Pro-Tip: Cheater attendance does not mean the affair is over! - Divorce Minister
Just because a cheater has agreed to see a Christian counselor or pastor to work on the marriage does not necessarily mean the cheater has ended the affair.
It boggles my mind to think a cheater would attend Christian marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor while secretly continuing to cheat. But it happens!
I know of several situations where this happened. And I bet more readers of the blog could share their own horror stories confirming this awful phenomenon.
-Surely, someone who attends marriage counseling wouldn’t continue committing adultery?
-Surely, they understand that they are sabotaging the effort by doing so and wasting everyone’s time?
-Surely, a spouse could not be that cold-hearted and cruel towards his or her partner as to give them false hope?
Some cheaters are that cruel.
Some cheaters have no problem cheating through the whole time with the pastor and Christian counselor never the wiser.
Some cheaters see attending these sessions as another avenue to lash out at their partners and blame-shift upon them for the marriage’s end.
For someone who wants to believe in people’s best intentions, it may be shocking to realize these things. It may be difficult to realize that not everyone who attends marriage counseling is there to heal their marriage.
Some have more nefarious purposes like managing their images while attacking their partner verbally under the guise of helping the faithful partner “own their issues.”
Be wise, pastors:
*A version of this post ran previously.
