How a Woman’s Need for Security Can Turn into Control Creating Disunity in Marriage
Showing that you trust that man to address your concerns will help that man to do what needs to be done more quickly than control.
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Russelyn Williams
David Derksen
Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy! - Divorce Minister
Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy! When we forgive, we do not forget. The experiences we have had stay with us–especially the hard ones. Few things are harder than discovering your spouse cheated on you! I am sure I will carry the technicolor memory of my ex-wife quasi-confessing her cheating on Thanksgiving Eve 2012 for the … Continue reading "Forgiveness is NOT a lobotomy!"
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Avoid using your Cheater's therapist! - Divorce Minister
Public Service Announcement: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling! One of my many mistakes with my first marriage’s demise was agreeing to see my (now ex) wife’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling. The therapist and her had worked with each other for months, if not years, by that point. I knew … Continue reading "Avoid using your Cheater’s therapist!"
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Built up negative marriage fantasy - Divorce Minister
“Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say.” -John 8:43, NIV “When he [the devil] speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it. But because I tell the truth, you do not believe Me.” -John … Continue reading "Built up negative marriage fantasy"
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"Bitter" used to discredit and dismiss - Divorce Minister
See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. See that no one is sexually immoral…. -Hebrews 12:15-16a, NIV I am troubled. What bothers me is how the word “bitter” is used to discredit and silence victims of adultery. … Continue reading "“Bitter” used to discredit and dismiss"
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Resource on healing - "Rightly Assigning Blame" - Divorce Minister
“The crux of the teaching is that the foundation of all abuse is the misassignment of responsibility. So the abuse victim accepts that assignment of responsibility as being theirs.” -Bob Hamp in Episode 277: What the Healing Journey Looks Like, Flying Free Podcast, page 6 (transcript). Last week, I taught a group on the subject … Continue reading "Resource on healing — “Rightly Assigning Blame”"
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9 Simple Phrases That Can Strengthen Your Marriage Every Day - Olubunmi Mabel
Words are powerful. Words can build up or tear down. Words can bring people closer together or drive them apart. In marriage, words hold a special weight and have the power to shape our relationship. Maintaining a strong marriage takes effort, communication, and a lot of love. While there’s more to communication than just words, …
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9 Signs Your Marriage Is Lacking Intimacy - Olubunmi Mabel
Signs Your Marriage Is Lacking Intimacy
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Revive Our Hearts
3 Things to Consider before You Pick Another Fight
If a gravitational pull toward contentiousness lives in your heart, here are three things to consider before you pick a fight with your husband.
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Whatever they stored up.... - Divorce Minister
45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. -Luke 6:45, NIV Cheating is the manifestation of what the Cheater stored up in … Continue reading "Whatever they stored up…."
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Cheater-Speak: "We drifted apart." - Divorce Minister
“We just drifted apart,” says Cheater. This is probably one of the lamer excuses a Cheater might give for their behavior. Like ships on the ocean of life, this metaphor suggests the tides of time simply separated the couple. In other words, the excuse serves to blame external circumstances. Is it possible to “drift apart” … Continue reading "Cheater-Speak: “We drifted apart.”"
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First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong - Divorce Minister
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading "First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong"
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Hannah
The four horsemen in your relationship
Ephesians 4:2:"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."You have probably come across the story of the four horsemen of the apocalypse in various forms, like books, movies, or discussions about the end of the world. This story originates from the Bible, particularly the Book...
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Putting God at the center of your relationship is a need
Ecclesiastes 4:12:"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."As you step into this new relationship, you feel a rush of passion and excitement. Everything seems brighter and more vibrant with your partner by your side. The highs are higher, and...
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Via Valenzuela
Are you settling for less in your relationships?
As followers of Christ, we value relationships highly and base them on the values and love of God. However, there are moments when we might find ourselves settling for less than what God really wants for us—without even realizing it. Let us explore this subject and learn to accept God's...
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Is it love? Or is your relationship a sham?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7:"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the...
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Does "the one" really exist?
Psalm 37:4:"Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." You are just a regular single Christian, and you have got this solid belief in fate. It is like you think every bit of your life, including love, is predestined. In your heart, you...
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Is your relationship with God flourishing or faltering?
Our relationship with God is something that is significant in our lives. Like the beating of our soul, it keeps us rooted and resilient. How is your relationship with God going? Together, let us dive in and solve it.Signs of a flourishing relationship with GodLet us start with the positives:...
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Exploring love and faith: Is intimacy reserved for marriage?
In Christian life, love and faith are deeply connected. Today, we delve into a vital question: Is intimacy meant only for marriage? Intimacy is a unique connection involving our body, soul, and emotions. Although it is a gift, when and how should we give it to others? This concerns our...
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