No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. -Matthew 6:24, NIV Always Calculating THEIR “Deal!” One dynamic with Cheaters is how they approach relationships. The marriage is simply … Continue reading "Always calculating THEIR deal!"
What should a spouse do when there is infidelity in marriage? This short post will show you my response to a question from a lady who had extra marital affairs many years ago and have kept it from her husband. She wanted to know what she should do about the situation because her peace had […]
We all have fantasies… The things we dream of… The possessions we wish we had… The actions we wish to perform. Some fantasies are good and harmless while others are really dark. A man fantasizing about having a billion dollars is a harmless fantasy as long as he doesn’t plan on getting it through criminal …
This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19, NIV Family Rule: Keep up appearances! I wonder how many of us, faithful spouses, married into families where appearances were of the utmost importance. Our Cheaters were conditioned from the earliest … Continue reading "Family Rule: Keeping up appearances"
“I’m being faithful to God,” says Cheater. “Sounds like you believe that,” replies faithful spouse knowing otherwise. I don’t miss arguing over reality with my Cheater. Those were crazy-making experiences. She would attempt to force her will on me to agree to a certain narrative. It was a power struggle. I am glad those days … Continue reading "“Sounds like you believe that.”"
“I think it’s best for both of us if we live apart.” -Cheater Cheaters saying this is speaking for both parties to serve their own nefarious agenda–i.e. unfettered access to cheat. Strange how Cheaters get to decide for the whole couple what is best! They did not ask but rather told their partner what is … Continue reading "Cheater-Speak: “I think it is best….”"
Research has consistently shown that infidelity ranks among the leading causes of divorce worldwide. Infidelity, in all its forms, is universally regarded as a grave sin, condemned by every major belief system and societal norm. Its consequences are nothing short of devastating. When infidelity rears its ugly head, it places the victim in an unsafe …
Why Do Women Cheat On Their Perfect Husbands?
45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. -Luke 6:45, NIV Cheating is the manifestation of what the Cheater stored up in … Continue reading "Whatever they stored up…."
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading "Adultery is truly evil!"
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading "Blinding Arrogance and Contempt"
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading "First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong"
Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT I am a firm believer that injustice must first be acknowledged before we can heal from it. This step is often skipped in … Continue reading "Skipping over the injustice part"
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your Cheater? These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior. They are–again–protecting themselves at the cost of caring … Continue reading "Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”"
Ever have your Cheater offer to end the affair on their own? I mean that they offer to tell the Affair Partner privately–without you–that it is over. That offer is not worth much. You are taking the word of a liar who has demonstrated a willingness and ability to carry on a double-life. “Receipts” are … Continue reading "Gonna end it on own, really?!"
But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. -John 3:21, NIV Graphic pictures of compromising behavior seems to be almost needed to convince some pastors and Christians that a spouse is violating their … Continue reading "HUNDREDS of texts is NOT innocent!"
Faithful Spouse: Who is he then? Cheater: A friend. Can’t I have friends? This is a common cheater ploy. They attempt to minimize the nature of their relationship with the affair partner. He (or she) is presented as “a friend.” Then they might go on the offensive accusing the faithful spouse of attempting to cut … Continue reading "Cheater-Speak: “He’s a friend.”"
An emotional affair? How can you tell? When does it cross the line? Cheaters are infamous for admitting to an emotional affair before or instead of a physical affair. Because pastors and others are poor at holding them accountable for their own actions, this opens the door for them to blame–essentially–the faithful spouse for such … Continue reading "Emotional Affair? When does it cross the line?"
When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.” – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading "Hosea Exception, NOT Rule!"
He went on: “What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery…. -Mark 7:20-22a, NIV Cheating does not “just happen.” Even those cheating events that happen with alcohol involved are evidence of what is already in the … Continue reading "Decisions made to cheat"