“We don’t have any money,” says Cheater.

It was never about the lack of money.

The point about saying that you are without money is that they are uninterested in spending money on you and your needs. Their desires and wishes are worth spending on but NOT yours. For some, this includes the needs of the kids as well.

Cheaters are extremely selfish.

I wonder how many of us, faithful spouses, got some sort of talk about being frugal only to learn our Cheater was blowing the family money on illicit activities.

Of course, they never saw it that way.  It was “their money.”

That is another thing about marriage vows that is lost on many Cheaters. They fail to grasp that marrying makes the money shared assets. That is part of what joining together as one means. It is part of the traditional vows to acknowledge this.

But are we really surprised?

Cheaters do selfish things. They are poor at living up to the demanding parts of the marriage vows. Why wouldn’t we think this deficit of character extends to the finances as well?!