How to return to church after a long absence
As a Christian, attending church is an essential part of your faith journey. Church provides you with a sense of community and spiritual guidance.
However, for various reasons, you may fall out of the habit of attending church regularly. The longer you stay away, the more challenging it can be to return to church.
You may feel ashamed, disconnected, or even unworthy of attending church.
This article identifies the various reasons for not attending church. It then guides you on how to overcome the challenges of returning after an extended absence.
Acknowledge your reasons for not going to church
There are various reasons why people may stop attending church, but identifying these reasons is the first step toward addressing them.
Personal reasons can range from feeling disconnected from the church community to struggling with your doubts or personal conflicts.
Did you have a negative experience with a church leader? Did you feel unwelcomed by a particular congregation? Do you feel that your current church is not meeting your spiritual needs? Are you struggling with doubts and questions about your faith?
Meanwhile, external reasons could include work schedules, family obligations, or living in a new location.
Did you just move into the city and are struggling to find a church that aligns with your values? Do you feel overwhelmed by the process of finding a new church home? Or do you have work or family obligations that make it challenging to attend services regularly?
Aside from personal and external reasons, however, the Covid-19 pandemic may have also played a role in your decision not to attend church.
Many churches have adapted by offering virtual services or hybrid options. However, others may still be hesitant to attend in-person services. This is due to safety concerns.
Because of this, are you struggling with transitioning from at-home worship to in-person worship?
Find in yourself the answers to these questions. Acknowledging these concerns is the first step towards coming back.
Participate in the sacrament of reconciliation
Once you have acknowledged your concerns, the sacrament of reconciliation is an excellent option that can help you return to church. This sacrament is a powerful way to reconcile with both God and the community.
When you confess your sins, you are asking for God’s forgiveness. Moreover, you are also acknowledging the impact of your actions on the wider community.
The pastor acts as a representative of both God and the community. He will be the one to offer you forgiveness and the opportunity to heal any relationships that may have been damaged by your actions.
Moreover, this sacrament allows us to let go of our past mistakes and embrace a new beginning in our faith journey.
Like the Prodigal Son who returned home after a long absence, God and the Church will celebrate your return with joy and open arms.
Seek a church that allows you freedom at your own pace
Freedom is essential if you’re seeking to return to church. This is because it allows you to explore and express your spirituality in a way that feels authentic to you.
When you have the freedom to explore your beliefs and interests without fear of judgment or rejection, you are more likely to develop a deep and meaningful relationship with your faith.
For many, returning to church after a long absence can be daunting.
For example, you may have been told in the past that certain beliefs or practices are unacceptable. This has then led you to feel that you don’t fit in or that your spirituality isn’t valid.
However, if you find a church that allows you to explore without disapproving looks, it can be a transformative experience.
Moreover, seek a church that allows you to return at your own pace.
Remember that your level of involvement in a church community is entirely up to you.
Churches often rely on the financial and volunteer support of their members. So, you may feel pressure to get involved right away.
However, it is essential to seek a church that allows you to tread at your own pace and avoid over-committing.
Find a church that will understand that because you’re still trying to adjust, starting slow and easing into church activities is a good way to begin.
As you become more familiar with the community, it’s at this time that they can change or expand your involvement, but only when you’re ready.
Make your worship God-centered
Returning to church after a long absence can be overwhelming. But making your worship God-centered can make the transition smoother.
It’s important to remember that worship is not about you, but about God. When you focus on giving glory to God, you can experience a deeper connection with Him and with your community of faith.
The Trinity, consisting of God the Father, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit, is the central focus of your worship.
While it is okay to ask questions and seek understanding, you should approach worship with a humble heart. Recognize that as someone who’s been away, you may not understand everything at first.
However, pray and trust in God to mold your heart and help you to worship Him with sincerity and reverence.
Bring a buddy to return to church
While you can go alone, you can invite someone to come to church with you. This way, you can make the experience less intimidating and more enjoyable.
Having a friend or family member with you can provide a sense of comfort and familiarity. You can discuss your thoughts and feelings about the service and the experience together.
It is also easier to decide to return to church when you know you won’t be going alone.
Moreover, as you’re with a buddy, don’t be shy and try to engage in conversation with members of the congregation.
Introduce yourself and ask questions, such as about the church’s ministries or events.
You might find that you share common interests or experiences with others in the church. This can help you feel more at home.
Return to church
It can be daunting to take that first step to return to church. But it is worth the effort to find a church that feels like home.
Note, however, that the process of returning to church is a personal journey. It requires patience, openness, and courage.
Therefore, it is important to remember that there are no perfect churches. This means finding a church that aligns with your beliefs and values may take some time.
It is okay to explore different churches and denominations until you find the right fit.
Besides, it is also important to remember that your church attendance should not be motivated by guilt or obligation.
Rather, it should be by your desire to deepen your faith in God and connect with other believers.
If you are unsure where to start even with these tips, consider talking to a trusted friend or family member who attends church. You can also reach out to a local pastor.
Moreover, many churches also offer online services and resources.
Ultimately, returning to church can be a transformative experience. It offers spiritual growth, community support, and a sense of belonging.
However, remember to approach the process with an open mind and heart. Trust in God’s guidance as you take steps to return to church.
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