Does "the one" really exist?

Psalm 37:4:

"Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart." 


You are just a regular single Christian, and you have got this solid belief in fate. It is like you think every bit of your life, including love, is predestined. In your heart, you hold onto the concept of "the one," a soulmate chosen for you by God.

You picture scenarios where this destined partner might pop up. Maybe they will bump into you on the street, snag the seat next to you at church, or take your coffee order. You are sort of waiting, hopeful that fate will roll out this chance encounter that connects you with your destined person.

Yet, amidst these beliefs, a question lingers – does "the one" truly exist? You grapple with this uncertainty, wondering if your expectations are rooted in faith or if you are searching for a connection that may be elusive in the vast complexity of human relationships.

The Bible does not explicitly mention the concept of a "soulmate" or "the one" in the way it is often discussed today. 

Instead, it emphasizes the importance of seeking God's will, trusting Him, and relying on His guidance in all aspects of life, including relationships. 

His plan is perfect, even when it might not align with your schedule. Sometimes, waiting for the right person takes time, and during this waiting period, your trust in God grows stronger. Trusting His timing means believing that He knows the best moment for love to unfold in your life.

Take, for instance, the story of Abraham and Sarah. They had to wait a long time for a child, but in God's perfect timing, Isaac was born. Trusting God's plan led to the fulfillment of His promise. Another example is Ruth and Boaz. Ruth trusted in God's timing and followed Naomi's guidance. In His perfect plan, Ruth and Boaz's paths crossed, leading to a beautiful love story.

You have the choice to be active or passive in your search for love. Being active means actively seeking and engaging in opportunities to meet potential partners, while being passive involves letting things happen naturally without actively pursuing a relationship. The debate over these two options centers around whether you should take control of your love life or let fate guide you.

Some argue that being active allows you to have a more direct role in finding a partner and taking charge of your destiny. On the other hand, proponents of being passive believe that love will find you when the time is right, emphasizing trust in God's plan and timing.

Regardless of the debate, when God gives you signs and points you toward a person, it is a prompt for you to make a choice. 

This choice involves recognizing the guidance He provides and taking intentional steps to pursue a relationship with the person He seems to be leading you toward. 

If you choose to actively pursue your search for love, keep in mind 2 Corinthians 6:14. This verse advises believers not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, emphasizing the importance of shared values and faith in a relationship. When actively seeking a partner, align your choices with the principles outlined in the Bible to ensure a strong foundation for a lasting and meaningful connection.

Ultimately, trust that as you actively or passively engage in the pursuit of love, God's hand is guiding your steps.

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    I'm a Christian who sees the church as my second home. Not only were my parents the ones who raised me, but our church elders and members also played a significant role. However, despite attending church every Sunday, I still have some questions regarding my faith. As a writer, the articles I create serve as answers to the questions I've had and continue to have, and I hope they can serve a purpose for others who are searching for the same answers.

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