.
You can talk about what you’ve been working on, share recent updates and pray for each other.

This life shouldn’t be this complicated. Understanding not just how people are built, but also how the world is evolving is very important.
The world is changing and at the same time, things are changing. The world can’t be changing and it won’t have any effect in our lives and the way we think and do things. Please, don’t be left behind. Catch up! Don’t stay in the era of ‘ you’ve been so busy, you forgot me.’ Of course, darling, people are busy. Should it surprise me the way you have time to figure out how people are not remembering you?

Some people can carry so much, still work, chill with friends, go to the beach, parties and still be full of energy for work the next morning. More Grace to them.
Others can be distracted and break down by just thinking about chilling with friends, like the chilling haven’t even started yet. We aren’t programmed the same way.
The fact that you can still reach out doesn’t mean the other person is intentionally not reaching out. It could be that this person already knows his capabilities and what his mind could handle. We are wired differently.

For others, doing so much could deplete the energy they need for other commitments they make. It could rob them of the time and energy needed to fulfil what’s really important at the moment.
Whatever we do, we need to focus on the energy level God has given us, so we don’t lose out, feeling like we could carry on the weight of the world.
Each of us can only do so much and none of us can be all things to people. Remember that it is impossible for anyone to function effectively at the crisis level, know yourself.

According to Blaine Smith, God wants us to live energetically, yet within our physical and psychological limits—to be good stewards of our life. So, whatever choice you make, do it based on your capabilities.

I’ll not fail to add that relationships are important, and it is not advisable to toss people away because of some certain things you want done.
We all know the friends who are really friends. The ones we can make plans towards, the plans you can handle anyway.
It’s not weak to make plans to reach your friends, even if it’s a schedule or roaster. You’re strong enough to not be limited by your capabilities, you’ve found a way to beat your weaknesses.
If you can’t always meet up with plans, don’t beat yourself up, you can try again.

Be more appreciative of people when they reach out, you don’t own their time. I don’t own yours, you don’t own mine. If I’ve given you my time, it’s something I’ve thought about very well, weighing the gains and losses. I’ve probably tossed some things out of my schedule to make it possible, so when the meeting finally happens, let’s help build ourselves without pointing fingers.
We’ll get better.

Remember, I’m available for discussions.
Send me a message via my email address, anytime.
Thank you!

I love you, and God loves you even better.
Keep basking in God’s Love.

@just.idara

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