The counsel of the wicked - Divorce Minister

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Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
Nor stands in the path of sinners,
Nor sits in the seat of the scornful….

-Psalm 1:1, NKJV

They were a group of people that my (now ex) wife had tapped to decide the fate of our marriage, essentially. Of course, they were poisoned against me and the marriage. So, they really were just there to run interference.

From a comment the other day on the blog, I learned this practice was not unique to me. It shouldn’t surprise me. The demonic playbook is far from original.

While I applaud finding sound counsel and listening to godly counsel, I frown upon outsourcing major life decisions to anyone. You have to live with the decision if you get it wrong. NOT the pastor who counseled you to endure more adulterous abuse, for example.

Ultimately, the ungodly counsel given to my (now ex) wife helped pave the way to the ending of my first marriage. They were a “good” foil “protecting” her from facing her own sin and repenting. Some people really double down on the path to destruction, sadly.

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