My secular divorce lawyer - Divorce Minister

I look back and see how someone who was not part of the evangelical subculture could see things so much clearer.

She was not taken in by my ex-wife’s manipulations and maneuvers. Even though I did not feel like celebrating, she congratulated me on my divorce. Now, I am grateful for that merciful divorce as it paved the way to my current blessed life with Mrs. DM and Munchkin.

My point is to find a good lawyer when going through a divorce. A secular lawyer is fine. In fact, they might see things clearer than a “faith-based” lawyer from the evangelical subculture!

Yes "....at just the right time" - Divorce Minister

You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. -Romans 5:6, NIV “At just the right time” I think we are conditioned as a species to think the “right time” is when we are able to “save ourselves.” We think that is when a partnership with God is appropriate. … Continue reading "Yes “….at just the right time”"

Jul 22, 20252 min read

David Derksen

Cheater Still Blaming Spouse - Divorce Minister

“Sure, I cheated in the past. But I sorted that with my individual therapist. We agreed my emotional affair was really just a symptom of my marriage problems,” says Cheater. So much of the pastoral or other Christian counseling is biased towards “saving” the marriage. This bias can lead to the pastor glossing over a … Continue reading "Cheater Still Blaming Spouse"

Jul 18, 20252 min read

David Derksen

A Powerful Quote About Trauma - Divorce Minister

This past week I was blessed to spend time up at a cabin in Northern Minnesota. It was a wonderful time of memory making and relaxation with family. When I was driving back home yesterday, I was listening to an audio book. In particular, I am going through When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your … Continue reading "A Powerful Quote About Trauma"

Jul 17, 20251 min read

David Derksen

Expectations: Model Christian Divorcee - Divorce Minister

“’I am innocent, but it makes no difference to me— I despise my life. Innocent or wicked, it is all the same to God. That’s why I say, ‘He destroys both the blameless and the wicked.’” -Job 9:21-22, NLT Ever noticed the pressure among Christians to talk about “our part” when our marriages end in divorce–even … Continue reading "Expectations: Model Christian Divorcee"

Jul 16, 20252 min read

David Derksen

11 Years of Divorce Minister Blog! - Divorce Minister

Today is the blog’s “birthday.” It’s hard to believe how fast time has flown! I launched this online ministry eleven years ago today with the hope to address a gap in resources for faithful spouses. What I experienced when I went through my own divorce from my Cheater was the absence of solid pastoral resources … Continue reading "11 Years of Divorce Minister Blog!"

Jul 11, 20251 min read

My Beautiful Life of Brave Decisions - Bravester

Brave faith decisions can lead to a joyful and beautiful life. Be inspired to live beyond fear and choose growth through God’s faithfulness.

Jul 22, 20256 min read

Sharon Jaynes

When You Feel Worn Out

I was so tired. I felt so empty. Ministering had worn me out. We’re all ministering to someone: toddlers, teens, parents, friends, co-workers, and the list goes on. On this day I was traveling to teach a group of women in another state, wondering if I had anything left to give. Have you ever felt that way? Read more...

Jul 22, 20254 min read